Dislike anandi's crying

I really dislike all the coverage given to anandi crying over jagya.

Anandi crying scene was dragged for too long...its could have been shortened...waise itd ok if she is crying...getting over a relationshio takes a looong time.

But Niharika -- per my understanding it has been 5 or 6 birthdays that they did not spend together.

Originally posted by: tinoo

But Niharika -- per my understanding it has been 5 or 6 birthdays that they did not spend together.

The last birthday they were together was his medical college first year - where he was dancing with guari and introduced her as his "door ka rishtedaar" -- after that they have never spent any birthdays together and he was always nasty to her. During those years, did she even call him for his birthday ? I doubt it, he was way too nasty to her she used to be scared of his outbursts.

So, yes, now there has been a "formal" separation and this is the first birthday apart from jagaya in the eyes of the rest of the world -- but for anandi -- it has been now 5 or 6 birthdays. what is there to start crying?

They were not formally separated for last 5-6 bdays...he was away in college but Anandi didnt think tht he's got another gf she was under the impression tht Jagya is disliking her because of her low education...This time she knows tht he's never going to come back so naturally the grief will be more.Even during the mumbai bday she didnt know tht Gauri and Jagya are involved she just thought tht he's ashmed of introducing her to his frns because of her education level.

They were not formally separated for last 5-6 bdays...he was away in college but Anandi didnt think tht he's got another gf she was under the impression tht Jagya is disliking her because of her low education...This time she knows tht he's never going to come back so naturally the grief will be more.Even during the mumbai bday she didnt know tht Gauri and Jagya are involved she just thought tht he's ashmed of introducing her to his frns because of her education level.

Hehe.she was remembering his lust.hehe good ise jyada tv per nahi dikhate varna kya kya yaad aa jata.hehe.ya even i was like shocked to hear dat it is his first birthday they r nt together.dialog writer is making mess i guess.

When someone is alone then controlling over heart and mind is difficult. Not only these type of painful feelings come to mind but also some strange feelings also come (jo insane sochta hai ki who bhul gaya hai!!) Here anandi is still in pain of her broken relationship.

It is ok for me if her actions won't convey mgs to jagiya that she is still remembering him. As niharika said…it is dragging but still ok.

Even she will go to temple to do avishek for jagiya…that's even I can tolerate

But

Which is I really dislike is anandi will call to jag to wish him as far as I understood from SBS vid. I dislike that (if that will become true). There is no need of that. Anandi can control her emotion and shouldn't call him. She is strong enough to control that. By calling him she conveys the mgs that hey whatever u do u can do I can wait for u …something like that. And jagiya can say to anyone with full confidence in my case anandi cant do anything which I hate a lot.

Anandi did call him before to inform about the money transactions. Even that's ok for me coz she was unknowing show jag that he is living under anandi's help. Very short convo not an emotional one. That was fine for me.

But the bday wishing call….whether jag able to receive the call or not, I really really dislike anandi's this action.

I know kushi. That sucks that she will call ...
I know its going to be really hard for her to stop herself. IN times like this, the brain gives million excuses like

Oh well he was your friend
you did spend so many years together
so he deserves a little bit of courtesy etc. etc and the excuses go on.

When in reality , we know that she wants to hear his voice. She is so hopelessly in love with him that even though he kick her , she will get angry momentarily, but just forgive him and then yearn for him again.

Its called the battered wife syndrome. And she is suffering from that. I have seen women like that. Jagya treated her bady but did not abuse her physically (a lot) like some drunk men do. And still their wifes/partners want them back.

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The syndrome develops in response to a three stage cycle found in domestic violence situations. First, tension builds in the relationship. Second, the abusive partner releases tension via violence whilst blaming the victim for having caused the violence. Third, the violent partner makes gestures of contrition. However, the partner does not find solutions to avoid another phase of tension building and release so the cycle repeats. The repetition of the violence despite the abusers attempts to "make nice" results in the abused partner feeling at fault for not preventing a repeat cycle of violence. However since she is not at fault and the violence is internally driven by the abuser's need to control, this self-blame results in feelings of helplessness rather than empowerment. The feeling of being both responsible for and helpless to stop the violence leads in turn to depression and passivity. This learned depression and passivity make it difficult for the abused partner to marshall the resources and support system needed to leave.^[7]

Feelings of depression and passivity may also be created by lack of social support outside of the abusive situation. Research in the 1980s by Gondolf and Fisher found that women in abusive situations increase help seeking behavior as violence intensifies. However, their attempts at seeking help are often frustrated by unresponsive extended family and social services.^[8] In a 2002 study, Gondolf found that more than half of women had negative views of shelters and programs for battered women because of negative experiences with those programs.^[9]

suchi...

lol OP I LOVED the "pull up your ghagra". Made me lol.