Double Standards.

Yoh what's with used un-virgin men demanding for pure virgin wives?

Originally posted by: P1nk

Yoh what's with used un-virgin men demanding for pure virgin wives?

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Originally posted by: P1nk

Yoh what's with used un-virgin men demanding for pure virgin wives?

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More of a cultural thing and that is inequality, not a double standard.

Double standard would be if a boy demands his wife to be a virgin (regardless of his own virginity) but would expect that his sister or daughter's husband should not question her virginity.

I hope that clarifies the prevailing definition of double standards.

Originally posted by: P1nk

Yoh what's with used un-virgin men demanding for pure virgin wives?

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Not much of a debate, p1nk, it is double standards, or to be more specific, it's the case of throwing stones while living in a glass house.

Originally posted by: King-Anu

what's with

- boy's family taking barat to girl's family and not girl picking him up

- girl living with her in laws and not the boy living with sasu maa and sasur ji

- girl giving chai to sasu maa next day and not boy making chai for sasur ji

- saas bahu serials and not sasur damaad serials

- with girl changing her last name

- with dowry from girl's side

- with girl lowering eyes and boy eye candying during marriage

- with boy riding on horse/donkey and not girl (like that stupid scene from MBKD)

- with "beti aab to pati ke ghar se us ke guzar jaane ya apne guzar jaane ke baad hi aana" message

Now these were select assortment of things that I have observed over time. I do not know what to make of it. lol. To be honest if you flip it I won't be able to accept it as well.

@ this topic. Yes its wrong. Yes its double standards.

Feeling better?

None of the above qualifies for double standard. They are all cultural/traditional things.

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Originally posted by: TheUltimate

More of a cultural thing and that is inequality, not a double standard.

yeah it is inequality, but double standards imply inequality, hence the name.

Originally posted by: osama-bin-joe

yeah it is inequality, but double standards imply inequality, hence the name.

Not always. Double standards have more to do with hypocrisy. A politician, for example opposes tax increase... unless his own party does it. Then he supports it. Where is his standard? Yeah, that's double standard.

Originally posted by: TheUltimate

Not always. Double standards have more to do with hypocrisy. A politician, for example opposes tax increase... unless his own party does it. Then he supports it. Where is his standard? Yeah, that's double standard.

that is double standards, but take the examples from 1.your post and then 2.the topic.

1.When the non virgin wants a virgin but doesn't feel the need for people to reject his sister because she's not a virgin , that is double standards because what applies to others doesn't have to apply to his own kith and kin. Agreed.

2. When the non virgin only wants a virgin as a bride, then it is also double standards as it is clear that his desire for a virgin does not mean that the girl should have any problem with him being a non virgin. The fact that he offers himself on the marriage market as a non virgin but says "oh no, I only want virgins" shows that he has double standards.

I feel that the difference is between 1 and 2 is that he has double standards on behalf of a third party, ie, his sister(s), and that he has double standards for himself. So say we are to discuss this in terms of inequality in 1. the non virgin sister and the non virgin girl are not given the same rules(thus inequality) and 2. him and the girl, both being non virgins are not being given the same rules(again, inequality) It doesn't matter if he says "I want only virgins" or "I don't want this girl as she is a non virgin", it's the same thing. Plus double standards are the same as inequality as when there are two different standards, the fact that they are different(and hence not equal) show that they imply inequality.

However this is just my opinion, you and I may like to define or rather interpret terms differently.

BTW, I have fun reading your posts. :-) Hope I can look forward to reading more of them.

Originally posted by: TheUltimate

Feeling better?

None of the above qualifies for double standard. They are all cultural/traditional things.

Thanks for your participation.

Originally posted by: osama-bin-joe

that is double standards, but take the examples from 1.your post and then 2.the topic.

1.When the non virgin wants a virgin but doesn't feel the need for people to reject his sister because she's not a virgin , that is double standards because what applies to others doesn't have to apply to his own kith and kin. Agreed.

2. When the non virgin only wants a virgin as a bride, then it is also double standards as it is clear that his desire for a virgin does not mean that the girl should have any problem with him being a non virgin. The fact that he offers himself on the marriage market as a non virgin but says "oh no, I only want virgins" shows that he has double standards.

I feel that the difference is between 1 and 2 is that he has double standards on behalf of a third party, ie, his sister(s), and that he has double standards for himself. So say we are to discuss this in terms of inequality in 1. the non virgin sister and the non virgin girl are not given the same rules(thus inequality) and 2. him and the girl, both being non virgins are not being given the same rules(again, inequality) It doesn't matter if he says "I want only virgins" or "I don't want this girl as she is a non virgin", it's the same thing. Plus double standards are the same as inequality as when there are two different standards, the fact that they are different(and hence not equal) show that they imply inequality.

However this is just my opinion, you and I may like to define or rather interpret terms differently.

BTW, I have fun reading your posts. :-) Hope I can look forward to reading more of them.

Sorry, but I disagree that #2 in your example is double standard. If a boy thinks that regardless of male's virginity, female should be a virgin at the time of marriage... well, then, he has all the rights to have that opinion.

Remember, we are talking from the boy's perspective. He has double standards only if he thinks differently about the status of virginity (at the time of marriage) when it comes to different females and hold them to different standards.

We can surely agree to disagree.