21/11 Dagon Club: The Diyas and the Bomb - Page 30

Originally posted by: swaggerchick16

huh?? wht does tht supposed to mean dude/dudette

Aarti's self-loathing – portrayed as insensitive and bullying attitude towards Yash!

Aarti wants to relieve herself from the feelings of guilt-n-repulsion at lying to Yash re: P and surreptitiously permitting Ansh to undergo the BMT procedure. She is a prisoner of her conscience and cannot face herself or Yash - particularly when he so exceedingly kind and loving towards her. Regardless of her belief and trust that God understands her thoughts and actions - deeply embedded in Aarti's subconscious mind is a self-loathing for abetting with the Dupeys. This self-loathing is brought to the forefront (read her conscious mind) whenever she is with Yash. In fact, until Aarti discloses her P and BMT secrets to Yash, her self-loathing will be part of the background to her interactions with Yash. How long can she sustain this charade where she cannot live with her conscience and/or live up to Yash's expectations of trust in a relationship? She knows and believes that Yash values and loves her but she just does not feel worthy of it! Aarti needs to maintain her trust in Yash – that he will understand her and that if she opens up to him together they can make the best choice for them and the Dupeys. Her feelings of inadequacy and the brainwashing of the Dupeys are hampering her from acknowledging his trust in her.

Deep down Aarti knows she is betraying Yash but she has been brainwashed into keeping Yash in the dark about P-n-BMT, so her subconscious mind knows that it's "only a matter of time" before Yash discovers "the truth" about her. So how does she deal with these disturbing thoughts - by behaving in an insensitive and bullying manner with Yash. She is trying to deflect situations where she needs to vocalize her gratitude, love, and care towards Yash by grasping on to straws…………………..err firecrackers. Her thank you at the surprises (kandil and diyas) lacks enthusiasm and a "genuine" smile. She would rather run away than reveal her "true nature" (read current misdemeanor) – so she jokes about his weakness and acts insensitive with a bully attitude. She is not projecting her self-loath – she is silently appealing to his astuteness-n-goodness to see through that which she is unable to articulate and understand her angst (at being repeatedly blackmailed by the Dupeys) and despite her flaws see the innate kindness of her soul. In my POV, all of Aarti's actions and words towards Yash are an expression of love or a call for love.

When a child feels ignored or neglected and unloved because Mommy is spending more time with his/her siblings and the child acts out, it is not because he/she is evil or bad. It is because he/she wants to get Mumma's attention and love; but doesn't know how to ask for it appropriately, so he/she goes about asking for it in a confused, violent, aggressive way. It is a call for love, and the best response Mumma can give to her child is to be understanding, compassionate, forgiving and loving, not angry, abrasive and punishing. Similarly Aarti in her self-loath is feeling, abandoned, unloved and unappreciated, so she is acting out with the one she loves, Yash –seeking his attention and help. Rather than saying, "I'm feeling insecure. I need your attention. I need your love. I need a hug, to open up and share my burden" she is being insensitive and with a bully attitude asking him to light firecrackers!!

All right folks – that's it from me!!!

@anonee: great table.

Originally posted by: AngelDark

It's dude! It means I'm looking at this.

https://changingminds.org/explanations/behaviors/bullying/types_bullying.htm

as I am undecided.😛

Originally posted by: thechoice

Oh my lord!!!! was just reading the takes back to front and found out that Aarti is being called a bully!!!! Come on people, she is no bully. That much fun is allowed between a wife and a husband. Aarti is the one being bullied by one and all 99% of the time so if she enjoys a little bit with her husband who shares her sense humor then why not???

And regarding her lack of enthusiasm: she is going through so much stress...how enthusiastic and happy can you be????

Regarding her not telling Yash - after all that she went through with Yash and after all she had gone through in her life, I dont blame her.

I think she is one brave woman who is trying to make the best of everything...hats off to her. It takes a lot of courage to do the right thing while making a seemingly wrong decision...life is not always black and white...there are shades of grey too. Its all very good to be righteous and say she should do this and that but thats easier said than done. We all know that Yash is trustworthy and will probably help Aarti through it all but Aarti doesnt know that...we just have to look at him through her eyes and experience before judging her.

I think the story tellers are doing a beautiful job of showing real life in reel life!!!!!

Originally posted by: swaggerchick16

OMG u're a dude finally a guy!! hehe ooo i can see y u're cvonfused but me no gonna read out all of tht sorry😆