Puner Vivah Episode... 04/18/2012.. with Eva

First let me point out few things which the Schindhia neglected about Ansh...

The Scindhia were all seated at their usual place but nobody thought to make a place for Ansh with his new family.. That is with his new papa. He came late and wanted to sit with his new papa' He is a child and wants his right to be with his new papa and Yash should have asked to bring the chair near him and make him feel better. I think all the tantrum Ansh did was draw the attention to himself as he was not given' I really do not say that he did right but I think If Yash would have made that first gesture to accept him he would have been a good boy and would have listen to Yash..

Yash has no expectation from this marriage except that Aartiji would be great mom than he needs to return the same courtesy to Aartiji and be a good Dad to Yash. When Payal and Palak were making chaos dancing on the table and the servant scolded them then Yash was hurt deeply and wanted his mom and bhabhi to let him know clearly that if they cannot take care of them then he would do' So today Aarti must be feeling the same when Yash scolded Ansh like that' Ok that was one point..

What Ansh did on the dinning table was totally intolerable and really bad manners. Aarti has always given in to Ansh demands and always have dance per his tune in private.. Always pacifying him and always satisfying his child ego to make him stubborn and disrespectful and manner less boy' Dubeys even did not mind as he was their grandchild' Now they are in the new territory and Aarti cannot pay any attention to him the way she used so the child Ansh is unable to understand his mom not speaking up for him or not catering him to right away. Here the main culprit is Aarti and not Ansh.

As he did listen to Gayatri and he did listen to Punkaj but when he heard Gayatri taunting his mom I think he just blew it'

I think Yash did not handle the situation wisely' He should have called Ansh near him and ask him about why he is behaving like that and make him understand the situation and then if he does not listen then be little tough with him.. Would he behave with Payal and Palak the sameway?? Here he clearly made the little boy feel rejected and did not extend his fatherly love to him. Since morning Yash was upset with Ansh because of the bathroom scenario' He the neat freak was upset and irritated but Aarti does not know about it as he asked servant to clean up the mess.. And so now he sees Ansh being so rude and rebellious and disobedient that he just lost control on his temper and scolded Ansh' And because he scolded Ansh the Sr. Scindhia thought he did the right thing. But Pratik was right in understanding the situation wisely' Right away he tells his hot headed brother that Ansh is a child and he is in a new place and with new people so we have to be tolerated toward him' I think Yash did get his point and he looked at Aarti who was totally hurt at his behavior. He did feel bad about the way he scolded Ansh..

If we look at the way view pov of Scindhia and their table etiquette and their comfort with each other than of course what Ansh did was totally unacceptable and rude and bad behavior'. But if we look at the pov of the child that he is being not given the same treatment like his two other counterparts than his little heart is hurt' He sees his mother is being scolded in front of all than his little protective mind wanted to hurt those people who are hurting his mom' Then when he sees his mom not coming to his defense than he feels that his mother is also neglecting him like others' So he totally feels rejected and flips out and seeks attention from his mom by making such a havoc that every ones patient was stretching to the maximum and Yash watching everyone's discomfort scolds the child with a harsh words resulting Ansh feeling totally rejected and neglected and he leaves the table making a sign of katti to Yash' Aarti knew Ansh behavior was extremely rude and defiant and she had to ask forgiveness for Ansh and had to leave the table in the middle of breakfast'

Ok the most debatable scenario of the bedroom with Ansh'

I do not have problem with Aarti that she wanted to pacify her son and give him that feeling of belonging back. She did tell him that he did not behave well and it was his fault also. So little Ansh did not want to stay in the new big house with new papa and leave to go to Dubeys' Ok then Aarti pacifies him by telling him that she will make chocolate cake for him'

Until that point I am with Aarti but after that Ansh demanded that she should scold Yash and ask a sorry from him' So she acted the whole part for him and give him satisfaction of winning and about being right' not only that she even scolded Yash when he came in the room to see what is happening with Ansh. Yash did had a tiny smile when he saw Aarti pacifying her son I think he did not mind her techniques at that point but when Aarti really started to scold him in front of Ansh to give him fake satisfaction of being right and then pleading with her eyes to let her do so that her son would come to the normal state with his new daddy '. But then if it was not enough then she also she surrenders to the demand of her son for the sorry from Yash'.

I think at this point Aarti should have made Ansh realize the similar action on his part also' she should have made Ansh realize that it was him who made the mistake 1^st so he also need to say sorry 1^st for his behavior.. than only she can ask naye papa to say sorry to him too' so if he does not ask sorry to new daddy than his new daddy would not think he is a good boy. I think she should have persuaded Ansh for that. But she did nothing like that and now she wants Yash to say sorry'

Yash is feeling guilty already for being harsh with Ansh and if by saying sorry 1^st if he can win the child's heart than he may say sorry too.. but I hope he also insist a sorry from him and make it even and move forward from there. Winning the child's heart and then taking charge of his behavior is the key in this delicate situation..

I think Aarti being the single parent and over protective mother always want to keep him away from hurt and pain and in that she is not giving him right amount of discipline. She has given in to his every wish and whim and now Ansh has taken her and her attention for granted and he has become rude and disrespectful and rebellious little kid'

Gayatri and Punkaj did try their best to make things smooth for him but Ansh will have none of it.. Hitting the table with the spoon and and pushing the water glass from Punkaj was where Yash lost his temper' as he has been totally angry at Ansh since morning his behavior at the dinning table was too much to tolerate and he just blew it.. but reminder from Pratik made him feel that he should not have lost his patient with that little boy'

So that is my mix feelings for the episode' I want to feel the heart of mother of Aarti and at the same time I want to feel the vulnerability of that little boy in his behavior and also I want to feel the irritation of Yash and his family for this complete new scenario at their peaceful dinning table but then I also want to say Aarti stop spoiling your son and give him some good lessons of life. Teach him that "good Boys" do not do the things the way he did at the dinning table and that is why unless he ask sorry from every one he cannot be called good boy...

So let's see how CVs are trying to do this things' I hope Yash will be wise enough to take proper action which Aarti missed in her pacifying session'

That's all for the day' love to all eva'