Is there more to it or is it just hormones?

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--Sari--

@--Sari--

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Posted: 13 years ago

Surprised to see me here with a long winded post? Bahut din hogaye without a serious post from me; tho kujali hone lagi dhimag mein😆 Anda, tamatar, chappal muth fenko, pehle PS section mein disclaimer pado baad mein shoot, I'm ready...🤣 Aap logonke pyaar ke liye kuch bhi kar sakthi hun...🤣🤣🤣

Tho why a change of heart?😕 Arrey baba, aaj pata chala Naitik naukari bhi kartha hai aur he is busy. YAY!!!🥳 Aur lukka Mohit ko bhi naukari mili...Double celebration...🥳

Topic start karne se pehle itni bak, bak, tho socho...😲 how much I have to say...Aaj Divi se baath bhi nahi huyi thi...🤣

Now, we have come full circle! This is what happens in real life situations. I am glad CV's finally decided to show a real life scenario, Naitik actually busy! He wasn't making any silly excuses! Akshara finally waking up from her deep slumber; hormonal hi sahi😆 Jab attention miltha hai tab uski kadr nahi. Ab when he is genuinely busy and she needs him the most, she can't have it. Bummer, right? But that is life!

With all the mood swings, maa se brownie points lene ke liye jo qurbani ki thi it doesn't seem that important anymore. Hmm...koyi humhari baath sune tab na...😆 Now those moments with your husband, oh so precious! When you are pregnant & feel vulnerable, minor things like rumal nahi lena is magnified tenfold. It happens, blame it on hormones😆

Life does not remain stagnant; circumstances do change. Husbands have to deal with work pressure outside the home too; it's in Akshara's best interest to understand his situation & take good care of herself & the baby. Akshara has a cushy life, loving husband, doting in-laws who don't let her lift a feather & parents who live within a few miles. G3 gave her good advice and that is the reality. I haven't seen past episodes but if she really doesn't do anything around the house except sit around; this is bound to happen. An empty mind is a devil's workshop. Ab Naitik cannot even talk to female employees in his office😲😲 & oh pls don't compare him to RR...🤢🤢 Lagta hai Jaipur mein Bubbles ki mulakat pakki...🤢🤢🤢

Life is not always a bed of roses; neither can your husband take care of you 24/7. Usko bhi zimmedari hai; Naitik's case is better than most, he can dump it on his dad & walk home but not so for most people who will simply be forced to stay home w/a pink slip. Most girls(me too) have worked until our due dates, busy husbands who return in the wee hours know & appreciate Akshara's life more than anyone else would. So get off the self pity band wagon & enjoy the ride coz life after the baby ain't going to be a walk in the park😉

PS: I am not here to bash neither Akshara nor Naitik coz I have crossed that bridge & moved on😉 It's about a real life scenario; Akshara & Naitik are just being used as a premise for my views.

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@mini_00

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Posted: 13 years ago

Nice and apt post sari especially for the woman who is working during the pregnancy time. Since iam working especially in foreign countries we are so independent what you said in your post is 100% correct we have to work until our due dates. No body to look after us since we are living in abroad. And moreover it is impossible to expect the hubby to sit and look after us 24/7 and it is quite impossible nowadays, and hubby also carries so much work load and if the wife at home expects a lot from him then it is going to be problematic. Working ladies will agree to my point to some extend . hope so. In naksh case lack of communication plays an important role from the beginning of the pregnancy track.

Since akshi is being a pampering child in her home and naitik too we cannot expect them to be understanding and mature and they need some time and these incidents will fine tune them to be mature and caring parents. Sometimes stress of work makes a person withdrawn, reserved and easily irritated.

They don't like to discuss anything with their partners especially in naitik case it happens in yesterday's episodes. Akshi starts hiding her personal problems her expectation, fear anxiety from naitik. She was afraid that if she opened up she will irritate naitik even more and therefore she chooses to keep quiet. She forgot to remember that lack of communication is the first step towards a failed marriage.

And since it's her first pregnancy

we cannot expect more from her. Birth of the first baby is also sometimes a cause of communication lapse between the naksh and akshi has to give more and more time to the baby and the naitik has to spend more and more time in the office. As a result they get a chance to talk after a long pause and when that happens there are complaints and disagreements over trivial issues and this is what happening in reality.

It's common to have mood swings for akshi during pregnancy, because of hormonal changes that affect her levels and the broad range of feelings she may have about becoming a parent. Everyone responds differently to these changes. Some moms-to-be experience heightened emotions, both good and bad; others feel more depressed or anxious.

That is happening in akshi's case. It can be very hard to get naitik to understand what she is going through when she is pregnant, because not all of them want to learn about the changes that come when she is a baby factory. If akshi has changed with her pregnancy it's totally normal, and maybe naitik needs a reminder that this isn't who akshi is, it's what her pregnancy is bringing to the table. And it's temporary.

