Jeet should stop forcing his parenting on pinky - Page 2

Originally posted by: Luv4games

i doubt ginny would understand after sweety tells her the reasons...i am not blaming her...i remember when my parents used to tell me that we dont trust people around you, or something bad could happen or you are young, at the time i didnt understand...i would just think they are giving excuses...but as we get older we can remember those reasons and realize that wait a minute they were so right...it all made sense...so even if sweety tells her everything she will still want to go and blame her mom for overacting...which is totally fine..ginny is too young to understand everything but i do think at least sweety will have soemthing to back her up...and in the meantime rocky is a little older so he could understand why mom is saying no and not take ginny secretly

Well Ginny will be disappointed no doubt about that. But when a parents just orders a child without giving reasons for the same, the anger boils within the child. The thing is SweetyG has never explained her reasoning to her children. She has just order them what to do or what not to do. She has never sat with them and talked about their day or what bothering them. Like Raavi or Raashi or Sunny tells Pinky about their day, have not seen SweetyG's children ever sharing about their day on their own.

If from the beginning parent and child have open communication and whenever reasons are explained for a certain no or even yes then the child understands and trust the parent and feel they are not bulldoze into things. Ofcourse they will be disappointed and may even think at times that parent is giving excuses cos their need to do that forbidden thing is greater. See the larger picture as you yourself said later on you understood why your parents said that no. But in SweetyG's case it will not happen cos there is lot of resentment within children already as there is hardly any open communication and trust. And every no without justifiable reasons and just stating a firm no makes them more resentful and leaves no scope for communication and trust to build on.

Originally posted by: sweta01

Parents should never show they are on different wavelength to children. They can discussed difference of opinion later but never in front of the children. Pinky is submissive and thinks whatever Jeet says is correct. She should start discussing her views with him.

SweetG gives her opinions in a jiffy on whatever the issues crop up and she thinks if she says yes or no then it has to be followed cos she is the parent. She never tries to listen to her children feelings.

Parents should respect their Children opinions as well. Even if a parent wants to say no, give reasons to your child, why you are saying no. Dont just order them that just cos we are telling you no so no. Give justifiable reasons for the no and children even though disappointed will understand.