why is anandi the bechaari?

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Nach_Baliye

@Nach_Baliye

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Posted: 13 years ago

#21

Originally posted by: Shreya612
I think jagya stay in haveli .100% after marriage anandi aur jagya ki friendship shiv digest Nahi kar payega and agian create problam in anandi s life.but responsibal just anandi.

A normal woman would never become friends with someone who abused her so much and caused her so much pain for so many years. Anandi would be the stupidest person alive if she became good friends with Jagya, and Shiv even more stupid if he stands aside and doesn't have a problem with it. Jagya has shown time and again how selfish and manipulative he is, what guarantee that he will not try to ruin Anandi's life in future? What will Anandi gain from a friendship with Jagya? Its not like he is dying for her friendship, he was doing just fine in Mumbai, she kept running after him and Gauri trying to do good for them despite everything. However, I will not put it past Anandi to be Jagya's friend after marriage, she is not a normal woman.

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@bips

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Posted: 13 years ago

#22

Stockholm syndrome? Never thought about that. And i dont think it applies. Like someone mentioned before there are a lot of times she goes against ds and jagya but seemingly never the times it is actually important.

In an indian society, women keep hoping that the husband would come back si i could initially understand her difficulty in breaking ties with jagya. But she took it to whole other level. Defending jagya, pleading his case with everyone, giving jagya and gauri marital advice, financing their love nest, standing guard outside their room while they romanced inside etc etc

I think we shouldnt look into some deep logical reason for her behaviour. Its pretty simple. Trp. For some reason ppl love watching doormats. Doormats =good life partner. Thats why anandi is ideal. And thats why shiv seems to be turning into that direction. If your partner is making foolish hurtful decisions without even consulting you, shouldnt you tell them to cut it out?

I just dont like the ad. It is like they think that anandi is some helpless puppet that has been manipulated all this while and this is the first time she is taking a decision for herself. Her big moment. That is so not true. She is plenty assertive, just not in situations that make sense.

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hooked

@hooked

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Posted: 13 years ago

#23

Its silly to think Anandi lives to please and serve her tormentors. She has always shown plenty of steel when it concerned others and went against Dadisa and all the village with nothing stronger than her own logic and firm voice and determination.

How could she have taken care of Asha against the Guruji and her own Sister-in-law's Inlaws ? She even helped them escape. How about the time she publicly dressed down tausa and taisa for the sake of fairness and justice ?

She supported Gauri n Jagya when no one - not even Dadisa wanted to support them. was that to please DS ? - I think not !

These and umpteen more cases prove that Anandi has sufficient steel. Yet her doormat behaviour is quite well displayed all for tRP. Her charcater is shown pretty inconsistent at times. But as the precap promises - this time Shiv was being the noble guy, not the retreating shy one by offering to step aside. And Anandi does come upto the plate to bat and say Jagya caused this mess.

She'll let J have it. She has no love lost for him and she will show him that finally for the very last time. J has tried dancing all around her with stories to DS and Shiv and thought A would cave in for the sake of avoiding a scandal but This time he'll lose.

Go Anandi - I'm glad to see you win !

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Suchi-

@Suchi-

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Posted: 13 years ago

#24

not necessarily, Anandi is the steel now after taking abuse for a LONG time. Yes she has moved on Yes she is strong now..but all the bad decisions she does make is due to that abuse that she had gone through...i.e. to please DS and think that she is beneath them. Her self esteem was VERY VERy low many times.. Its only time and the support of the same family that she had gotten this far.

Its not simple as black and grey but has many shades and layers of complex characteristics as to why Anandi does what she does.

She , as a child was very outspoken so when we see her strong nature, its her intuition and her basic nature thats coming out but the constant programming of DS made her subtle and docile. So the wrong that she did understake while living with J and after that gauri fiasco is cause of that brainwashing.

now she has gotten over it a lot. Its a good thing that she does get over things faster and is not weak like many women who go through similar abuse.

And now that Shiv is with her , she will come out as the shining star she always was meant to be :)

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aparnauma

@GoodDoc_2105

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Posted: 13 years ago

#25

I don't know whther I will ever call Anandi a bechari.

To me she always did things that made her happy and the things that she considered right.

Her happiness rested in the happiness of her loved ones.She always put the happiness of her family members above her happiness not because she is a bechari but it made her happy to see her family happy and the fact that she was the reason for their happiness.

As for beliefs - she never let anybody stop her from doing what she considered as right.

She never sacrificed her beliefs for anything or anybody - not even for her family.

As for marrying Shiv -She agreed to marry him because it made her family happy but now she will agree to marry him because it will make her happy because she is doing the right thing for Shiv and herself.

She would have said Yes to DS's request to marry J if she was a bechari who always did what her family wanted her to do..She said no because it was wrong to say Yes to DS's request.

She continued with her plans despite knowing that DS is not in favour of her marriage with Shiv.

She may not be in love with Shiv yet but she started liking him and she respects him and more importantly trust and undersatnds him.I think respect, trust and understanding are enough to start a married life.