I blame Aarti more than Ansh for his behavior

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Janaki

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Posted: 13 years ago

I know many here are annoyed with Ansh today for being a spoiled little brat, and I too found him annoying, but upon reflection it's not really his fault. I mean...he's like, a four year old kid, right? Kids at that age behave just like they are taught, and Ansh has been spoiled all his life. Neither his mother nor grandparents ever scolded him as far as we know, and whenever he misbehaves they ask him if he's alright first...which is kind of weird.😕 How can we then blame him if he acts out against his new sisters? He's never had a sibling in his life so Aarti should have prepared him for it, and taught him to be polite. Kicking them off the bed and talking rudely to them won't make them warm up to him. They are little kids too.

I know it's natural for Aarti to feel concerned about Ansh her first day at Yash's house, I don't blame her for that since any mother would like to know how her child is faring, but to quit the tulsi puja which took like...10 minutes max was a bit too much. Aarti should have attended the ritual first and then asked Gayatri or someone where the children's room was, instead of roaming the entire house looking for it herself, and then missing the puja. As annoying as Paridhi is sometimes, even she was better off than Aarti today, at least she does what she's told, and she's eager to learn and please.

Also, I didn't like how Aarti completely ignored Payal and Palak when she found the kids fighting. She knows Yash married her so that his daughters would have a mother, and in front of everyone she fretted over Ansh who was perfectly fine. She could have at least asked Payal and Palak if they were alright as well, or scolded all three children together. This differentiation between them won't settle well in the future.

Today, I felt that Gayatri's displeasure at Aarti was 100% justified. It is not wrong for a mother-in-law to wish that her new bahu would attend all the rituals, since it is part of the post-marriage process. Perhaps if Aarti listened to Gayatri's reasonable wishes, except the whole name changing thing which she was right in protesting against, her new sasuma wouldn't find reason to hate her. Aarti has to make an effort too, not just everyone else.

Edited by JanakiRaghunath - 13 years ago

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Faiza91

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Posted: 13 years ago

agreed, it makes me mad that she makes no effort towards payal or palak and doesn't discipline her own son.

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Posted: 13 years ago

I agree, but I feel it is sticking to how charcater were ecthed out from begining, I mean Ansh bit spoiled being raised without father. Aarti is over protective of him as he has been her only purpose of life.

He needs to be handled with care, he needs to be given time in new atmosphere.

I feel CVs are doing it for purpose to make Aarti realize her flaws. They are highlighting it as kids are next to handled in this Punar Vivah.

I was also bit dissappointed when I watched but feel CVs are on right track and what I love is that no one is making it hell for Aarti, like Sr Sindhia didn;t say anything and even Gayatri not embarrasing her in front of relatives or even family members. But making her understand the gravity of situation in firm yet understanding way. I hate when they treat DIL as doormat and ill treat in front of others.

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Nikhila

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Posted: 13 years ago

Agree 100% . Aarti is definately to blame for the fact that ansh is such a spoilt child. After all its the mother primarily who is responsible for how her child behaves. And the fact that he is rude, and childish and misbehaves reflects on aarti s inability to teach her son some basic manners. so what if his dad left them? does that mean that he has to be indulged and spoilt in everything😲

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Indomitable

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: JanakiRaghunath
I know many here are annoyed with Ansh today for being a spoiled little brat, and I too found him annoying, but upon reflection it's not really his fault. I mean...he's like, a four year old kid, right? Kids at that age behave just like they are taught, and Ansh has been spoiled all his life. Neither his mother nor grandparents ever scolded him as far as we know, and whenever he misbehaves they ask him if he's alright first...which is kind of weird.😕 How can we then blame him if he acts out against his new sisters? He's never had a sibling in his life so Aarti should have prepared him for it, and taught him to be polite. Kicking them off the bed and talking rudely to them won't make them warm up to him. They are little kids too.

