Are men forgiven in the real world?

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giaa

@giaa

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Posted: 13 years ago

I've just started getting into this show and enjoying a different storyline...Here's my question...lots of us know couples who have had a spouse who has had an EMA ...what is the norm in the real world...

I know of two such couples...in both cases the women have taken their husbands back. First one coz she was uneducated and really catered to the 'Log kya kahengay' school of thought and the second one coz she was used to being taken care of financialy and did not think she could be alone again after 40. So even though neither of them has a healthy relationship ...they are married...so husband has been forgiven but nothing is forgotten.

so what have you noticed in the world around you? Please share

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Anjali

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Posted: 13 years ago

In the real world, I have seen that more often that not, the wife forgives the husband for straying not because she really loves him, but because she does not want to lose the tag of "mrs"...or because her parents refuse to take her back and she has nowhere else to go.

I don't think this will happen if the genders were reversed, though.

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Magical_KaSh

@Magical_KaSh

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Posted: 13 years ago

its has js became the mentality that baap k gharse ladki ki doli uthati hai and pati k gharse arthi

i have seen in real life the wifes forgive their husbands for the sake of the kids their future

its difficult to take care of kids when you have been divorced by your husband as the peepz around starts questionin tauntin to the mother and even to the kids

life becomes hell for them after divorce it becomes difficult to survive

thats why mostly mens are forgiven

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Sania

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Posted: 13 years ago

Here where I live no one is forgiven😆 Divorces are commonplace infact and so are affairs. But in India there is a stigma attached to affairs and to girls whose husbands leave them or they choose to live without their husbands. This is why I believe now - especially with the uneducated and traditional women either traditionalists or villagers they forgive their husbands simply because they believe by this only they will suffer but everyone else society the husband the kids the families everyone will stay happy. But the marriage is never the same anymore and the woman suffers.

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An ita

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Posted: 13 years ago

I think women as a species is a lot more accomodating ... forgiving ?? I dont know ... if anyone can truly forgive and forget the deciet and lying that goes with an EMA ..

BTW I walked out on my hubby cause he was cheating on me ... and am so happy I did - cause my self respect would not allow me to live with a guy who loved someone else - I think I love myself too much to forgive or forget. I also wanted to send the other woman ( who also happened to be my friend) and bouquet of flowers saying ;thank you - you did me a big favour... now you can suffer !!!😉

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Rupali

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Posted: 13 years ago

in most cases yes they are forgiven...mostly because of less/no education of the woman and the existence of kids... but i have also seen parents supporting their daughters to the t .. come what may and the whatever the society (so-called) says..

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Mahek Ali

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: giaa
I've just started getting into this show and enjoying a different storyline...Here's my question...lots of us know couples who have had a spouse who has had an EMA ...what is the norm in the real world...

I know of two such couples...in both cases the women have taken their husbands back. First one coz she was uneducated and really catered to the 'Log kya kahengay' school of thought and the second one coz she was used to being taken care of financialy and did not think she could be alone again after 40. So even though neither of them has a healthy relationship ...they are married...so husband has been forgiven but nothing is forgotten.

so what have you noticed in the world around you? Please share

I totally agree, I know of many women that have forgiven their husbands for having affairs or beating them. It definitely happens in real life too, even educated women think like that.

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pallavi25

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Posted: 13 years ago

Real life case: my husband's cousin dumped his wife and 2 daughters, started "live-in" relationship with his friend's wife (she had a son by 1st husband whom she left behind)...this cousin's wife, my SIL lived in a joint family with her in-laws, they supported her and the 2 girls, FIL was furious with his son, almost disowned him, threw him out of family owned business although he still owns portion of father's property...

A couple of years later, my SIL divorced the scoundrel and moved out of her sasural with her 2 girls, at first she lived in a house given by her in-laws(theyre a very rich family), also financially supported by her in-laws... ...recently I heard she moved in with her elderly parents. Daughters are both grown up now, elder one had emotional problems because of the turmoil during her growing up years!

As for the scoundrel he married that other woman (after both were divorced from previous spouses) ...but in the meantime he had an illegitimate daughter with that woman.

Now isnt that more dramatic than anything Ekta can show us? Thats why I dont find these shows so shocking, these real life cases can be even more shocking!

We dont keep any relation with this cousin brother...because we cannot stand him for what he did to his wife and kids!

In this case, wife didnt forgive the husband, he also didnt return to her...but she didnt linger on in hopes of his return either, she left her sasural with her kids!

In some cases, wife does accept husband back because of financial majboori or society pressures but loses her self-respect! I cannot understand how a woman can forgive the ultimate betrayal...what if the shoe was on the other foot? If the woman cheated, would the husband take her back?

I feel that if more ppl ostracized the husband and the other woman that would be a good punishment for them!

Edited by pallavi25 - 13 years ago