Mutual understanding therefore is the secret foundation of a relationship. And good communication is the key for mutual understanding. . both of naksh should gave a words of encouragement to each other which will surely help them to achieve everything in their life...

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ZaaraBB

@ZaaraBB

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Posted: 13 years ago

Good Points Sari di.

Akshara has finally realised the importance of spending time with her husband,We haven't seen what has happened in the two month leap,but seems like Naksh haven't spend some quality time together,Agreed with what you said,she is there sitting around doing nothing the whole day and then the Amrita ji lady,the client or whatever she was/is...An empty mind is a devil's workshop,here she will be thinking things,her husband don't have time with her...blah blah blah...not answering her calls and all,she HAS all the time to think of all this she does?.

But on the other hand,yes Naitik is working,everyone works,hard,depending on the circumstances,he has time to answer every other call,eat Chinese and then come home...and not sitting with his wife for a few minutes?..How comes when the baby is coming all of the work piles on,(in this case RB also,what G3 was saying?)

We all know in Pregnancy,everyone has different hormones and different feelings...TG Akshara is no grumpy and Miserable but now she is thinking she is changing so Naitik will change..and all other rubbish she can think of...And Plus the Singhania's has her sitting in her room,like she is SICK and NOT Pregnant so depressed,lonely feelings toh ayega nah...

AUr haan never ever compare Naitik to rr..Naitik is a million times better😆

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JAYA_09

@JAYA_09

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Posted: 13 years ago

Loved ur post sari. But one thing y every one feel nk is ignoring ak, ak feel like that he is not interested in her, its not like that.

I too know during pregnancy v want our hubby should be with us v need so much attention from him. But y ak feel like that i am totally confused.

Haan its true when nk want to spend time with ak she not even think how nk mite felt,the same thing happening with ak now.

But nk should also feel ak has having ss make her busy or even ak want to make herself busy .

Here both should talk each other.not thinking nk not having for ak,and ak feel nk is ignoring her becoz of her weight.really i feel both should realise what they do an understand the situation. but i am not loving this track,

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mahwishsolanki

@mahwishsolanki

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Posted: 13 years ago

ur post is commendable n i also feel that they are showin the practical side of life which is good..but as v all know the drama is always larger than life naitik being bzzz is something else n ignorance is something else... nobody in any post has critized him being bzz its jus his attitude which is being critized.n every1 sayin when naitik wanted time she never had that but her senario was different when a girl comes to susral she has only one thing in mind n that is to win every1 heart n in that process she feels that only husband is her property to whom she can say anything n can make him understand others else will not...n if u c akshara she has always been happy with little gestures not big thing even in todays episode she complained only for bye nothing else n i feel thats not much...n she understand that he is bzz but atleast she shud get time at nite wid husband but husband is not even willin to giv that... i hav seen lot of my cousins married and they are also very bzz ppl their wives also got pregnant but i remmeber most of them when came bak home had always spent some quality time wid wives coz they realize that their wives needs them most emotionally at this point of time thy are also workin women...soo wat im tryin to say is akshara is not worried of naitik's being bzz but his ignorance...n wat kind of luv is this u r not wid ur wife when she needs u the most..n its not always huggin kissing jus one word or jus one thing to care of urself is enough n akshara has always been shown cintent wid little things...this is my point of view..

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madhavi

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Posted: 13 years ago

Sari you are with post?😲 ok todays episode made you make post? i also thinking but other way😔. i saw so many married and preg. and everyone have time to atlest call ones and say bye. so i can bring my tamater and chaappal to you😆
i just did like that you rote was true. but we are here in usa and working woman. i think its diffrent when they are at home. i wasnt expecting natik to be spending time with akshi or going for walk. but at lest he should pick up her call or if he didnt have time then he should atlest call her back. and regarding work pressure we all have it man or woman at work but do we do that when we come home? i dont. or nither my hubby. we atlest give smile. and find time to call each other at lest after seeing miss call. i think i should stop now while i never experiance motherhood. but he was always with me in my low and my high. so i think i cant connect to my self with natik i felt for akshi. so do my hubby😆 he came home from work and complaining about naitik that how he can do that and how singhaninya again become poor and needed the loan😆
PS- sari dont mind but today i am at akshis side and if this happen in real life i am glad that i didnt have this problem.

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JAYA_09

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: JAYA_09
Loved ur post sari. But one thing y every one feel nk is ignoring ak, ak feel like that he is not interested in her, its not like that.

I too know during pregnancy v want our hubby should be with us v need so much attention from him. But y ak feel like that i am totally confused.

Haan its true when nk want to spend time with ak she not even think how nk mite felt,the same thing happening with ak now.

But nk should also feel ak has having ss make her busy or even ak want to make herself busy .

