Kokila Modi the Mom - Page 7

Originally posted by: shruts18

Thank you Munni for replying in such detail...😊All i can say is All is well that ends well!..And we see good points in a person we love and find out the loopholes if we see him or her in negative perspective...I am at all in doubt over Koki's doubts or intentions but her ways of dealing with the things are just too agrressive...annyhow thanks for replying me post! and hope that everything turns out to be good in the end...because its Gohem that matters for me, and they shouldn't be affected I believe and I hope if Koki is doing everything for them it really really works!😊Thank you Munni once again😃

Originally posted by: ANJ4

Munni i just love your analysis ... I am understanding koki more and more... brilliant ... as always

Originally posted by: Justlikethat1

@Shruts..
After that awesome defense by Munni, I am going to try to add a few more points in Koki's favour

- You are absolutely right about her initial behavior but I think her character changed for the better after she got to know Gopi truly.
- As for when Naani came, Koki was more irked because her mom also has the habbit of puttin her down without thinking things through. Yes. when Naani rebuked her she was angry but that was not ego. It was Koki's belief that she made the right decisions in her children's life. Hindsight as they say is always better. But Naani rebuked her and did not let Koki give her an explanation. Plus the anger was more of that of a mom who is rebuked for bad parenting. Come on, No mother will take that lightly...

- As for the embroidery scene, Koki was and still is trying to make Gopi strong. Getting educated does not mean that Gopi is not a DIL or wife anymore.. Koki at the end of the day wants Gopi to excel in everything she does.. A mother will be ready to punish and scold her child but she will not be ready to allow her child to be scolded or commented on by others. That is Koki. What if Hetal comes back and says (not that she will) that due to studies Gopi is not able to concentrate on her work? Kokila did not want that to happen.
Plus that scene showed her immense faith in Gopi that she can handle both her education and the household stuff together. Unfortunately Koki did not know that Rashi was adding on to Gopi's workload..
- As for the movie theater part, Koki was sure something was cooking between the two that was making Ahem miss his work. She had more than an inkling that Rashi was involved. She just wanted to get to the bottom of it and hence her behavior..

Originally posted by: munnihyderabad

thank you tina... appreciate it...

- @bold : every parent sees or would like to see a reflection or a glimpse of themselves in their child... 80% of indian parents do that they cherish their dreams through their kids...classic example 3 idiots movie...the baby is born they say "mera beta engineer banega" it's nothing new when a mom in rajkot wants her kid to be a successful businessman... she did try make her son into a successful businessman... and she has inculcated the strict foundation of punctuality and dedication from his childhood...

- she is not a dictator ... she is plainly strict and she believes in being a strict mom unlike hetal...

she tries to teach her son and her DIL... the ways of life in her own way... as her son and vahu do not have the acumen to judge people like rashi...she is teaching them the harder way... as we say the more bitter the medicine is the better it works...😃

so as long as she is alive she will be protecting them and teaching them... and will make sure that they can take care of themselves when she is not around😃

Munni, these kind of forum brings out divergent opinions😉. My take is different from yours & it will never change whatever you say in Koki's defense😛. It is not that I hate Koki's character but she is wrong & somebody has to show her devastating eff ect of her harsh thinking.

Inculcating values & morals is duty or rather responsibility of all parents. Mera beta engineer banega ….awesome encouraging thoughts …without our parents pushing & supporting us to excel, who would? If we are not taught to dream big then we'll not try hard & not use our true potential. But there are some parents, who try to live their dreams through their kids. These parents push their kids so hard like Koki without even thinking what the kid wants. It is almost like Ahem is the puppet & Koki is the puppeteer. Defo the puppets need puppeteers to perform. The puppet may get frustrated at times, but without the puppeteer, the puppet is just a piece of hanging cloth nothing much to look at. But now that Koki has churned out real 'Man' she shd take a chill pill 😉😆

We can dream but kids also have their wants, aspirations & desires. Being supportive & encouraging is different thing & being pushy is altogether different. True, children are & shd be reflection of their parents but some parents like Koki enjoy "bragging rights" of their children's success as it makes them look plain good & satisfies their ego.

I know, there is difference b/w reel & real😊. In today's day & age can you imagine taking decisions about yr kids? Maybe, I grew up in west hence cannot comprehend this kind of mindset. She is plain tyrant there is difference b/w being supportive, encouraging and being strict & dictator.

Good she is making GOHEM strong to face the harsh realities of life & ace the journey of life. All the drama, followed by tears lies there only 😛 & all this will lead to TRPs 😆

But for real life success story...

Let your kids dream big but please do not dream big for your kids ...just my 5cents😃

Originally posted by: munnihyderabad

you are welcome shruti... harini also replied to ur questions which i could not answer.. please do read it ...it's on page 6.

so once again i say koki is a mom who cannot think or do wrong to her kids