glad soham was kidnapped

Originally posted by: aathya

if soham would hve not been kidnapd then archana and manav would be together and archana would love them so much

Well I certainly am not happy that Varsha kidnapped Soham. He was always more like a toy for him- if she really loved him she would have done what was the best for HIM rather than what she wanted for herself. That is the true sign of a mother's love. Now see what happened. In her selfishness to keep him close to her, she kept him separated from his family for years. Granted she was mentally ill and obsessed at first, but she did sober down later, did she not? She looks okay to me these days. Due to the lack of education and the environment in which he has been raised (Varsha living with that gangster guy) Soham was just one step away from becoming a criminal! He did become a criminal eventually, got jailed and we do not know if he will get a chance to go back to a normal life again.

Originally posted by: nikitagmc

Well I certainly am not happy that Varsha kidnapped Soham. He was always more like a toy for him- if she really loved him she would have done what was the best for HIM rather than what she wanted for herself. That is the true sign of a mother's love. Now see what happened. In her selfishness to keep him close to her, she kept him separated from his family for years. Granted she was mentally ill and obsessed at first, but she did sober down later, did she not? She looks okay to me these days. Due to the lack of education and the environment in which he has been raised (Varsha living with that gangster guy) Soham was just one step away from becoming a criminal!

And no, please don't tell me that Archana was worse than Varsha and so Soham was better off with Varsha . I know Archana was a bad mother , hehe. :) It's just that I don't believe there is any comparison here- Archana being bad mother doesn't mean Varsha becomes a good mother by default. Nope. BOTH are bad.

Originally posted by: Paytonlee

agree with u 😃

Originally posted by: gemstar

why are you forgetting that archana herself instigated varsha

I know all that Archana and Sulochana have not punished Varsha adequately time and again. But beyond a point, we CANNOT blame them for the decisions she makes in her life. After a point, it is Varsha and only Varsha who is to be blamed. She is not a kid who was moulded such by Archana. She has been shown as selfish and self centered all through. She always tried to get her way with Satish too, mind it, the decisions were always hers only (decision to abort and so on) Archana and Sulo didn't punish her enough for it, that I agree with. But it was always she who initiated it and though Archana and Sulo didn't punish her enough, it was not like they supported or encouraged her in her wrong acts either. I remember Sulo turning her out of the house when she aborted, and that she was always more strict with Varsha when the show started. The first person to be blamed here is not Archana or Sulo but only and only Varsha- she made many wrong decisions in her life on her own, not on instigation. And even if we do blame Archana or Sulo for not punishing her or indirectly encouraging her, or as you say 'pampering her', then still, their mistakes do not exonerate Varsha. They were wrong does not mean Varsha automatically becomes right. No. In that case all 3 are wrong.