Do you get what you want?

What you want you never get it..what you don't want you always get it.. why?

I am sorry I am bored and frustrated hence this topic... I am not sure if anything can be discussed / debated on this..

Has it ever happened to you? It happens to me alll the time...the thing I hate the most I always have to do it...not just thing, even people I don't like and don't want to talk to ..some how they are always around me and I have to talk to them...

whereas if i want something very badly..i never ever get it..

so why does it happen?

What could be the reason behind this?

Originally posted by: iSetTrends

Just accept what you get...much easier that way 😉

Originally posted by: Star_on_earth

What you want you never get it..what you don't want you always get it.. why?

I am sorry I am bored and frustrated hence this topic... I am not sure if anything can be discussed / debated on this..

Has it ever happened to you? It happens to me alll the time...the thing I hate the most I always have to do it...not just thing, even people I don't like and don't want to talk to ..some how they are always around me and I have to talk to them...

whereas if i want something very badly..i never ever get it..

so why does it happen?

What could be the reason behind this?

Ok ... maybe I didn't explain the whole thing properly 😕, I will give you a few examples to let you know what exactly I was referring to... like suppose you want to reach a place at a particular time... and you make all sorts of preparations and leave well in advance so you're not late..but then something or the other happens on the way like maybe an accident or a road diversion or whatever and you end up being late inspite of everything you did to avoid it..

Or say you are really looking forward to weekend and all you want to do is just relax or do absolutely nothing but then you get some unexpected guests or you have to go somewhere or there is something or the other, due to which your actual plans of relaxing are disrupted...

So its these kind of simple everyday things/happenings that I was talking about where what you actually want does not happen and instead you get something you were really trying to avoid.. these are just 2 examples I could think of right now..

basically its not the complicated life sufferings or material things or big achievements or wishes that I am talking about... rather small and simple daily life situations ...which do not turn out the way we wanted them to instead we get something we are not happy about... 😳

Originally posted by: zorro

If the book "the Secret" is to be believed we always attract people and situations into our life by our thoughts. Negative thoughts attract negative things whereas positive thoughts attract positive happenings

But the thoughts come from the same happenings, If you get what you don't like, how can you have positive thoughts or happy thoughts?

Originally posted by: Beyond_the_Veil

I cease to have desire for things I get - and tend to have fascination for only those things that I know I can't get.

No wonder I am hardly ever satisfied.

For things, yes the ones we get easily we don't value them much or desire them but want things that we don't have or cant get

Btw I was also referring to situations...like you want something to happen but it doesn't happen

Originally posted by: Beyond_the_Veil

Ugh, I hate the pink color on my name. And what's up with these new ladder groups???

With the addition of new ladder groups, seems you got promoted from rockerz to sizzlers 😆Other members are excited about it..so should you..😛

Ya I see a lot of pink these days... Every other member is in pink or one or the other shade of it.

Originally posted by: attitude.ash

I'm not sure if I can debate this, but this is what I believe in, and live my life by.

As the famous quote by Paulo Coelho goes, "And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it", is exactly what I believe in. We manifest out thoughts to attain all that we desire for.

Although I am tempted to say "Shit Happens!", I won't because again it comes down to the glass being half full or half empty. Life is def. not perfect, but it's better to concentrate on the good things we have than the bad. The more one dwells on the negatives; it's highly likely that we get surrounded by negative things in life.

Oh, I might not always get what I want, but I choose to not pick what I don't want!

I was mainly referring to the everyday life situations/happenings in daily life (as you can see from my another post with examples)... where universe doesn't really have to play any role... Not that for the things I really really want/desire, the "universe" helps me in any way... Actually I don't think this whole universe thing actually works... Sometimes you just work harder to get something and you get it... okay, luck does play a bit of role but not entirely

Originally posted by: iSetTrends

Just accept what you get...much easier that way

Basically you have to just accept what you get and what you don't get.. sometimes you really cant do anything about it..

Originally posted by: Prometeus

The question is,how can you be happy tomorrow if you are not happy today?If we dont know how to cherish the things we got, tomorrow also we feel the same...thats the fact...and expectations and dreams are against reality...It gives us a 1001 opportunities to be frustrated so that you can understand that expectations are not good..So enjoy the moments...reduce expectations n desires then you will get the things, you want!

Happiness cannot be forced.. it comes from within, whether you are happy today or tomorrow depends on what you have today and tomorrow. it also depends on how you take what you get.. some accept it easily some don't. its not easy to be happy with whatever you have. everyone has desires and wishes which again are not something you choose to have it or not have it, you just have them, dreams and hopes gives us a reason to move on, hoping that someday maybe this situation will change and maybe you will get what you actually want. if you don't have dreams how can you move ahead? If you have dreams you do something to achieve them, you work harder to get them, you cant just sit and say "ok I didn't get what I want but no problem I should still be happy because one should be happy with what they have...so just be happy" and you say that and automatically you are happy? Is it?

If you reduce expectations...means you are reducing what you actually want.. then how can you truly get what you want?