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Posted: 13 years ago
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After watching so many episodes, so many causes, we feel enraged or sometimes just sad etc etc, but are we really changing inside.!?

My mom watches every episode with me, Talking about the dowry system, she says even if people say they dont want anything, it IS granted that there is going to be something. This happens.. Has been happening.. Some refuse point blank, that is good but when people say We dont want anything, they mean otherwise. W*FF.

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Posted: 13 years ago
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There were two episodes that really made me question myself. The first one was the one on Disability and the other one was today's. I do know where I stand vis-a-vis the other issues raised int he show so far. But these two really had a solid impact on me.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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We need such things every single day and everywhere not just one day of the week.

To be honest, people just rave and rant or ignore or forget.

Let me reference RDB here. After that film, several youth started forums online and groups in real life to discuss social change, many got into activism, there was whole wave of ''be the change'' and patriotism, citizens taking action to make country perfect.

It lasted for a year, intensified with Lage Raho Munnabhai also. Later it began to taper off.

Today, only a few activists and ''enlightened'' youth from that time are still continuing their work - be it writing or doing actual activism or joining IAS/IPS instead of corporate sector. Others just quit and now cite ''job'', ''studies'' or ''marriage'' as excuses for leaving their ''desh ko perfect banaana hai'' mission.

The problem is we have way more options (and sadly way more tendency) for escapism and inaction, than working to change our attitudes or do something for society. So we continue being led by culture, stereotypes (reinforced by media, society, family etc.) and knowingly or unknowingly help propagate stereotypes and social evils by transferring similar attitude in others around us and younger generation.

Problem is never with shows like SJ or NGOs or any movement. Problem is with US. I also debate a lot and feel pinched when I see on one hand we debate on issues and on other hand we have kids employed at college canteens. But what have I done for it? Nothing. I just ranted and vowed not to employ kids as domestic help in my house. But it would have made a difference had I protested to college authorities for allowing under age workers in canteen.

I routinely point at my relatives' language, and tell them to avoid using words which are racist, casteist or stereotypical. And I get laughed at for taking things too seriously or ''literally'' and I am told it is just commonly used language.

Honestly speaking a socially concerned person is usually laughed at, told not to think too much and instantly dismissed as odd or pakau.

I have had enough of so-called friends avoiding me or teachers telling my parents that I talk or think too much - when I would point at casteist remarks or didn't laugh at caste or religion based jokes they ''casually'' cracked.

There's always a pressure to be passive and to conform to existing ''norms'' - bear things as they are.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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People hold mirror to the face only to put on make up. Nobody likes to look at their real face.

Just as we hide imperfections with make up, similarly we want to hide our pathetic mentality and leave our thoughts and actions un-examined and of course, unchanged.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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i agree annika but then even if i stop ranting etc, people are going to dismiss it just like any other show on television.

and bingo! about being termed too serious or influenced by a show just cause u ask questions or voice opinions.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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I was opinionated on such things even before shows like SJ. As a child I was either praised for being thoughtful for my young age, or criticised for thinking too much. Same thing happens now. The criticism or avoidance is slightly more now.


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Posted: 13 years ago
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Another fact i have noticed, people who go around moral policing or preaching in the name of X Y or Z are avoiding the show. Is it only me or someone else has noticed the same too?
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Posted: 13 years ago
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About dowry..I've asked my parents about it...and my Dad simply goes "we will give you what we want to give you, but if there is any hint from the guy's side of what they want/demand/need...it ends right there. I am not selling my daughter."...and then, in true Punjabi style 😆 he goes "ik chaped vajju gi na, akal thikane aaju, lekin fer vi, sadde naal rishta karna taan bhuljo!"

AKA "one slap will fix them up, but even after that, you won't be getting my daughter"


Foeticide made a huge impact on me because I was shocked with that one story where the in-laws were educated and the mother in law CHUCKED the baby basket down the stairs. I was horrified.

Dowry...the SONG "rupaiyya"...I always get teary when I hear that...I love that song.

Child sexual abuse episode...wish SJ existed years ago

Domestic Violence...realised my Massiji experienced it all

The forbidden love one...I didn't really understand the 'reason' behind killing your kids

Medical...and Toxic Food...I already kind of knew and that was when I felt selfish whilst thinking "Thank God I don't live there"

Disabled people one...our high school had separate classes for disabled kids...a lot of them with Down Syndrome and what not...and we had the same playground and all...and so, I don't know...we never grew up being afraid of them, or thinking they deserved our pity...we were taught that too though...that disabled people were normal people who had the same self-respect and dignity as the rest of us

I haven't seen this episode fully to comment on it
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Posted: 13 years ago
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it blocked my post...by telling me it was spam...and then posted twice

sorry guys.

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: annika20

We need such things every single day and everywhere not just one day of the week.


To be honest, people just rave and rant or ignore or forget.

Let me reference RDB here. After that film, several youth started forums online and groups in real life to discuss social change, many got into activism, there was whole wave of ''be the change'' and patriotism, citizens taking action to make country perfect.

It lasted for a year, intensified with Lage Raho Munnabhai also. Later it began to taper off.

Today, only a few activists and ''enlightened'' youth from that time are still continuing their work - be it writing or doing actual activism or joining IAS/IPS instead of corporate sector. Others just quit and now cite ''job'', ''studies'' or ''marriage'' as excuses for leaving their ''desh ko perfect banaana hai'' mission.

I just wanna say here everytime an impactful incidence happens be it the reservation protests or a movie like RDB or the Anna protest ... many people get up but only the tough ones last . And i guess we have to be thankful to these people who persisted . I see people who have bcome full time activists after the reservation protest . and you are telling about people who took action after RDB ... so guess we need more such impactful shows movies incidences and what we really really need is Leadership like Anna Hazare .. how many role models do we have ...in this world anyway .
I would also like to point out there are few role models out there because media highlight aishwaryas weight gain more than it does people who are real life heros .

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