Here both should talk each other.not thinking nk not having for ak,and ak feel nk is ignoring her becoz of her weight.really i feel both should realise what they do an understand the situation. but i am not loving this track,

guys dotn knwo y alwys ss becoem bikhari's,that 's y nk is going here and there and he is more busy not havign tiem for ak rb ko maarna chayiye yaar koi kaam nahi aatha hai usse becoz of dj the company is runnign.now mohit resigned too nk shoudl take care of every thign in the due course he is nto givign time for akd and the baby. so ak feel neglected. or ignored by nk. but really what the cv;s want to shwo dont knwo and hope so this track end sin happy way, cant see both of them liek this.

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Posted: 13 years ago

OMG.. 😲 Is this true.. You come up with a post.. 😲 🤗 today i logged in thinking i ll open a thread about similar topic only.. But obviously taking Akshara's side.. 😉 I guess now theres no need about that..😆
Di, from yesterday i was missing u n charu di's comments so much.. Even if we had a lot of dsc here on serious thread, its all incomplete without you two.. 😳
About ur post, i loved it.. I agree that they are trying to portray real life situation, but for this they have completely changed Naitik's behaviour.. I have never seen him like this in last two years..
I ll come back to this point in detail later as i m in hurry now..
PS. Thanx a lot for such a wonderful post.. Subah subah pleasant surprise mil gaya.. Mala khup awadal.. 😉

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JAYA_09

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Posted: 13 years ago

Haan pari but they show nk in complete change ,in last two years he was never busy working like this. but one thing rb is totally waste yaar he know how yell at nk like gay3 yelling at ak. but no other way nk character has been showed like this and again they face crisis dj going to bash rb yaar wnt to see that. and mohit left the job so nk has to do every thing now and he is not giving enuf time for ak now ak need more support of nk.

but what is paagal aurat dono doing cant they sit and talk to ak yaar always they think about their daughters not about ak gay 3 is happy her daughter is going on honey moon but if naksh does its alwys a problem. really so much partiality .

coming to topic want to see naksh talk to each other and clear their problems not keeping inside it vl burst one day, but dont knwo both of them not realising how many changes going thru their life now,. as every one felt lack of communication between naksh play a big part,

hope so every thing become normal dont knwo how many days nk vl be in jaipur ,and i dont think this amritaji vl be a problem in naksh life, cv again vl not show anything like this again and hope so this amritaji vl help naksh i know she is a designer i feel its gut feeling dont knwo what is going to happen dear totally confused.

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Charu

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Posted: 13 years ago

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"pyar ke liye char pal kam nahi the, kabhi tum nahi the, kabhi hum nahi the" 👏

kabhi akshara ko kaam tha, aaj naitik ko kaam hai...ek bye kehne ke liye 2 sec lagte hai aur ek kiss ke liye bhi 2 sec hi lagte the...i wonder why maate doesn't understand what all she did but only complain what naitik isn't able to do 😔 i have no complaints with her, she had her set of majboori's...her MIL finally made akshara and her life the carbon copy of hers 😆 humare zamane mein pati patni movie dekhne aur holiday par nahi jaate the, toh maate bhi nahi gayi...unke zamane mein unke husband 1 week ke trip pe chala jaata tha toh naitik bhi chala gaya toh maate should not worry 😆maate got what she wanted from life but wait a sec . why is she sad? bec. this is reality and the 2 yrs she wasted with naitik were precious n they will never return...when naitik will have time for her, she will be busy with kids... i dun understand why females need their husbands with them during pregnancy 😳 aisa bhi kya hota hai?

i never wanted to witness this phase in YR bec. i went through the same..thoda heartache hota hai to remember old times ...i've been there n done that..pehle my husband used to come frm shop at lunch specially coz i liked i didn't have food w/o him...we always went out together...slowly after getting pregnant, woh bhi kam ho gaya...i used to crib endlessly when he was late in night, spending time with his friends..slowly after 1-2 fights, i stopped complaining and waiting...ab i dun care he has food with me, he comes at what time in night, ab i'm not bothered he goes for business trip for a week or 10 days 😆 i learnt to adapt n get used to the changes...everyone does...the only diff. many dont even get those 2 yrs which akshara got 😆 i remember that time when naitik didn't like it tht akshara didn;t have tea with him...he was at home for madam's service but she was busy with silai...none of them did anything on purpose though but they will realize the importance of these small things only AFTER they will be bound with new set of responsibilities...

these changes come only after pregnancy and what they're showing is very real..the reason is that intimacy is almost absent for min. 2 yrs (pregnancy and 1 yr after having a baby) , the distance grows, the limitations r set (i cannot go out, have this or that, in akshara's case, bahu should have food on time, ye nahi khana , bahar nahi jaana), the changes start getting visible...in real life it takes 3-4 yrs to realize ke haan everything is changing...in YR it's too quick and silly...all of a sudden naitik didn't say bye and didn't pay attention to akshara, it's very weird..abhi toh bacha hua bhi nahi...all i can say is ke this change will surely come (may be for maate it will not coz they can show anything in YR,. they can show naitik as a poodle anytime in future) , akshara should think positive and enjoy what she has..enjoy the company of her MIL (which normally we don't, we only want our hubby but maate does so..), her maayka ppl. who r so exited for the baby ...

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