Why can't Anandi stay in the haveli as a daughter?

Originally posted by: JyothsnaC

How come Jagya feels that she's staying in the house, so she can win that loser of a husband back 😡 and Miss Gauri is pretending she lost her baby because of Anandi 😲 but in reality a womans negativity can get to her unborn child. Why do these producers burn our blood?

Doesn't Jagya know any relation except for a romantic relatioship, can't she live in the Haveli as a daughter cause she loves her his family more than he does? 😒. When will Anandi and the singh family get happiness in thier life?

Originally posted by: woman11

Yes you can a bahu without being a wife.

When my 28 year old cousin died of a sudden accident, my bhabhi was only 25. She was a working lady, so financially independent, and the daughter of well-to-do parents. Her parents wanted her to come back to them, but she refused and continued staying with her in laws--my mama mami--precisely because they loved her immensely and they were shattered after losing their only son.
She is 35 now, never married again in spite of repeated attempts from all of us in the family (my mama even tried to fix her up with another cousin since she was so bent on staying with the family), and she continues to stay with her in laws and looks after them as their own daughter.
She says she is happy the way she is, considers her in laws as her parents and thinks it's her responsibility to look after them since they are getting old and have lost their only son. So what does she expect by staying with them? Their son to come back alive? Well the dead can never come back. So perhaps the property? Well they don't have much and she herself is independent and an heiress to her parents' property. So it must be some other ulterior motive?

I have not made up this story. This is a real life incident I have witnessed and keep getting amazed as to how strong the bond between a woman and her in laws can be, in spite of all odds. Not not relations are based on pure utilitarian basis, there are relations based purely on love and mutual bonding. It's okay if you can't appreciate them, but please don't dismiss them as tainted with some implicit motive.

Originally posted by: woman11

I don't think she had any wifely duties left towards her dead husband, she in fact lives her life as a spinster--she leads an independent life, wears anything and everything and does not announce her widowhood randomly or wallow in it. It's her choice that she is single, else if she wants she can settled with anyone. But does not affect the bond she has with her once parents-in-law. In fact, my mami and bhabhi (we call her didi) went to a party the other day and someone complimented my mami for having such a caring daughter in this day and age. That lady's jaw dropped when my mami told her she was actually a daughter-in-law but now a daughter🤣

One's relationship with one's in laws do not always center on one's husband. It all depends on what the dynamics of a specific relationship is and how the people in it see themselves in it.

Originally posted by: hima_123

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Very touching story. Hats off to the lady.
But in this case, she NEVER stopped being his wife...even after his death.
Her in-laws perhaps needed to be cared for more than her parents did. She was a great woman who sacrificed it.
But Anandi faces no such situation---her in-laws do not need to be cared for more than her own parents do. And if she has really separated from her husband...how could she be a bahu still?? (Unless she has not separated from her husband). If she has not separated from her end, why pretend?

Originally posted by: woman11

But shouldn't that be the CHOICE of Anandi and Anandi herself? Her in-laws are really attached to her, she has been with them since she was 8, so her bond with them is much stronger than that with her parents (with whom she stayed for just 3 cognitive years, if we consider our understanding and memories start from age 5). The Singh family is almost like a foster family for Anandi since that's where she has spent her childhood and adulthood. So can't she have bonds with them outside the purview of her relationship with Jagya? Why do all marital relationships have to start and end with the husband?

There are many instances of sister-in-law bondings or bhabhi-dewar bonding that goes beyond the requirements of marital relationships. I had a friend whose brother got married to another of our friends. The couple separated after a few years, but the friends-turned sister-in laws have maintained their friendship and continue to be in contact with each other. Does that mean the separated wife still considers herself as her brother's wife? Similarly, what Anandi feels for the Singh family or their emotions for Anandi does not necessarily center on Jagya. They have their own dynamics.