What Society Needs to Learn

What have we learnt from this show today? Firstly, its very important for those parents who do not educate their daughters thinking what use it will be since they will just get married and not work - well this is the answer. If the husband leaves the wife and she has no education no degree then what will she do with her life? She will be reduced to suicide like Mona but unlike Mona may not have a MIL that will come to save her. So the message learnt is that it is very important for a girl to be educated upto Bachelors level or similar so that she will at least have some security in life.

Second, that even in relatively modern societies a father is still selfish enough to think about society before thinking about the dukh of his daughter and her suffering. This will also contribute to the suicide attempt. Parents need to throw away this stupid society caring and fear and care for their children first.

The theme of this show about extra marital affairs is not a pretty one but unfortunately it shows something that is becoming a very common occurence. I say good on it for opening our eyes to reality and secondly for sending some important messages to the public.

Woops, just saw another post is quite similar. I do apologise😊 But please do leave your comments😊

Yes there is a similar post and i wud like to repeat that education of the female members in ur family, be it daughter, DIL, sister, wife, Mother etc is a very imp factor.

I dont understand the practicality of no education..

Yes EMA are pretty common these days , more often on the part of the husband but women are also doing it these days.
The other issue that need to be tackled is what happens to betrayed wife and children after a divorce.
In many cases, the husbands are content with their choice no, 2 and lead happy lives.
It would be unreal to show pradeep suffering with anushka. It happens in some cases but very rare.

Another real life story.: A husband left his wife after 20 years of marriage for another woman. The wife begged him and numerous relatives intervened to stop the affair but all came to nought. Luckily she was a career woman, and her in laws all support her. In fact her mother in law stays with her. After 5 years husband returns to his abandoned wife. Wife files for divorce in a couple of months. She has learned to live her life for herself and her children and finds the husband a burden. Husband living all alone. 😃

In the same token they can't show Mona living in misery either. They have to show her moving forward and embracing life but it may not be a life with a new partner. Why should happiness only be portrayed and tied with a new love life? What are the odds of older women with children finding a new husband? Men can find new wives but most women don't remarry, especially Indian women.

Originally posted by: naj7

Yes there is a similar post and i wud like to repeat that education of the female members in ur family, be it daughter, DIL, sister, wife, Mother etc is a very imp factor.

I dont understand the practicality of no education..

I get annoyed wen aunties tell us .. "oh she is studying, wat is the use anyway she will get married" or "oh she is educated, she will surely rule her husband & MIL" i get soo charged up that mom has to literally drag me to avoid a bad scenario..

I have been really lucky .. my grandad wants all the females to be educated atleast a degree (if not more).. in my family females r more educated than males ... he makes us capabale of handling ourselves ..

My FIL & MIL are also very supportive.. i got married after deg.. started PG, had a baby during my PG .. but stil managed to give exams and do the project successfully thanks to my inlaws and my family support..

Its imp for every one to accept that an educated lady will be able to fight the world in adverse situations..

Yes indeed you are very lucky😊 In my family also education is of utmost importance and the women in my family normally marry after completing Masters. I think this is a very big change needed in our country as unfortunately the scenario you are describing above is very common.

I completly agree with ovaltine.. y does a divorsee / widow have to get another man her life.. Y cant she live her life like she wants to. .but soceity does not leave her..

Originally posted by: ovaltine

Yes EMA are pretty common these days , more often on the part of the husband but women are also doing it these days.
The other issue that need to be tackled is what happens to betrayed wife and children after a divorce.
In many cases, the husbands are content with their choice no, 2 and lead happy lives.
It would be unreal to show pradeep suffering with anushka. It happens in some cases but very rare.

Another real life story.: A husband left his wife after 20 years of marriage for another woman. The wife begged him and numerous relatives intervened to stop the affair but all came to nought. Luckily she was a career woman, and her in laws all support her. In fact her mother in law stays with her. After 5 years husband returns to his abandoned wife. Wife files for divorce in a couple of months. She has learned to live her life for herself and her children and finds the husband a burden. Husband living all alone. 😃

In the same token they can't show Mona living in misery either. They have to show her moving forward and embracing life but it may not be a life with a new partner. Why should happiness only be portrayed and tied with a new love life? What are the odds of older women with children finding a new husband? Men can find new wives but most women don't remarry, especially Indian women.

I would be more happy than anyone if they showed that a woman is no less than a man she can live without a man's support and live her life for herself and her children. I dont think cheaters should be taken back. Its never the same. Mona also needs to become a career woman and show Pradeep she is much more than just a housewife.

In the last few years I have seen three of my friends getting divorced, one of which was because of the husband's EMA and the other two were because of the in-laws' extremely interfering nature. Thankfully, in all cases the women were educated and their parents supported them without question. Now all of them are doing well in their respective careers. However, that does not mean that the parents cease to be worried for their daughters. Unfortunately, their first priority is still to get their daughters remarried. They don't understand how emotionally scarred the woman is from her first bad experience.

In real life, unfortunately the in-laws are not as supportive as Mona's. IN fact, in most cases they are the ones who create the trouble in their marital life.

May I also add that it is extremely important for a woman in her 30s and beyond to have a supportive FRIEND CIRCLE. Friends can provide the emotional support that even parents can't.

True! I really hope they portray this realistically rather than show the normal shiz of Pradeep realising in two days and Mona taking him back with open arms🤢

Originally posted by: blyton

In the last few years I have seen three of my friends getting divorced, one of which was because of the husband's EMA and the other two were because of the in-laws' extremely interfering nature. Thankfully, in all cases the women were educated and their parents supported them without question. Now all of them are doing well in their respective careers. However, that does not mean that the parents cease to be worried for their daughters. Unfortunately, their first priority is still to get their daughters remarried. They don't understand how emotionally scarred the woman is from her first bad experience.

In real life, unfortunately the in-laws are not as supportive as Mona's. IN fact, in most cases they are the ones who create the trouble in their marital life.

May I also add that it is extremely important for a woman in her 30s and beyond to have a supportive FRIEND CIRCLE. Friends can provide the emotional support that even parents can't.

I agree with all post here of having an education and financial independence even if happily married, but I sooo very agree and appreciate you comment about friends especially girl friends - they can be a pillar of support at the tougest of times - and most females are so busy with their personal married life that they fail to understand their importance - infact a good, strong social circle apart from family goes a long way in supporting /nourishing mental and physical health..

I was also shocked to hear Mona's father talking like that. Poor Mona!!!! I feel bad for the kids. They are going to suffer the most. Why did Mona's parents get her married so young without even doing graduation esp in this 21st century? What Pradeep did is unforgivable, but the explanation that he gave his parents started making sense to me. He got married at a young age because of his fathers wishes, he didnt do his MBA although he wanted to go high in the corporate world; there was not much romance shown between him and Mona and children were never his first priority ( dont know why CVs showd them having 3 kids ).All he wanted was a promotion and alone time with Mona which Mona couldnt give much bec she was always busy. Now enters Anushka and smart that she is she plays Pradeep in such a way that his inner "corporate" Pradeep wakes up and he gets the taste of success coz of Anushka.. Pradeep was leading a mechanical monotonous life with Mona and kids, so now he wants to leave this life and live the life he always wanted to live. But the one suffering is Mona n the kids for no fault of theirs. Unfortunately there are men like Pradeep in real life too. Now the inteeresting part would be to see how CVs handle MONA. I wanted Pradeep to cross over completely. Aar ya paar. Ab paar ho gaya hai...so I want to see what Mona will do.