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Posted: 13 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: BHAVI1972
The big thing about this episode was to change Parent's mind set. This issue of split family will last until the mind set of aging parents don't change. The moment they think that they are retired and now it is their children's duty to take care of them that is the moment they kill themselves. I have found many parents who think that they can not do certain things because of the age. The common tag line is "Is umra mein hum kya karenge". The moment they utter this line they themselves states that they are burden on themselves and hence reinforce to their kids that they have to take care of them.
It is human trait as long as they have to do something out of their will they give 100% but the moment there is a compulsion in that they start taking back steps.

Also at times those parents have not cared about their parents aswell. So their kids have never seen them taking care of their parents. It is a vicious cycle since that character is not developed in kids at all.
Together people have to change.

Agree with you 100%. I was about to make a post of the same but didn't know how to put it. There are always two sides of a coin. It was a wonderful episode. I loved it. For me it was 10/10. But I just wished that somewhere Aamir had mentioned that how manyof these parents had taken care of their elders to present an ideal for their children. Sometimes children take care of their elders despite of everything that goes on in the household but still it is not appreciated most of the times, but criticized for the things that aren't being done for them. Many times children get cursed that their children will do the same to them then they will know. I have seen it myself. The other thing is when the son of the family gets married and the new daughter-in-law comes to the family how many of the elders accept her wholeheartedly? They don't leave any stone unturned to test her abilities and to criticize her. Then they expect that the same daughter-in-law takes care of them in their need. Because of the cultural norm lot of them still take care of their in-laws. But it is very seldomly appreciated.

I don't want to make a long post. But I agree that it is a cycle that keeps going on. People have to change and accept the change.