Originally posted by: ankit_nyc
š Makes sense...Mona couldn't take care of her husband and now can't even take care of her kids... š Not bad enough that her husband, and her own parents don't want to be with her but now she'll lose the kids too... š Pathetic that she is using kids as pawns to make Pradeep come back to her... š When someone doesn't have any qualifications to make a living they have to resort to begging and these sort of tactics... š Disgusting that as a mother she is treating her kids like this... š She has learnt well from her MIL... š
Why are you against Mona?
From your above and previous posts, it seems that way.
Lets talk about Pradeep
1) Pradeep had the extra marital affair.
2) Pradeep kept Mona in the dark, kept lying even after declaring to an unconscious Anushka that he will tell the truth to Mona and whole family.
3) Pradeep let the success and power that came to him get to his head.
4) Pradeep is even willing to let Mona raise the kids, his responsibility as a father is only confined to providing financially for his kids.
(Kids need both the love of a mother and father. I know there are a lot of kids raised by single parent but still, the truth is that it is always better to be raised by both, unless it's in an abusive environment for the kid.)
5) Yes Anushka has a hand in Pradeep's success but she is doing so with a motive to gain Pradeep for herself, whom she considers her one and only love. So for Anushka's own gratification, she's willing to break Pradeep's married life. And Pradeep is not realising this.
6) Pradeep started differentiating between Mona and Anushka at Anushka's instigation. He did not have a mind of his own. clue: Mona's garish make-up, Anushka's constant claim (whenever she gets a chance) that she can't see Pradeep getting insulted unlike other people (this even when Pradeep is totally at fault.)
Point 5 and 6 as per what's been showed in the show.
Still Pradeep is as pure as snow, a saint.
Now Mona's turn
We have to remember that we are talking in context of India, where even today girls and guys are treated differentially.
1) It's an arranged marriage and she marries the groom her parents have decided for her. (Not much detail here so an assumption)
2) Like a typical indian girl / housewife mentality, she might have thought husband is 'pati parmeshwar' and as long as I take good care of him and the marital house and bear him healthy kids, I am doing my duty. Mona was doing exactly that.
3) In all this, she never thought of her future that what if my husband decides to leave me one day. She wasn't getting any such signal. Pradeep showered her with love and praises that anyone can make a career but making a house liveable is what only a wife can do.
(So this where we viewers can learn a lesson. Fulfill your duties in whatever role / relationship you are in, but never ever forget your individuality. A woman especially a wife should take this importantly; and parents should also realise that it is their responsibility to ensure that they teach their child to be self-reliant, give them an education, teach them how to survive in this world if they should ever find themself alone, simply because we live in a dog eat dog world.)
4) Her father is a wimp...I'm sorry I can't come up with a better word. But how he has reacted is sadly what most parents do. Instead of being a pillar of support to their child, they think of their social standing in society. The 'what will society think abt us attitude.' (My personal viewpoint...'shove it up their a**, sorry for the profanity. But no one will come to extinguish your burning home, they will just watch from the sidelines and when all's ruined, they will then offer sympathy or 'if i knew i would have helped' talks)
Mona's fault here was that she chose her husband and kids life over her own life, her own individuality. She lived with the belief that in their happiness lies her happiness. And if I'm correct to say, that is what is still being imparted to girls mostly. Sacrifice your happiness, your wishes, your wants and needs for others. Of course they are a few exception to the rule.
General view
Marriage is a very sacred relationship. No matter in what light this union takes place, both parties have to try to make it work. Divorce is a last step. Temptation comes in any form and any time and if we get swayed by these temptations everytime then by which principles or beliefs are we living with? We should have at least one fixed moral code, that no matter what the situation, our moral will not be swayed.
(An eg, like making a rule never to sleep with a married man / woman. purely an example, nothing to do with this show).
Lastly think from Mona's viewpoint, a woman who has lost her husband to another woman and is now taking a gamble by sending her kids to him, it takes immense courage. I can tell because I am a woman, I am married and it is not easy for a mother to separate herself from her children.
No offence, just trying to understand your view point, but not fully able to. Hence this reply... š
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