I understand/support Sandhya's POV

Originally posted by: sunshyneluv

Sandhya's character has been dealt with very badly. There is no consistency whatsoever.

Speaking of her dream of becoming an IPS officer...the personality she projects in situations she comes across is absolutely unfit for a police officer who would actually have to deal with worse characters than a halwaai family.

Sandhya's reservation about things and taking time to adapt..and basically all her issues could have been explained had the CVs kept track of her mental state/transformations. It's not unreasonable for her to be acting irrationally in a situation she's been forced into soon after losing her parents...but they should have shown her struggling with that. Instead, we get to see Sandhya just standing there with her mouth open and eyes dazed. Very uncharacteristic of the strong and ambitious girl she was claimed to be.

What hurts is that it could have been such a good story, but they've completely lost track and any sense of rationality.

Originally posted by: sunshyneluv

i think it's also difficult to understand sandhya's reservation about Suraj because they haven't shown her see him as an inferior. She never looked at him as if he's gross for being a halwai..he's not her equal and all that. Given the amount of time they've spent together and what all Suraj has done for her, any normal person would have started to be attracted to the other person, unless they can't get over the "he's inferior" issue...or if she finds him unattractive. But Anas is too attractive to make it believable :p

basically, they should share more of Sandhya's thoughts...bc after all, it is HER JOURNEY that we're talking about.. and portrayal is dangerous ambiguous lately.

Originally posted by: luluzippadooo

Point1

Sandhya was never the classic play with dolls/ frilly pink dresses type (though there is absolutely nothing wrong in liking dolls/pretty dresses)...She probably will never be the type to be completely fulfilled being a homemaker, not to mention she was only barely mentally prepared to be married...Again, there is nothing wrong being a housewife but some women ( and some men) have personalities that genuinely enjoy creating a home/ creative cooking/ interior design etc... But Sandhya has a God given ability and desire to do something different... If Bhabho, Sooraj, the community or even she herself forces her to change her basic nature, it would never work in the longterm... How long can an eagle pretend that she's happy being a chicken and lose the chance to ever spread her wings and fly high? (again, please note: nothing wrong with being a chicken !😊)

I don't hink anyone is upset with Sandhya due to the lack of homemaking skills she possesses...rather it was the rude behavior towards Suraj she exhibited today that personally got my feathers ruffled. Forget about looks...although that helps...the guy is sweet enough to give anyone diabetes.

Yes she didn't grow up playing with dolls and waiting for prince charming...but she did marry the guy...did she think her husband would never expect her to consummate this marriage? Would she have done so by now if Suraj was educated? She says she has compromised with her situation in life, but she's lying to herself and the audience.

Point 2

I know DABH is not real life but can any of you middle class graduate girls imagine being married off woh bhi dhoke se to the local sabziwala/ dhobi / etc?

I didnt think so!

Of course, being educated has nothing to do with being goodnatured...But I think it's important to respect your husband...Even though Sandhya says in every other episode "Mein inki bahut izzat karti hoon", I find it difficult to come to terms with...I echo Sandhya's friend Preethi's speech to Bhabho...Only "Mahaan" Sandhya never thought like that because I (and I'm sure much of the audience) certainly did! Maybe in time, Sandhya will realise that Sooraj is what she needs and wants despite their differences but give her TIME please !!!

Being educated...you're right...I couldn't imagine myself being married to the local anything, with or without dhoka 😆. If it had been a dhoka, my reaction probably would have been the same as Sandhya's on SR.

Having said that...if I had gotten a halvaii...and that too as charming, caring and patient as Suraj...I swear, I honestly would have gotten over it long ago. 😆 Suraj has never forced herself on her...but this girl doesn't even let him touch her shadow...ouch!

Point 3

There is absolutely no privacy in that family...Everyone's noses are in each others business...Even if Sandhya ever thought of experimenting with Sooraj just out of curiosity/boredom, the recent "Paapad in Palank Fun Rathi Family Circus Event " must have killed every possibilty...Does forcing the issue improve matters?

This I agree with you 100%.

But remember...the papd scene was hard not only on Sandhya, but Suraj too. She ran out of the room, but Suraj had to face his family and answer his mother on such a private matter...EEEKKK! How uncomfortable was that? 😕 But he answered everyone and defended Sandhya in such a noble manner...and she had no reaction to give him...😲

If Sandhya was really respected Suraj and was sincere with him she would have atleast tried to move in the right direction...I mean no rush...after all he's giving you all the time you need. Even offered to set her free. But this girl is confusing poor Suraj...on the one hand she doesn't choose freedom and go with her brother...agrees to do the bathing rasam...but then lashes out at Suraj for choices she made under pressure of people other than him...so not fair 🥺

Originally posted by: dailyvisitor

the point here is, sandhya respects suraj, but doesnt love him yet... or might be she doesnt realize that she is falling in love with him slowly...

all the papad on bed circus done by bhabo made sandhya think on those things between a husband n wife, and also the suhaag raat words of that new girl during snan rasam...she is definitely not prepared for all tht right now... but she is scared that one day she might have to go thru all those... whenevr she thinks of those she cannot handle it n in that scaredness she told suraj tht she cannot giv him any happiness... bcz she has never thought abt it till now... i think sandhya has expressed herself well...

Its not necessary for her to fall in love with Suraj so soon [we know he is good, but she needs time to realize it], or forcefully accept tht she is in love... u cannot love everyone who helps you n are good to you in your life as a life partner... it might take one look for someone to love and for other some months and for remaining years...