In Defense of Arjun

I can see I am the only one in the forum making an attempt to defend Arjun now, and realize ahead of time that I am really opening myself up to a lot of backlash here, but I have to do this for the sake of ARVI and ARVI fans:

Arjun is a coward. full stop. He has had plenty of time and opportunities to tell Ovi the truth. The very truth he is reluctant to tell her will hurt her the longer he keeps quiet, never mind do irreparable damage to his relationship with Purvi. How can he let Purvi suffer time after time?

Originally posted by: archverma10

I can see I am the only one in the forum making an attempt to defend Arjun now, and realize ahead of time that I am really opening myself up to a lot of backlash here, but I have to do this for the sake of ARVI and ARVI fans:

I did post an earlier rant blasting the CVs for the character assassination. Based on the updates and everyone's opinions I guess I just went postal. However, now I have actually just watched the episode on Daily Motion and saw Arjun's dilemma for myself, and with my own two eyes. Here are my takes on this:

I am going to put myself out there and share a personal story: I have actually been in Arjun's place before myself: there is no worse guilty feeling in the world than being loved so much and not being able to love that person back. Without going into detail, the situation was the same: a very very close friend- and no matter how much I tried I couldnt go forward with it. I did eventually tell him, but in the process of trying to protect his feelings, due to my extreme guilt, I really managed to make the situation a whole lot worse: for both me and him.

Same thing with Arjun: my friend had done a whole lot for me- and he is under the extreme guilt of realizing just how much Ovi has done for him. She has given up her career and is currently facing a lawsuit. Is she an utterly dense Barbie doll, selfish, and self-centered: yes. But the fact is the fact: she is banking completely on a life with him- even to the point of giving up her career and he is the one who has to face that burden. Also, she mentioned her father several times: another knife to plunge into him: driving home the fact that there is more complicated than just the 2 of them.

I forced myself to watch the slow dance too. The boy is utterly uncomfortable, cant take his eyes off Purvi, and wishes the floor would open and swallow him up.

He has the misfortune to be burdened with a fool of a fiancee: never once has he told her "I love you" back, initiated any PDAs or anything except to try to tell her something important. Even before this engagement fiasco, he tried countless number of times and has the bad luck to be dealing with someone who cant seem to hear or see anything beyond what she wants to see and hear.

He is taking the higher road and trying to do the right thing despite knowing what kind of pain it is going to cost him: he knows how Purvi feels, and knows that Purvi is going to really be angry with him and misunderstand him. He is going to have to deal with her extreme ire (not to mention ours), and the accusation/anger- also the fear that she may hate him.

But the thought process is this: as Shyamala pointed out: It is Purvi who is loved. She has his heart. Ovi does not.

The torture and misunderstandings are Purvi's and ours to bear- for now. But the ultimate end result, the extreme heartbreak- is going to be Ovi's. Not Purvi's. Purvi is angry, pissed off, and fed up and so are we: but if she knows him as well as she claims to: she has to know how much she has changed him and how far he has come. There is no doubt that he loves her. But this is an impossible situation that does have to be approaced with delicacy.

One of the members in this forum asked: what would Purvi have done if she was in his shoes? Would she just blurt out the truth to the world and thus break Ovi's heart, embarrass her and her parents, not to mention her own father, and also pretty much alienate both families for the future without a thought? He knows Purvi will be really angry...but as he really truly does love her he hopes she will listen to the dliemma he is in and understand.

Which I have to say: this is what is needed. Communication. Instead of him blabbering and her cutting him off, he needs to tell Purvi what Ovi has done- tell her the dilemma he is in- and tell her why he feels so guilty. He feels guilt and wants to protect Ovi because we always end up feeling more guilt for the ones we do not love and whose heart we know we are going to break- not the ones we actually love. And she should listen to him and help him so that together they can figure a way out.

Originally posted by: archverma10

I can see I am the only one in the forum making an attempt to defend Arjun now, and realize ahead of time that I am really opening myself up to a lot of backlash here, but I have to do this for the sake of ARVI and ARVI fans:

I did post an earlier rant blasting the CVs for the character assassination. Based on the updates and everyone's opinions I guess I just went postal. However, now I have actually just watched the episode on Daily Motion and saw Arjun's dilemma for myself, and with my own two eyes. Here are my takes on this:

I am going to put myself out there and share a personal story: I have actually been in Arjun's place before myself: there is no worse guilty feeling in the world than being loved so much and not being able to love that person back. Without going into detail, the situation was the same: a very very close friend- and no matter how much I tried I couldnt go forward with it. I did eventually tell him, but in the process of trying to protect his feelings, due to my extreme guilt, I really managed to make the situation a whole lot worse: for both me and him.

