Does Gayatri Scindhiya have a valid point?

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Posted: 13 years ago
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I know the general sentiment of the forum is against Yash's mother. She comes across very selfish,most of the times. But are her objections are a bit realistic at times... Her last night's dialogue about herself, that she speaks bitter,but she speaks truth,set me thinking. While differentiation on Shagun hurt, but her POV that enthusiasm in remarriage isn't same as in first one, isnt entirely groundless. Society does view remarriages differently. Even Yash and Aarti arent half as excited as first time around. But yes being a mother she shouldnt have differentiated,even if others do.
Second and more offensive point was that she didnt buy presents for Ansh. Now, about this I think she genuinely forgot about Ansh's presents. As soon as Vidhi saw Shagun,her first comment was that she may have forgotten something...So Gayatri was mighty irritated,at reference to her memory,and defended herself by offering her flawed justification. But when Vidhi asked about Ansh,she was genuinely perplexed for a moment. But of course she couldnt confess that she has actually forgotten. So she tried to cover up by saying that its enough that he is getting their name. But the very next moment she said that they dont have time to buy new clothes,so give him an old,unworn one. This by no means was respectful,but it was the only way for her to come out of an embarrassing situation.

Now coming to today's precap, maybe its too early to judge,but if we do consider the precap to be correct, isnt it reasonable for Gayatri to expect that her would be DIL greets her and her husband appropriately. Yes I understand that Aarti has been weighed down with a LOT of things,and her mind is preoccupied with thousand thoughts. But still she cant be lost in her own world at all times, now that she is getting married and moving ahead. Even I felt that she should have atleast looked at her MIL,while she was doing Aarti of Aarti😆 and Paridhi.

So yes Aarti's MIL does come across at quite mean and selfish,most of the times,but at others,she does have some legit objections,in my POV.

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Posted: 13 years ago
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You r actually right. I did not understand what gayatri said in the precap.but if thats the case, ya aarti should hv greeted them...we know aarti's situation...but we can't expect gayatri to understand that as well. But i feel so sad everytime she looks at Ansh with a disapproval. Poor baby!
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: DMKJ_VB

You r actually right. I did not understand what gayatri said in the precap.but if thats the case, ya aarti should hv greeted them...we know aarti's situation...but we can't expect gayatri to understand that as well. But i feel so sad everytime she looks at Ansh with a disapproval. Poor baby!



About Ansh, we all feel bad. But Gayatri's character is not such that she would accept Ansh with open arms from Day 1. But at the same time, I dont think that she is all evil who would wish any harm for Ansh either. Maybe It would take a lot of time for her to accept Ansh by heart. and it maybe intersting to watch hoe Ansh wins her over with her cute antics.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Yes, i agree with you.
Arati should come out from her stupid Prashant and Manasi world😡 to the beautiful Yash world😃

And yes, Gayatri does not have any ill feeling to Ansh but its just that she is too concerned about Yash's daughters which is right in her way and I think she will accept him once she will see how Arati is taking care of Yash's daughters.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: jikky_84

Yes, i agree with you.

Arati should come out from her stupid Prashant and Manasi world😡 to the beautiful Yash world😃

And yes, Gayatri does not have any ill feeling to Ansh but its just that she is too concerned about Yash's daughters which is right in her way and I think she will accept him once she will see how Arati is taking care of Yash's daughters.



Yay!!! at least someone agrees with me😆 Even I think Gayatri's primary worry is about Palak- PAyal being neglected due to Ansh...But when she sees how misguided her assumption was,may be all her fears would melt away gradually.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: -enchanted-

I know the general sentiment of the forum is against Yash's mother. She comes across very selfish,most of the times. But are her objections are a bit realistic at times... Her last night's dialogue about herself, that she speaks bitter,but she speaks truth,set me thinking. While differentiation on Shagun hurt, but her POV that enthusiasm in remarriage isn't same as in first one, isnt entirely groundless. Society does view remarriages differently. Even Yash and Aarti arent half as excited as first time around. But yes being a mother she shouldnt have differentiated,even if others do.
Second and more offensive point was that she didnt buy presents for Ansh. Now, about this I think she genuinely forgot about Ansh's presents. As soon as Vidhi saw Shagun,her first comment was that she may have forgotten something...So Gayatri was mighty irritated,at reference to her memory,and defended herself by offering her flawed justification. But when Vidhi asked about Ansh,she was genuinely perplexed for a moment. But of course she couldnt confess that she has actually forgotten. So she tried to cover up by saying that its enough that he is getting their name. But the very next moment she said that they dont have time to buy new clothes,so give him an old,unworn one. This by no means was respectful,but it was the only way for her to come out of an embarrassing situation.

