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Here is my piecemeal take from various responses to people.
Prashant is such an idiot. It is not his "naseeb" that he is in this situation today, but very much a state of affairs that he created with his conscious choices made out of free will. But clearly he is an expert at finding ways to pity himself as though he is some kind of victim in this whole thing. I love the play on selfless/selfish in his character where he sent the Dubeys to Aarti's house thinking he has done some mahaan work, but then falls weak, when Yash asks him to come along, at the idea of seeing Ansh on Diwali, probably. The great Prashant paradox, right there. As for the precap, poor Aarti! But then she was the one that pushed Yash into lighting a bomb! If she doesn't bhugtofy it, who will?
Aarti is going to feel terrible because if she hadn't made a big deal of it, the kids would never have known that Yash was scared of lighting crackers. She got totally carried away in her new equation with Yash, where she can freely poke fun at him and made him look scared in front of the kids. That wouldn't have mattered at all, and it probably still won't matter to Yash too much other than a light bruise to his pride, since he doesn't even know who Prashant is, but if the comparison comes out of Ansh's mouth between Prashant and Yash in Prashant's favour, there is only one person it is going to hurt acutely... and that is Aarti.
You know, I was actually kind of irritated with her today. I thought she was being a little mean to Yash when she was making fun of him about the crackers. If she likes crackers that is great, but why should she question his superman status with the kids because he doesn't? That was a sensitive nerve and she really didn't have to take it as far as to "test" him in front of the kids. I don't know. That whole idea of hers didn't rub me the right way and so, with my mean streak coming out in turn, I was kind of glad she got the reality check of Prashant coming in front of her. This is exactly what she needed to realise that she can't control everything, that she can make fun of Yash's fears all she wants but she is hardly the fearless one here just because she is not afraid of a laxmi bomb.
I have been with Aarti all the way through this ordeal, but the way she made fun of Yash today really didn't go well with me. I thought she took it too far and was kind of insensitive.
I am not against the idea of what Aarti did, that is poking fun at Yash about being afraid of crackers, but she did more than that. What bothered me more than the idea of Aarti making fun of Yash was how far she took the whole thing. If she had stopped at, I know you well enough to see that you are scared, and laughed about it, I would have been totally fine. It was the whole "test" thing that really rankled. So he is scared of crackers, and it's kind of ridiculous in a man of his size and disposition, but instead of just poking some fun at him and passing a few funny remarks in front of the family, she goaded him into bursting a bomb, putting his pride and his image in front of his kids at stake, making him feel as though he had to prove something to them. That was not cool at all, and is the same tendency that bothered me about her behaviour in Mumbai, pushing Yash into something he is not ready for or happy about. Why the insistence to put Yash in a position that makes him so uncomfortable? Mumbai was still defensible because at that point what made Yash uncomfortable was anything that made him forget to mourn Arpita for 5 seconds and Aarti was trying to get him out of that funk. But now?
I understand that from Aarti's perspective it was just good fun, but we have seen how their wavelengths on that don't match from Mumbai. Such actions can easily be mistaken for manipulation by Yash, and as he said clearly to Shobha today, he learned to emotionally blackmail from Aarti! I am so sensitive about this in the context of the story because Yash takes these things seriously. Aarti was the one who made him Superman, as he himself has said, and in his eyes she can just as easily take it away. So he is willing to do what it takes to keep his title with her and the kids, but as he clearly said to Shobha, he is not unaware that he is being coaxed into things he doesn't want to do by Aarti, through not so wholesome means!
Again, it all comes down to the fact that Aarti has to understand how important her words are to other people. Just because she says them flippantly, it doesn't mean that other people read them that way. Today she made Yash feel like he had something to prove to her and the kids, though she only intended it in fun, and in the hope that Yash would join them in bursting crackers. What bothered me most was how she put him on the spot, all by himself, with everyone that mattered most to him watching him be his most vulnerable. How would that feel to the fundamental alpha-Yash? Why couldn't Aarti have said they would do it together, instead of putting him on the spot and then making him look like an idiot in front of the whole family? There was something not quite wholesome about the whole thing to me... and I wonder if it is a defense mechanism, the more she fears revealing her true self to Yash, the more she swings in the opposite direction, acting confident and dominating to his face.