Same thing with Arjun: my friend had done a whole lot for me- and he is under the extreme guilt of realizing just how much Ovi has done for him. She has given up her career and is currently facing a lawsuit. Is she an utterly dense Barbie doll, selfish, and self-centered: yes. But the fact is the fact: she is banking completely on a life with him- even to the point of giving up her career and he is the one who has to face that burden. Also, she mentioned her father several times: another knife to plunge into him: driving home the fact that there is more complicated than just the 2 of them.

I forced myself to watch the slow dance too. The boy is utterly uncomfortable, cant take his eyes off Purvi, and wishes the floor would open and swallow him up.

He has the misfortune to be burdened with a fool of a fiancee: never once has he told her "I love you" back, initiated any PDAs or anything except to try to tell her something important. Even before this engagement fiasco, he tried countless number of times and has the bad luck to be dealing with someone who cant seem to hear or see anything beyond what she wants to see and hear.

He is taking the higher road and trying to do the right thing despite knowing what kind of pain it is going to cost him: he knows how Purvi feels, and knows that Purvi is going to really be angry with him and misunderstand him. He is going to have to deal with her extreme ire (not to mention ours), and the accusation/anger- also the fear that she may hate him.

But the thought process is this: as Shyamala pointed out: It is Purvi who is loved. She has his heart. Ovi does not.

The torture and misunderstandings are Purvi's and ours to bear- for now. But the ultimate end result, the extreme heartbreak- is going to be Ovi's. Not Purvi's. Purvi is angry, pissed off, and fed up and so are we: but if she knows him as well as she claims to: she has to know how much she has changed him and how far he has come. There is no doubt that he loves her. But this is an impossible situation that does have to be approaced with delicacy.

One of the members in this forum asked: what would Purvi have done if she was in his shoes? Would she just blurt out the truth to the world and thus break Ovi's heart, embarrass her and her parents, not to mention her own father, and also pretty much alienate both families for the future without a thought? He knows Purvi will be really angry...but as he really truly does love her he hopes she will listen to the dliemma he is in and understand.

Which I have to say: this is what is needed. Communication. Instead of him blabbering and her cutting him off, he needs to tell Purvi what Ovi has done- tell her the dilemma he is in- and tell her why he feels so guilty. He feels guilt and wants to protect Ovi because we always end up feeling more guilt for the ones we do not love and whose heart we know we are going to break- not the ones we actually love. And she should listen to him and help him so that together they can figure a way out.

Archana, your post makes lot of sense but CV are making lame excuses for Arjun that he is not able to tell Ovi. First DK called and now Romil called. As you say Arjun is going deep into mess, instead of coming out of it, he is drowning himself more. He knows that he will hurt Ovi no matter what so sooner he tells her is better. If he feels trapped and not able to stick to his words than stop telling Purvi that no matter what he will tell Ovi. His false promises make Purvi a hurt lot. He could have stopped the party by talking with Manav or his Dad. If he is not able to tell Ovi then he should at least call his dad and let him know that his dada has to do something urgently so it does not dragged and become more complicated than it is at the present. IHe is hurting Purvi right now, and later it will hurt Ovi a lot more. There is no way for him to keep both girls happy so sooner he does it better for everyone.

Originally posted by: mannisha

Arjun is a coward. full stop. He has had plenty of time and opportunities to tell Ovi the truth. The very truth he is reluctant to tell her will hurt her the longer he keeps quiet, never mind do irreparable damage to his relationship with Purvi. How can he let Purvi suffer time after time?

Originally posted by: archverma10

@mannisha, abhimg...*sighs* I know dear...I am really hurting too...and am terrified that the character assasination of Arjun is going to go beyond a level we can ever tolerate.

My head and heart are warring here too...I guess Im just trying to find a way to hang in there. Shyamala's post did say it best: this beautiful track and love story was so refreshing and so far removed from the normal Indian soap that we fell totally in love with it. This Ovi drama and MU between Arjun/Purvi, as well as lack of communication, is really utterly destroying the magic and disappointing the same fans who came back to revive the show.

I really hope the CVs are actually doing this on purpose...building us up to be so angry at Arjun...so they can give us a surprise, A PLEASANT ONE, that we wont see coming. Just like with Purvi...her harshness and meanness during the MMS fiaso and Arjun's confession...we all hated her then for being so rude...and found ourselves utterly melting towards her with that sweet, childlike confession.

I hope this is the case...otherwise if this drags on for too long or goes to more extremes, the show might as well be over.