Why does anandi hang around the haveli still?

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tinoo

@tinoo

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Posted: 14 years ago

I think by now, in anandi's place, it would be obvious to me that though all the people in my in-laws place are being nice to me, they are nice out of a sense of moral obligation.

The reason people are not talking to jagya is not because they themselves have something against him... these people are dying to talk to him and to have a relationship with him even after all that he has done... the reason is because they dont want to scratch the wounds of their young beendhni... and Anandi overhears this through conversations... she sees sumitra crying and dadisa saying I dont want to hurt beendhni etc.

In her place, I do not think that I would want to hang around this haveli, even despite the 'dil ka rishta' that she has with her in-laws.

I would definitely speak to bapusa about my legal haq, and request him to provide me with a monetary settlement for this mess of a marriage that he had arranged, and go to a college (considering she has that option). I would be friends with my in-laws for life but would not hang around there anymore -- if my presence in the house was causing blockages in the other relationships.

Instead, she hangs around the haveli with that silly adult education class of hers -- a responsibility she need not undertake on her own head because the government has several schemes to educate adults if the sarpanch of the village puts in a request. She gives speeches to the sadhu (a nutcase not worthy of even giving her attention to), she gives speeches to asha, she gives speeches to dadisa to not worry about heth singh.

And while dadisa makes her nice gestures -- about drinking chaas to prevent acidity etc-- will this be able to go on year after year after year?

Is anandi who is now 25 or so to stay like this until she is 30, 35, 40, 45?

what is her long term plan?

I feel the CVs have cheated me -- if this was the story of an abandoned wife who stayed at home and made good her existing lot while crying over her husband and his memories, I would not have watched.

The promise given through several social messages in the precap as well as the long lectures by anandi directly was that this was to be the story of an abandoned child bride who blossomed into an independent adult and took a decision to shape her own identity.

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jyothi

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Posted: 14 years ago

There is no point in anandi hanging around in the haveli anymore.Everybody is supporting her but it seems more out of guilt at how 'Their Son' has treated anandi. All these people wish her well but they miss jagya who may have hurt them terribly but still he is the son of the house.

Is this how anandi future will be all her life?-😵every festival,b'days,karva chauth,missing jagya ,praying for him in temples even though he cruelly abandoned her and is no longer part of her life..

And how long can her future be tied down only to her past to jagya..sooner or later jagya gauri will have a kid and dadisa will want that child in haveli ,will anandi even live in the haveli then.😲.hope we dont have tosuffer her singing lullabies to that kid...😵

Why wait till such a time,just move out ,focus on her own life ,education and better future-make a clean break now and move out..

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tinoo

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Posted: 14 years ago

Yaa, and anandi too needs to take a stand.

Is she beti or is she bahu?

If she is staying there as the beti -- then she needs to step up to the plate and to tell dadisa to organize as grand a celebration as possible just like all these years as jagya described.

Anandi was listening behind the curtain -- she knew that dadisa and sumitra wanted to celebrate -- but did not because "chhoti beendhni ke ghaav kyon kurdene?"

If she is staying as bahu --and she is still in love with him-- then she needs to realize that bahu is only appropriate if son of the house wants you as beendhni.

If dadisa and sumitra had said "we dont care for this boy anymore " then that is a different issue...

but dadisa and sumitra are saying "we would love to celebrate, but we dont want to scratch choti beendhni's fresh wounds"...

And anandi going and trying to put a bandaid on sumitra's wound by going and standing next to her, and trying to make the sabji and telling sumitra to rest ... does making sabji compensate for sumitra's pain?

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vasuja

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Posted: 14 years ago

Loved the post tinoo...Well said. What is Anandi's future plans??? how long does she plan to go on like this. She has asked the family people to accept JG and make them a part of the family. But how can they do it if she hangs around. She may be ok with it. that does not mean the family has to be ok with it. A lovely track would have started if she has gone to college. A new world, new challenges would have been so nice to watch. Anandi track would have been very very interesting. that is what i expected to see.

I would have been ok with the family half heartedly accepting JG and JG coming to the haveli. I would have been happy seeing them getting excited to recieve Anandi's calls. The CVs just screwed Anandi track. The adult education, the gungat, the haven and the jaipuri dolls don't make it interesting at all. The sad part is I skip, mute or FF Anandi track these days. I see JG track only when they argue and skip the rest too...Thanks to u tube...i can happily Fast forward and avoid the crap.

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tinoo

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Posted: 14 years ago

yaa... whole family walking on eggshells around anandi so that they dont hurt her feelings.

anyway, i dont want them to drag this out to the same sequence on every single holiday or celebration -- crying about jagya -- wanting to talk to jagya but not doing so because anandi is there -- crying about jagya

it will become like the de danandan series -- initially it was entertaining, but then it began to drag on nerves with the same sequence of events -- gauri approaching some or other family member, the person insulting her, and she crying -- then the cycle starts over again.

