Are our Elders dreams really a BURDEN for us?

Yes.. i need to ask this...!

gud topic..

Tanu very valid points raised and it is a sensitive issue, where one can understand the needs and desires of both.

Originally posted by: jayanti_dj

gud topic..

well I would say no not a burden but the older gen needs to understand that the new gen has some aspirations...

as for dreams ..they are unlimited ... till yesterday DBs dream was to see nidhi married ..now when she is married she wants to see her wid a baby..once she sees her wid a baby,she would wanna see another baby (if 1st time nidhi has a boy ,she would want a girl ) ... then she would want them to see them gng to school..n it goes on...this is true not just for DB but most of the people her age ..very few are as understanding as BB...

as long a person lives ,he or she would dream.. but there has to be a place where the aspirations of the younger gen and dreams of the older gen meet..

as for DB ,iam neither surprised not angry at what she is doing ..she goes on and on abt something she wants and refuses to understand the word No .. cant help it.

Originally posted by: waves

Tanu very valid points raised and it is a sensitive issue, where one can understand the needs and desires of both.

At every stage in our life we reach cross-roads, where some crucial decisions have to be made. Some may benefit us while others may be taken for the happiness of our near and dear.

While both dreams are to be respected, it is important for both generations to respect one another.

I personally believe that you can not make another person learn from your life or mistakes. Every one has to live and learn.

Originally posted by: waves

Tanu very valid points raised and it is a sensitive issue, where one can understand the needs and desires of both.

At every stage in our life we reach cross-roads, where some crucial decisions have to be made. Some may benefit us while others may be taken for the happiness of our near and dear.

While both dreams are to be respected, it is important for both generations to respect one another.

I personally believe that you can not make another person learn from your life or mistakes. Every one has to live and learn.

good post tanu ...

n NO their dreams r not burden n neither we r selfish ..its all just matter of time ...we do so many things what our elder want us to do ...in fact we have grown up doing things acc to their wish as when we r young n we r not intelligent enough to take decisions on our own ...but when we grow up we can take decisions n try to live life acc to own ...n at that time elders should let young ones go out of their hands so that they can live life acc to their way ...n they should keep their blessings with their children .

Life is like a cycle...where youngster fills the places left by elders ...n elders also should leave their things so that youngsters can come n take the charge ...

In our homes when we go out n ask our dadi / nani to come with us ...they simply refuse n say that humne bahut ghoom liya now its ur time to go n have fun .


but ya in some homes ..elders do find it difficult to leave their places n want to rule till the end ..like some saas who cant let their home rule acc to bahu wishes ..n here conflict arises .
in ktlk situation is same ..DB doesnt want to get retire n want nidhi to still move ahead acc to her wishes ..no matter that she is married now ...which is wrong ...so for me BB was right when he said that its time for them to retire their wishes n let their children live with their wishes 😊

Tanu ji, very thoughtful pov... Liked reading it very much.. I dnt think elders dreams or wishes are burden on gen nxt.. Fact is all dreams & wishes can't be met in real life.. Destiny mein bhi honi chahiye.. Bt there are also gen nxt personal dreams, ambitions wishes etc.. Its a long process, to be honest.. A person can't be ride on luck everyday.. To relate an intetresting topic... just few weeks back Rahul dravid hd come down to Goa.. He said to young lads.. Dnt go to grab every opportunity, set a ur eyes on one thing.. Hv a goal in life... Bcoz trying to statisfy everyone or trying to grab to every opportunity will take u nowhere...

DB's dream is to see a happily settled Nidhi... Its a package... Marriage + children +Good house + wealth...

So nothing wrong in expecting everything for her grand child... need not retire...

But, since DB belongs to the older generation, she has a different definition from Nidhi to achieve the above...

DB would understand if someone (BB should have done that) tells her properly...
We have seen before .. once or twice, when she visited hospital to see Nidhi, she proudly telling others that her grand daughter is a daktarni... that means, though she puts down her naukri on the face, she definitely will be proud if Nidhi achieves something great..😊

Originally posted by: SHIKHA19

good post tanu ...

n NO their dreams r not burden n neither we r selfish ..its all just matter of time ...we do so many things what our elder want us to do ...in fact we have grown up doing things acc to their wish as when we r young n we r not intelligent enough to take decisions on our own ...but when we grow up we can take decisions n try to live life acc to own ...n at that time elders should let young ones go out of their hands so that they can live life acc to their way ...n they should keep their blessings with their children .

Life is like a cycle...where youngster fills the places left by elders ...n elders also should leave their things so that youngsters can come n take the charge ...

In our homes when we go out n ask our dadi / nani to come with us ...they simply refuse n say that humne bahut ghoom liya now its ur time to go n have fun .


but ya in some homes ..elders do find it difficult to leave their places n want to rule till the end ..like some saas who cant let their home rule acc to bahu wishes ..n here conflict arises .
in ktlk situation is same ..DB doesnt want to get retire n want nidhi to still move ahead acc to her wishes ..no matter that she is married now ...which is wrong ...so for me BB was right when he said that its time for them to retire their wishes n let their children live with their wishes 😊