Journey of being together - Sharing his problems!!

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Posted: 13 years ago
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With Ahem in a dilema of not being able to convince his mom & with his Kaka asking him to be early for work to finalise on the project, he did not know what to answer, his mom answered that he would not be going to work & he was not well...Gopi's complete attention was on him & she was concerned for him...she was about to get medicines for him when he cut her abruptly !!!
Latter as Gopi came into the room, Ahem in the meanwhile was contemplating on how to handle the situation !!! As she called out his name & asked him to take the medicine, he glanced at her face which was full of worry & concern for him...there was a visible change in his face as he pushed his anger down & replied back to her saying that he did not want it ...As she insisted, he asked her to leave him alone & walked away from her...leaving her no option of reaching out to him...On the surface their relation did look like they still have distance between them as both are unable to open up & share their problems with each other !!!
The morning shocked Gopi when she saw Ahem ironing clothes...she immediately rushed to his side to take over it from him ...As her Maaji walked in she was a witness to the interaction between her Ahemji & Maaji...her maaji ordering him to iron the clothes & him agreeing to his mom...She did not know what was going on !!! After her maaji left, Gopi requested Ahem to let her do the work...Ahem took this opportunity to explain it to her on why he was doing it...he answered all her questions without hiding any truth...when Gopi was about to take the blame he asked her to leave it & not bother about it...Similar to the kite flying incident time where he was disappointed on losing the competition & walked away from Gopi to only latter reach out to her to listen to her & also explain his point ...In contrast to the past Ahem who always took out his anger on Gopi & ordered her to get out of the room !!!
Ahem explained clearly to Gopi that his mom has lot of expectations on him & that he has already let her down & that he is taking punishment for it...Even in all of this he ensured Gopi knows everything but at the sametime he is not allowing her to take the blame. He is standing in front of her as a husband protecting her from anything which effects her...On the other hand Gopi has seen the love & strong relationship between her Ahemji & Maaji from the start of her marriage into this house...as Ahem asked her to leave him after burning his finger...she was hurt that there is friction between a mother & son because of her !!!
In the past when Ahem could not stand Gopi & threw money on her face during Kinjle's wedding saying that she must be happy now because he was humilated, she expressed her feelings out to herself saying that hope he understands that how can she be happy when he was sad & that her happiness lies in his happiness...Now knowing that she is the cause for the friction & seeing her Ahemji trying hard to please his mother & being hurt, she is distressed...will she speak to her maaji & explain that she was the reason that Ahem was not there for the meeting? Will she be able to please her Maaji saying that they have gone to get the bangles for her !!! Hearing the truth from her Maaji that only because of Gopi that her Ahemji is not giving importance to work, will she distance herself from Ahem? will Ahem be able to recognise the distance if she puts in between them? will he allow her to do it or will he put a stop to her efforts of getting in distance between them? Ahem is at a crossroads unable to keep both the women in his life happy at the sametime...as of now he is on the path of pleasing his mom but if Gopi is what he needs to give up to keep his mom happy, will he do that?

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Posted: 13 years ago
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welcome back navya...hope u had a great vacay...wonderful post as usual...good to see ahem not furious with gopi...but what he does at this point in time will determine his relationship with both women forever...gopi as we all know will distance herself...will ahem then be able to tell his mom a few hometruths and resolve the problems...i sure hope so...at this time we just have to wait and see..
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Welcome back, Navya. I was missing a family member. As always a thought provoking post.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Before marriage he had given up his then love Anita for his mom. So I have no doubts he will give up Gopi...again for the sake of his mom. It is Koki who should really be giving up her need for control...

The only way Ahem would stand by Gopi is if his love for her is real..But then would that mean he did not really love Anita?


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Posted: 13 years ago
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Navya, welcome back!! Wonderful analysis👏

In all this Mom & Son confrontation what I noticed is that Ahem has become perfect Saathiya to Gopi. He'll never leave her side will infact protect all the time come what may.❤️ He spoke to her very calmly.
Kok, what can I say, it is good that she has spilled her venom, now Gohem together will be able to find a solution to take care of her ( high hope...no harm dreaming😳)

People are so complex . A mixture of both good and bad with a denial of both . And it's just my theory but the good that is around the corner will only come if you make it happen by being who you are. ...this is what Gopi had done earlier with Ahem ji. Now I think Ahem will do the same with Koki. To lose faith is far easier than holding on because everyone, and I mean everyone, is dysfunctional in one way or another. Here Koki, Gopi & Ahem all have some flaw or the other...nobody is perfect...the combination can be 80/20. or 40/60 or 50/50
That is just a fact. But our flaws , as bothersome as they are, are what make us unique and special.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Wonderful analysis Navya... And a very good question in the end.
I go with Tina.. Ahem has been a true saathiya this time and has and will protect Gopi.. I am holding on to the optimism that just like after Teej, Kokila will realize her mistake soon.. As Tina sai, she is spurting venom (I would have said her innermost fears) to Gopi and Ahem. Once she gets it all out she will be ok and will be able to think beyond her anger.

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: varshu27

welcome back navya...hope u had a great vacay...wonderful post as usual...good to see ahem not furious with gopi...but what he does at this point in time will determine his relationship with both women forever...gopi as we all know will distance herself...will ahem then be able to tell his mom a few hometruths and resolve the problems...i sure hope so...at this time we just have to wait and see..

Thanks Varshu...yeah had a good vacation...yeah I agree with you on how Ahem handles the situation will make an impact on his relationship with Gopi...we know Gopi would take the blame but how he shields her is what Im waiting for...
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: Xarina

Welcome back, Navya. I was missing a family member. As always a thought provoking post.

Thank you Xarina !!! Yeah I also missed so much being part of the family...with no access to net or phone...I could not come on to the forum!!!
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: Dhabu89

Before marriage he had given up his then love Anita for his mom. So I have no doubts he will give up Gopi...again for the sake of his mom. It is Koki who should really be giving up her need for control...

The only way Ahem would stand by Gopi is if his love for her is real..But then would that mean he did not really love Anita?


Well Dhabu Ahem must have loved Anita, but was that love strong enough to hold them together...it was not as we see he had given up on her...Now he is in love with Gopi...so only time will tell us if it is strong enough to hold them together...we have already seen him supporting her at all situations even if he did not like her...with his feelings changing he is way beyond just supporting her...he is with her in all the decisions...he has already seen what will their separation do to it during the accident track...so Im sure he will never ever give up on her..
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Love your anaylsis... Hope you had a good time.

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