Enough, as viewers we get the message with one or two incidents. 😆😆

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tinoo

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: vasuja
She has asked the family people to accept JG and make them a part of the family. But how can they do it if she hangs around. She may be ok with it. that does not mean the family has to be ok with it.

I think this part in red highlighted above is the problem. Yes, she says she is okay with it, and "aap log unko apnaa lo, and gauri bhi patni aur bahu ka darja milna chaahiye"... but then her behaviour completely belies that she is okay with it.

As soon as JG will enter the haveli she has lots of reactions which state the opposite

1. she starts fainting, they have to go to a doctor

2. she starts dropping teacups and saucers

3. she starts burning food standing in front of the stove;

4. she starts chopping vegetables and then lops off her own finger 😆;

5. then she goes and sits in the rain and gets wet -- again a burden to the singh parivar because now they have to deal with pneumonia threat.

6. then she gets fever and people have to now put cold compresses on her head.

If she says it is okay, then it should truly be okay. But it is not okay. So they dont want to trigger off one more incident.

It is not just the discomfort of having JG there while a is there ... it is a's own reactions to having JG there that alarm the family.

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Suchi-

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Posted: 14 years ago

Anandi should leave the Singh manor or else , it will be worst for her, for her future.

But then again she is going to enter into politics so perhaps she willl move out
what ever. I am like vasu now. Don't care mode.

I know Anandi will be successful in the end, but I do not like this drag fest and what CVs are doing,

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jyothi

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Posted: 14 years ago

That's the problem ,Cvs have made her into a beti cum beendnii kaa combo pack-she has taken up responsibilities and duties of both jobs but she has the rights of none...🤔.. In fulfilling these duties she has forgotten to nurture her own identity as an individual...

The family is supporting her as they accept their ladesar's behavior was despicable towards anandi but it doesnt change the fact he is still their 'ladesar'.. In a few years they will forgive his crimes and welcome him back whenever parpotha arrives..why wait till then 😳.. it will be tortuous seeing anandi (😉again behind curtain) watching dr couple with dadisa,sumitra and rest of the singh family ..

Living in the haveli she will never be free of her jagya fixation and the family will be in constant mourning over missing jagya...Their mutual tear wiping society will only keep reminding them of their mutual pain..

Anandi should just move out, she no longer belongs there-neither as beti or bahu...

She needs to carve out her own identity that isn't dependent on the singh family..why not go to city college,stay in hostel ,become successful ,economically independent ,realise the whole world doesnt revolve around dadisa's haveli...

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vasuja

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: Suchi-NivReniac
Anandi should leave the Singh manor or else , it will be worst for her, for her future.

But then again she is going to enter into politics so perhaps she willl move out
what ever. I am like vasu now. Don't care mode.

I know Anandi will be successful in the end, but I do not like this drag fest and what CVs are doing,

Yup Suchi all charactes in BV are hopeless right now..Don't know when CVs will turn someone mahaan and some one else evil. The biggest hope I had from this whole track was seeing Anandi in some college, studying, suceeding, and a makeover from the gungat to Salwar...I have nothing against samaj seva...but I wished she did something for herself. I wished she for once took the kaalima roop and punish jagya or atleast defame him publicly and move out...Thye had made her a very soft and unfortunately boring character. If Anandi is lead is it really tough for the CVs to spend some money in college track...As of now the only interesting track is JG fights, even in their track the mentor baashans, college kartoot and romance is yawn worthy...The CVs had a golden oppurtunity to make the track interesting...A punishing J or atleast freeing herself and not helping him, A studying...J struggling in Mumbai without money. G understanding J's true colors...I understand CVs want to drag...but even in the story line I mentioned they have enough oppurtunity to drag...And i would have happily watched the drag fest. The current track is absolutely boring and annoying. I read only updtaes if I watch then it is online and I fast forward most of the serial...

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Khusi

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Posted: 14 years ago

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I don't know what they r trying to show, they r more into project the pain and depression of a rejected wife who is more or less lost in the darkness. We all know that r the ill effects of child marriage. But what about her moving on process, it is too slow. What cvs r showing to show anandi's progess r not practical enough. There is a severe lack of long term vision.

Showing the suffering is enough now ..show some strong steps to move out from it.

But present track and upcoming track r so depressing. Specially this bday track.

Now I just hope heth singh will create some big prob so that we can see some strong steps from anandi. I really dislike what she is doing right now.

In the presents situations r making me feel like...I am chewing a tasteless bubble gum.

Edited by khusi_* - 14 years ago