Are our Elders dreams really a BURDEN for us? - Page 2

Originally posted by: ithasme

Tanu ji, very thoughtful pov... Liked reading it very much.. I dnt think elders dreams or wishes are burden on gen nxt.. Fact is all dreams & wishes can't be met in real life.. Destiny mein bhi honi chahiye.. Bt there are also gen nxt personal dreams, ambitions wishes etc.. Its a long process, to be honest.. A person can't be ride on luck everyday.. To relate an intetresting topic... just few weeks back Rahul dravid hd come down to Goa.. He said to young lads.. Dnt go to grab every opportunity, set a ur eyes on one thing.. Hv a goal in life... Bcoz trying to statisfy everyone or trying to grab to every opportunity will take u nowhere...

Very interesting topic, Tanu


Yes, the dreams of our elders are burdens...they are sweet burdens that make life a little more worth living...in a sense, is it not the lack of these burdens that is plaguing Ashutosh...what is life without the expectations of your near and dear...no life is worth living only for yourself...life is a cycle...our elders must have compromised and set aside some of their dreams to fulfill those of their elders and those elders must have done the same too...every generation does this...it is like a legacy that gets passed on...

This is not to say that life has to be lived as per the whims and fancies of the elders alone...every human being has a need, a dream, a desire to fulfill...something that makes life worth the effort...these larger dreams cannot be and should not be sacrificed based on the whims of parents or elders...instead an effort must be made to include them in your dreams..make them share it with you...it is not impossible..it just takes a bit of effort and understanding from both sides...an attitude of it's my life and I will do as I please does not help..it is worth remembering that this life is a legacy that has been handed over to us by our elders which we in turn hand over to the generations to come...so all lives are interlinked and cannot be looked at in isolation...

Talking of DB, her desires are very normal and natural...they are the desires of every grandmother in this world...nothing unusual about them...and I don't think they are clashing with Nidhi's desires either...there is only the small matter of a clashing of timelines...

DB needs to understand that Nidhi's desires are heartfelt and that, like always, they cannot be achieved without DB's support...let Nidhi try telling her that...I bet DB will move heaven and earth to make them come true...her love for Nidhi is pure and selfless...

On Nidhi's part, while the child is purely a personal choice, she needs to understand that the child also embodies joy to her elders...and is their means of seeing life perpetuated, the child is their shot at immortality, their shot at ensuring the perpetuity of their lineage...and many of these elders don't have time on their side...of course life is unpredictable and anything can happen to anyone...but if things went by the natural course, then DB has far lesser time left than Nidhi...keeping all of this in mind, if Nidhi can find ways to accommodate DB's dream within her own, then I think it would be a win-win situation for all!

Both the generation past and the generation are part of us...so, how can something that completes you ever be a burden?

A very good post. Life is a cycle Every one get a chance to make decisions.Elders should not impose their dreams on young ones .Their dreams, aspirations are different and more relevant for their generation and period. DB's idea of a woman's role and happiness is different from current scenario where a woman should be self sufficient . Yes it is hard to ignore your elders but it is important to make them understand without hurting them. you can't change their POV. DBs are the reality and BBs are exceptions.. I agree elders dreams are a burden to youngsters.It is important for elders keep themselves updated and open if they don't want to be ignored.

ur welcome...tanu ji, wow! Rahul dravid is even urs fav... He is Super human of pateince, Endurance etc... 🥳

@luv_kritika.. thanks hun 🤗

Originally posted by: radhika72

A very good post. Life is a cycle Every one get a chance to make decisions.Elders should not impose their dreams on young ones .Their dreams, aspirations are different and more relevant for their generation and period. DB's idea of a woman's role and happiness is different from current scenario where a woman should be self sufficient . Yes it is hard to ignore your elders but it is important to make them understand without hurting them. you can't change their POV. DBs are the reality and BBs are exceptions.. I agree elders dreams are a burden to youngsters.It is important for elders keep themselves updated and open if they don't want to be ignored.

@sujatha.. fab one... 👏 thank u for covering the whole ambit of past present n future..!

Originally posted by: busybee..

Nice post tanu 👏

This is only an extension to what Tanu is asking in this thread...

If elders have got a say or dictate about their children's dreams...children too should have their right to explain their aspirations to their parents...

This show has dealt/ is dealing with the equality between the partners in a age-gap marriage.. Nidhi made Ashutosh understand her POV while giving enough respect to his POV ( she never said no to babies... but she wanted some time..) ..and Ashutosh agreed to it too (relunctantly, nevertheless)...

If you belong to the younger generation, how do you think your parent should have explained you about the pros and cons of your decision at the same time give enough concern to your decision...

If you belong to the older generation, how do you think your child should have listened to you, instead of getting into the age-related outburst , all the while how you should have handled the situation

Sometimes, this get into a serious situation... parent may go on with stamping the child as a rebel or viceversa ... Or sometimes, go into the self pity mode all the while blaming the other