Constructive criticism is not BASHING..!! - Page 14

Originally posted by: MentalExotica

Posting in this forum is more stressful than fun, cos if you're not an obsessed fan you have a MOD sword hanging on your post.

Criticism is not allowed you say? Humor isn't allowed either..

For example

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/iss-pyaar-ko-kya-naam-doon/3158505/birthday-pe-kya-kiya

And just because I am not an obsessed fan I can't wish the guy happy birthday in my own way?

I like him and I appreciate his acting when it's good, but this is ridiculous to a point that I cannot even laugh at it.

So MentalExotica is on a hiatus till she obsesses over actors and then comes back to post.

Originally posted by: nonasi

I wish I had caught this earlier, but better late than never, right? (There were a lot of really good points made here. 😊)

First off, forum lingo in general is a battle in and of itself. There's no justifying a lot of the terminology we see and use here on a regular basis. Unfortunately, tact and decorum don't really seem to have a place here; it's like a free-for-all. 😳 Granted, 'criticism' carries a negative connotation, but that doesn't mean it's invaluable or "bashing." By virtue of being a public forum, IF ensures that you come across various viewpoints.

The main problem, though, is one of ignorance and just plain intolerance for views different from your own. This forum is very reactionary. How else can we explain 6000+ pages? Yes, it is hard to read comments that seem overly negative, especially if you absolutely adored the episode. But, that's where perspective comes in. By allowing yourself to move beyond that initial feeling of discontent over being taken out of your sapnon ki duniya, you learn to appreciate that maybe you did miss something. At the very least, it can help ground you and remind you that this is after all just a TV show and that we all have real lives that need living.

If nothing else, you can always just ignore and remember 'to each their own.' I don't encourage ignorance, not by any means, which is why I would hope that people could at least respect the tenet of freedom of speech -- and that goes both ways.