Aren't Pradeep's parents to be blamed too?

Disclaimer: I DO NOT intend to justify what Pradeep did. But I think his massive inferiority complex had a lot to do with it.

First of all, don't his parents realise that their beta and bahu have a life of their own? I find Pradeep's parents, esp his father, claiming ownership over Mona as if she was their own unmarried daughter with no other commitments. Pradeep's mom should not have given that dumb advice to Mona about using the artificial coin...and Mona should have used her own judgement instead of being guided by hers. Also, the way his dad called Mona to his place over the issue with Taani...hello, she is your son's WIFE, he has a right to her time and the right to decide whether she should stay with him or rush over to your place. Even Mona did not think it necessary to consult with Pradeep whether she should go to her in-laws place at that time of the night.

Secondly, Pradeep's father is very dominating. He thinks he has the right to decide his children's life. We have seen how he was forcing Taani to marry Madhav. Even now, his parents have not understood that a girl may want some freedom before settling down. Pradeep did the right thing by standing up for his sister at the Holi party. It was something his father and elder bro should have done; but they were more concerned about their business deal than about Taani's self-respect.
Also, his father got Pradeep married at an early age without giving him a chance to complete his studies, which affected his entire career. All these frustrations have been building up in Pradeep for sometime, and that is why he feels closer to Mona's parents (who have more sense and know where to draw the line ) than his own. Even that relationship nearly got spoiled because of the coin incident, which took place because of his mom's stupid suggestion of giving an artificial coin.

Mona is also partly to blame since she gives more importance to her in-laws' opinion than to her husband's. Every man wants to be the hero of his wife; Mona may feel like that for him but she doesn't show it enough. I don't mean by romantic gestures; just by respecting his judgment occasionally. But I can understand her position since she can't offend her in-laws either.

Given these circumstances--a man feeling down in life and career, neglected by his parents and not getting enough time with his wife--it's not too surprising that a woman who pampers him and recognises his ability should be able to draw him to her. Again, i'm NOT justifying what he did; I am just explaining how it happened.

I agree with you and these have been my thoughts too lately! I wouldn't blame Pradeep completely for being attracted to someone else. The one thing I can't stand is his sleeping with someone else, in my world that is a complete no no!!!

First of all very very nice post 👏

i too felt the same when i saw recent episodes. The coin thing even i too really didn't like it at all. atleast Mona must have told to Pradeep before they left to Delhi.

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Mona's in-laws especially her FIL is like my Grandfather - my father's father.

even till date all his son's has to obey his rules. though all are well settled now. i'm talking abt the family situations aspect; not as per education.

like mona lands for all issues to her in-laws so is my mom too. but here my father supports her and understands too as they are elder ones and its a joint family.

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each and every point of ur's is exactly my feelings too. they must give some space to Taani; i liked the way Pradeep supported Taani.

Mona too must support Pradeep; as u said she has that feeling but she cannot all the time which also makes P insecure and inferior.

now must see what Pradeep does after this situation. and Mona too must say all things to him especially if it is abt their kids and family and take his side. i know its very difficult and can imagine the situation too. hope some positive things happen in their life and A leaves them. But when the truth comes forward what will be Mona's reaction??

Well said Blyton, I think Mona's FIL and Pradeep's dad is just too much, He needs to see it from the today's world way, girls do tend to become quite independent and wish to make something for themselves before they get into a wedlock, as a father he should have talked to her and then gone ahead,

I remember his mom saysing ( Pradeep's mom) tthat he ( pradeep's dad) forced Pradeep to get married when he had an accident and kal kuch ho jaye tho then...

The same bahana he wants to put on taani as he has high cholesterol and agar kal kuch ho jayega... and so if he is hail and healthy he wants to see Taani setteled.

I guess Taani is ready to get matrried but at present the time she wants to wait but neither the dad nor the younger brother are ready to listen and Pradeep is the only one who wishes her wish.

About Pradeep I guess he has inferiority complex due to teh fact he got married early and then he could'nt progress in life and now he is getting somewhere due to his work and someones motive,

But still what I don;t get is why he is always in the blaming side towards Mona, I mean they two together made a family and have 3 kids, she is doing a lot for the family too, after 10 -11 years of life both partners have to start showing equal share , I know that even if a couple gets married early somewhere there is some planning done and the husband could have taken the initiative, but here Pradeep did'nt take it initially and now he is the one who is feeling that many a times he missed the bus as he got married early,

Also Mona I have seen that first time she has always tried to tell Pradeep the problem and later wished to talk about us, and when she wished to tell about the PSP which Bulbul stole and since it did'nt work the other parent wanted compensation with money and Mona had to give the amount, The root was there itself, If Mona wanted to talk about it Pradeep should have listened as that was the crux of the problem which led to then buy the artificial coin as she has used the savings and then the mother in law also telling her that let us hide from Pradeep

So series of events led to this problem with the coin..

Donno if they trace back with the actual root of the problem. Mona always wanted to come up with the truth but feared that Pradeep would get very angry , but also Pradeep would always want to talk about US when they are alone and not give some time for her say something first and then they conversation could turn better and make more out of their time together,

Overall I feel that Pradeep needs to balance many things and Mona and he can do it together if resolving can be done first with issues...

This is how I see it 😊

very very nice analysis Shanti!! 👏 i agree with u!!

about pradeep s father it s right.but almost all parents r so eager to get their daughter s settle down once they finish their studies..even though world has gone so far ahead in each & every house this is the prob.either father or mother ll be there to do that.but he should nt have forced pradeep to get married soon instead of continuing his studies.for a son marriage comes 2 nd,1 st it s his studies & job of course.

is pardeep a baby ?? I mean he is in his thrities and for how long an indian boy or a girl keep on blaming his parents for everything !!! pardeep gets attracted to another girl due to his parents !! wowo !! what a thought !!! he is an adult and mona is an adult they must use their own senses to carry their own responsibilities. And they must be be the one to bear the blame of their stupid mistakes !! I dont think so it is fault of their parents ------------ people must leanr to take responsibilities of their deeds when they are grown up------ it is not always parents fault. Pardeep cheate don his wife because he is not happy with his life deep down and he got attracted because he didnt know how to control himself!! not because of his parents. he stepped outside his marraige because he is a weak man and any woman can easily take an advantage over him be it anushka or anyone else !!