Rituals are not all that important . . .

Roka, Kuldevi ki pooja, Sangeet, Mehendi, Haldi & Saat Phere . . . etc. These rituals are extremely important in Hindu customs - then what about the registered marriages? Those who strongly believe in rituals - why do they prefer registered marriages? Then, according to today's episode (mainly Khushi's insight) every single registered marriage around the globe is fake even if it has been 6 months or 6 years or 26 years - they should be seperated immediately because none of them followed all these rituals. Thus, even if there is pure love - it doesn't matter because these rituals are not complete. Individual's who thought Arnav is wrong - he should have followed the rituals . . . here is a question to you all . . .

Anjali got married to Shyam with all these rituals - what happened to her marriage? Her marriage only consisted of rituals - not pure love.

Payash also followed every single ritual before and after marriage - do they have that bonding between them like Arhi? No, because the rituals are there but the true purity in their love is not there.

Also, there are many marriages around the world that happen with all the required rituals but they end up in a divorce because the true love is mostly absent.

On the other hand;

A simple temple marriage or a registered marriage lasts forever because the bond of pure love that develops between the couple.

My mom told me a true incident about her neighbours in Kolkata:

There was a family with 2 daughters. A family gave the older daughter a marriage proposal but she denied because she liked someone else, the family chose the younger daughter and she agreed. The older daughter's boyfriend did not believe in any rituals so she decided that she will get married without any rituals - they will do a registered marriage. The family decided to get the younger one married first because of what society will think if the older one did a registered marriage (I think they wanted to imply that they did not have enough money for the older daughter's marriage or something). Anyhow, the younger one got married with all the rituals and within 4 months got divorced; whereas, the older one is still married for 25 years.

My mom told me that Arnav is correct according to him - she said LOVE matters a lot. Rituals are important but that does not mean that if you perform all the rituals the love blossoms or becomes pure.

We know why Arnav does not believe all this - still he did get married to her with sindoor and mangalsutra. If the rituals are so important to Khushi - Khushi should have explained it to him properly, not start becoming hyper randomly and creating unnecessary tension (everytime she sees the RadhaKrishna murti).

Today Dadi found out about the pheras because of Khushi and tomorrow the entire family will know.

Anyways, according to Arnav's personality and character - he is correct.

BTW, Khushi still didn't confess in front of Arnav - who did she say it to the great SHYAM. Why is she showing so much attitude? Even after Arnav's strong character - he confessed twice . . .

True Love, hands down!

Originally posted by: KhushiIrani

True Love, hands down!

Let me veer off the topic for a second, I once remembered my nanny telling me a story of a man who was married for 13 years and one day he met a woman and there was a SOUL connection, something he had never experienced before, something that he never thought would happen to him, something that only very few fortunate souls find - and that is TRUE LOVE. The man faced alot of criticism from society but he followed his heart and divorced his wife and married his true love. It's been 26 years now since this man and his true love has been together and they are now in their 70s and it is so amazing to watch them. Indeed, only few are able to find and experience true love.

FOr what it's worth, from my POV, Arnav was COMPLETELY right - the man was following his heart and staying true to himself!

Hi Dear,

First of all let me start of by saying what Ipkknd taught us. Baat sach ya Jhoot ki nahi vishwaas ki hai. I got married in a Gurudwara had a grand wedding 10 years ago. I am married to my jaan the love of my life. Now the way you put it then all the people following any faith or religion can be wrong as well. This is Khushis faith. She is not forcing him but simply saying for this marriage to move forward for me to allow you to touch me this is what I need. It is Arnv who wants to move forward and for that he needs to understand her vishwaas. Otherwise she will and has walked out of his home and life before. I would do the same. No matter how much I loved someone I would walk out because I cannot comprimise on my faith. It makes me who I am.
Now for some people registered maraige may work but for people like me they don't. I not saying they are wrong just for me it's not my way. Also to counter your argument. I know many people who have had beautiful weddings end in divorce but also many that work and work beautifully. I have also seen many marriages done without rituals but also end in divorce or unhappiness. So you can't say one is right or wrong. If Khushi would have given herself to him today maybe ASR would have gotten what he wanted but for Khushi she may have never gotten that fulfillment. Maybe she would have considered what should be the most beautiful night of her life as the biggest mistake.
So what u say may be right for u and some but not right for others.

Originally posted by: barunz_ladylove

well arshi have already performed all the rituals that u mentioned... so in no possible manner their marriage is illegal... just go through my post ! u'll find out

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We r also aware of the rituals you have stated here without even having to read the post. But just because he threw a chuni and it landed on her head is not a roka. Or a bandage on her figure. All these rituals are performed in front of witnesses, hopefully loved ones and friends. For all these rituals mean he could have taken a kele ka chilka and wrapped in around he finger and call in and engagement. These were all sybolisms for the benefits of us viewers to take the story forward. During none or most of these rituals performed were any or both of the people willing to accept that the rituals were being performed and that they wanted this to be a holy union for life.

Exacly.i agree with u .feelings should be considered with much importance. To me this rasms all that r all showoff things..nothing else...

I don't think you understand the importance of rituals. There is a society in which everyone has to live in and the norms of the society have to be followed. I think it is important to have rituals and customs. That is what identifies a person and his way of life.

For once I am not agreeing with you I will create a separate post about what I feel about this...

Originally posted by: uktamil

For once I am not agreeing with you I will create a separate post about what I feel about this...