Prashant is such an idiot. It is not his "naseeb" that he is in this situation today, but very much a state of affairs that he created with his conscious choices made out of free will. But clearly he is an expert at finding ways to pity himself as though he is some kind of victim in this whole thing. I love the play on selfless/selfish in his character where he sent the Dubeys to Aarti's house thinking he has done some mahaan work, but then falls weak, when Yash asks him to come along, at the idea of seeing Ansh on Diwali, probably. The great Prashant paradox, right there. As for the precap, poor Aarti! But then she was the one that pushed Yash into lighting a bomb! If she doesn't bhugtofy it, who will?
Aarti is going to feel terrible because if she hadn't made a big deal of it, the kids would never have known that Yash was scared of lighting crackers. She got totally carried away in her new equation with Yash, where she can freely poke fun at him and made him look scared in front of the kids. That wouldn't have mattered at all, and it probably still won't matter to Yash too much other than a light bruise to his pride, since he doesn't even know who Prashant is, but if the comparison comes out of Ansh's mouth between Prashant and Yash in Prashant's favour, there is only one person it is going to hurt acutely... and that is Aarti.
You know, I was actually kind of irritated with her today. I thought she was being a little mean to Yash when she was making fun of him about the crackers. If she likes crackers that is great, but why should she question his superman status with the kids because he doesn't? That was a sensitive nerve and she really didn't have to take it as far as to "test" him in front of the kids. I don't know. That whole idea of hers didn't rub me the right way and so, with my mean streak coming out in turn, I was kind of glad she got the reality check of Prashant coming in front of her. This is exactly what she needed to realise that she can't control everything, that she can make fun of Yash's fears all she wants but she is hardly the fearless one here just because she is not afraid of a laxmi bomb.
I have been with Aarti all the way through this ordeal, but the way she made fun of Yash today really didn't go well with me. I thought she took it too far and was kind of insensitive.
I am not against the idea of what Aarti did, that is poking fun at Yash about being afraid of crackers, but she did more than that. What bothered me more than the idea of Aarti making fun of Yash was how far she took the whole thing. If she had stopped at, I know you well enough to see that you are scared, and laughed about it, I would have been totally fine. It was the whole "test" thing that really rankled. So he is scared of crackers, and it's kind of ridiculous in a man of his size and disposition, but instead of just poking some fun at him and passing a few funny remarks in front of the family, she goaded him into bursting a bomb, putting his pride and his image in front of his kids at stake, making him feel as though he had to prove something to them. That was not cool at all, and is the same tendency that bothered me about her behaviour in Mumbai, pushing Yash into something he is not ready for or happy about. Why the insistence to put Yash in a position that makes him so uncomfortable? Mumbai was still defensible because at that point what made Yash uncomfortable was anything that made him forget to mourn Arpita for 5 seconds and Aarti was trying to get him out of that funk. But now?
I understand that from Aarti's perspective it was just good fun, but we have seen how their wavelengths on that don't match from Mumbai. Such actions can easily be mistaken for manipulation by Yash, and as he said clearly to Shobha today, he learned to emotionally blackmail from Aarti! I am so sensitive about this in the context of the story because Yash takes these things seriously. Aarti was the one who made him Superman, as he himself has said, and in his eyes she can just as easily take it away. So he is willing to do what it takes to keep his title with her and the kids, but as he clearly said to Shobha, he is not unaware that he is being coaxed into things he doesn't want to do by Aarti, through not so wholesome means!
Again, it all comes down to the fact that Aarti has to understand how important her words are to other people. Just because she says them flippantly, it doesn't mean that other people read them that way. Today she made Yash feel like he had something to prove to her and the kids, though she only intended it in fun, and in the hope that Yash would join them in bursting crackers. What bothered me most was how she put him on the spot, all by himself, with everyone that mattered most to him watching him be his most vulnerable. How would that feel to the fundamental alpha-Yash? Why couldn't Aarti have said they would do it together, instead of putting him on the spot and then making him look like an idiot in front of the whole family? There was something not quite wholesome about the whole thing to me... and I wonder if it is a defense mechanism, the more she fears revealing her true self to Yash, the more she swings in the opposite direction, acting confident and dominating to his face.
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