I know it's natural for Aarti to feel concerned about Ansh her first day at Yash's house, I don't blame her for that since any mother would like to know how her child is faring, but to quit the tulsi puja which took like...10 minutes max was a bit too much. Aarti should have attended the ritual first and then asked Gayatri or someone where the children's room was, instead of roaming the entire house looking for it herself, and then missing the puja. As annoying as Paridhi is sometimes, even she was better off than Aarti today, at least she does what she's told, and she's eager to learn and please.

Also, I didn't like how Aarti completely ignored Payal and Palak when she found the kids fighting. She knows Yash married her so that his daughters would have a mother, and in front of everyone she fretted over Ansh who was perfectly fine. She could have at least asked Payal and Palak if they were alright as well, or scolded all three children together. This differentiation between them won't settle well in the future.

Today, I felt that Gayatri's displeasure at Aarti was 100% justified. It is not wrong for a mother-in-law to wish that her new bahu would attend all the rituals, since it is part of the post-marriage process. Perhaps if Aarti listened to Gayatri's reasonable wishes, except the whole name changing thing which she was right in protesting against, her new sasuma wouldn't find reason to hate her. Aarti has to make an effort too, not just everyone else.

Truly said, i totally agree with your each and every point and even i feel that Aarti is responsible for Ansh's nasty behavior coz she didn't teach him manners at all. She is neither a better wife nor a better mother. Poor Yash was totally trapped and i feel that Yash would teach her how to take of the kids and also teach Ansh good manners too...😉

Edited by Indomitable - 13 years ago

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harshithaaaaaaa

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Posted: 13 years ago

completely agree with u...i too felt arti should attend pooja first or atleast after getting ready she can ask her MIL about children's room and have a look of ansh and then attend pooja rather searching ansh the whole house...

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umaa

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Posted: 13 years ago

very well said.. nice post.. now aarti is bahu of scindiya family so firstly she should ready to attend all the rituals then should search for aansh as per new mil said...

but gayatri & nidhi has taken the responsibility of ansh so both should look after ansh properly or should ask aarti the routine of ansh so that this situation not happened..😕

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Rumjhum Laha

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Posted: 13 years ago

agree with you..i found both aarti and ansh are damn annoying and aarti seriously needs to learn to be strict at ansh...if any of my relative's kid misbehaved like this he/she god no. of slaps from their parents immediately..i am not talking to slap ansh but aarti should scold ansh at once..but she only politely asked him to say sorry and he refused..i was feeling like slapping him at once

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ananya93

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Posted: 13 years ago

AGREE vth u cmplately...wen i ws watching sterdays episode i ws more irritated by aarthi s behaviour tan yash bc she s responsible 4 his disrespectul behaviour she should try 2 teach him sm good and moral values

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naj7

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Posted: 13 years ago

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Aarti is to blame on the situation not 100%. I guess around 50% with her upbringing.

the other half is her inability to explain before hand to Ansh that his new papa's house has who all and also about his new sisters. She did not actually sit down with him and talk to him. She was sooo engrossed in her dilemma of whether or not to tell Yash the truth that she totally 4got her responsibilities.

Yes she did pamper him, yes her ex-in laws did pamper him & aarti.. but thats normal..

Also it was the responsibilty of Yash & Schindiyas to tell Payal & Palak that they will have a new bro who will be with them and they will have to look after him as he is the youngest.

I think practical talking to the kids is the only solution to this problem.

Also about pooja & stuff.. like i said her ex in laws royally pampered her.. so she hardly did anything besides Ansh and that is her routine..

She needs a big reality check.. she needs realise that now she is a real bahu and not a bahu cum daughter (like before). I guess her ex MIL needs to talk to her and put some sense..

Ansh def needs to be taught manners.. but being harsh with him and forcing discpline on him will have reverse effect. for that he needs to realise the importance of each and every member in Yash's house. I am sure he will come around with some intelligent handling and i am sure Yash will be the person to groom him and i am eargerly waiting for those scenes.

The kids were adorable today all of them...

Edited by naj7 - 13 years ago

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