Now coming to today's precap, maybe its too early to judge,but if we do consider the precap to be correct, isnt it reasonable for Gayatri to expect that her would be DIL greets her and her husband appropriately. Yes I understand that Aarti has been weighed down with a LOT of things,and her mind is preoccupied with thousand thoughts. But still she cant be lost in her own world at all times, now that she is getting married and moving ahead. Even I felt that she should have atleast looked at her MIL,while she was doing Aarti of Aarti😆 and Paridhi.

So yes Aarti's MIL does come across at quite mean and selfish,most of the times,but at others,she does have some legit objections,in my POV.


I think to some extent she is right as she is a mother she wants her son's happiness coz she is afraid that as her son as already gone thru a lot and now she takes every small thing seriously out of fear of collapsing his son's and grand daughters happiness and may be her nature is considered to be little harsh. But it's early to come to any conclusion let's see how her character unfolds with the developing story😕...
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Dear Readers,
I am writing this with personal experience. I got divorced when my child was 1 year old. I was not ready to remarry, but when my child turned 7, I met someone who was in the same situation as me. He had a daughter age 6. She lived with his ex-wife, but spent 1/2 of all her vacations with him and every other weekend. Before deciding to get married, I had told him that the only reason for my second marriage was to get a father's love for my child. I was well off financially, so I did not need a man to support me. My child had no interaction with his father after the divorce. We did not have a joint custody like my current husband does. I also said that whenever his daughter visited us, she would never feel that she is with her step mother. I would try my best to be her friend and make her comfortable. In my marriage, my mother in law gifted me two sarees, two salwar kameez, one gold set and one pair of diamond earrings and pendant. After the marriage I found out that one of the sarees was her sister's. The sister had worn it, gotten tired of it, then given it to her. She had worn it in parties and gotten tired of it and now she gifted it to me, on my wedding day. The other saree was a gift to her that she did not like. Out of the two salwar kameez, one was torn and the other one was something that she did not like.
Would you treat a woman, who is going to enter your household and become a part of your family like this? After treating your bahu like this, can you expect your bahu will respect you? I dont even think them worthy of spitting at!
I am not poor by God's grace, but even if I was poor, I would tell my daughter in law that I cannot afford anything new for her. But I would not give her worn clothes as chadhava. I dont know if you would agree with me or not.
But things did not work out nicely after marriage. His daughter could run all over the house, my son was not allowed to do that. His daughter could watch cartoons, my son was not allowed to watch them. His parents would come from grocery shopping and announce loudly "look what candy I have gotten" - and naturally being a kid, my son would also go to his new "dada". I still remember that man took the candy and gave it to my "new" daughter and kept the other piece of candy on the table and walked away. My son asked me if that was his candy. I was so hurt, I really did not want my son to touch it, but I had to give it to him, not to hurt his feelings.
My husband started to treat my son really bad too - as his daughter was having problems in elementary school and my son was on the Principal's list every semester. I wanted to divorce but could not because it would have really hurt my parents. I made sure that I was with my son at all times. I went to work after I dropped him off to school and then got off work and picked him up from school. We have managed this way for 10 years. I really dont give a damn about my inlaws after the way they treated my child and me.
Everytime my MIL would call on our anniversary, she would be like, oh you are still there, I guess I should wish you. I would smile and say thank you. For the past two years, I have stopped calling her and I do not pick up her phone. First she used to say you never call me. I used to reply your son gives me your messages as you speak with him daily and I am sure he must be telling you everything about us.
I am going to stop as I dont want to relive the pain and the anger.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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@ ekomas:

I "liked" your post and then I realized that that would be weird...what I mean is, I admire your courage. I don't like what happened to you.

Sounds like a really tough situation.
I agree that there can be no justification for such crass and insensitive behavior. In real life, nasty people remain nasty...time does not improve things...and decisions made with the best of intentions don't always turn out well..

You are an independent and strong woman and seem to have faced the worst with courage.
Kudos to you!

And the very best of luck to you and your son. 😊




Edited by narangi_77 - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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@ ekomas
you are a brave women who fought everything alone for your child.

But yes such insensitive and selfish people do exist very much in life...

hats off to you dear😊
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Posted: 13 years ago
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@ekomas...i salute ur strength. May God Bless u and ur son.I am sure ur son has loads of happiness stored for him in his future .

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