KESAR...FAR FROM IDEAL??

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Ganga

@Avatarana09

Dazzler

Posted: 14 years ago

Actually there was not much in today's episode. I was responding to JZee on her post. But I thought I would make a separate post on Kesar after all.

Yeah JZee, work keeps coming up and slowing down. i did the Mahaepisode write up anyhow. Today, there was nothing more than that simple yet beautiful scene.

I agree with you to the power of infinity what you say about Kesar being sidelined. Though I watched the show only because Neil played Kesar, I have sincerely, like a true fan watched the whole show to get the feel of the story. In spite of my late understanding of the story, I very much enjoyed the Vasant and Gulaal scenes. I am honest when I say it was not out of the already available information that Vasant is no more because there was still a possibility that Vasant may return.

But honestly, Vasant was there for about a month in the show. And I have always hated the fact that Vasant's photo hangs everywhere. Vasant was an ideal son, no doubt but the family has been overtly obseessed with Vasant. One of the best scenes that I have loved in the show was that of Kesar telling Motaba that he is not Vasant and does not want to be one. The family has been largely involved in replacing Kesar for Vasant by all means. I remember reading here in the forum when it was written that in order to keep Vasant alive, they are killing Kesar's personality. I had written that too differently.

Kesar has matured over this period. He has had a troubled childhood too. Anyone in his position would have been insane by now and it surprises me that he is still capable of showering his love towards Guaal, his parents and be civil with Dushyant too.

And I feel sorry for Kesar that everyone seeks Vasant in him. I respect Kesar for what he is. In spite of all the shortcomings in the form of anger or any other thing, Kesar is ideal in spite of not being ideal. He is loyal to Gulaal whom he thinks as his wife and love of his life. He can be cold with her and hurt her too but is a thorough gentleman in not laying a finger on her with a bad intention, who can sleep on the hard floor of the balcony just so that Gulaal is not in discomfort. He is not shy in repeating that he loves her but has the utmost patience with her even when he has been slapped by her many times . He respects and understands Vasant's position in Gulaal's life and asks her to let out her emotions as tears instead of withholding them. He has been the ideal partner to Gulaal in his own way by caring for her happiness in little ways; and he adds meaning to Gulaal's life..

He is the ideal friend when it comes to Talli that he is not making her trapped in a loveless married life with him though he is capable of leaving her stranded midway.

He is the ideal brother who cares enough to apologize to Yogesh's boss when it came to Reva's suffering.

He was the ideal individual when he went on to bear the medical expenses of the guy he had injured because he was genuinely sorry.

He is straight forward in demanding the truth about his brother's death or in demanding the truth about Dushyant and Gulaal's relationship that too from his mom. He comes home drunk but respects his dad to the extent that he does not want him to feel hurt over the issue and can also go to the extent of bringing an old time friend like LaljiBa just for a brief period of happiness in his dad's life. He can throws tantrums, and he can mess up his room in anger.

He can be the supporting adult with his concerned MIL and drop her home in his bike and he can be child like in demanding his share of gift from someone like Sarufui.

But no one in the house seems to ever care for his feelings. All he has done is give away unconditional love to all and never sulking for once that he is not being given enough love and care.

Will the family or Gulaal ever appreciate him? Since everyone is ending with a note suggesting the end of the show, I too would conclude asking will 20 episodes be enough to make up for the lack of understanding that the whole family has shown when it comes to Kesar.

Edited by MeySimi - 14 years ago

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Manoshono

@Manoshono

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Posted: 14 years ago

AWW ganga, by reading your beautiful post regarding kesar exceptional performances as kesar, as a son, as a husband etc, made me inspire by him even more... This is absolutely true, kesar has handled alof of things perfectly and i would give a stand 👏 to the writer and the director for laying out his character beautifullly and obviosuly to neil, for he who did justice with his given character... kesar is such a strong yet soft character in this serial. This character and so as neil has proven himself to be called as an ideal in the tv industry... just love him!! and thats why i really hope that starplus wont do injustice with this serial, as it still needs to show how everything else developes over time...i really hope this serial stays on air after 19th aug!!

Great post ganga!!👍🏼

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Piu Chatterjee

@Transference

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Posted: 14 years ago

👏Agree with you absolutely on each and every word...It is very difficult to show something interesting when the show is ending..but I absolutely adore Kesar...his character is very human...passionate and caring...LOvely analysis...👏

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Ganga

@Avatarana09

Dazzler

Posted: 14 years ago

Neil's expressions of Kesar at the breakfast table were really awesome.

When Sarufui announced her decision Kesar was startled. Then he was concerned for Gulaal as to how she would feel listening to this. He bent his head down because such a serious and sensitive issue was being discussed openly in front of family all of a sudden. Kesar was not yet prepared for this. Then there was his inability to react because he saw that his father was quietened by Sarufui. He glanced at Gulaal to read her feelings. When Gulaal sweetly asked her to reconsider her decision, he offered his support to her and went on to suggest distributing the land to all children. He was wise in suggesting that, even Gulaal seemed to agree to his idea. It served him dual purposes. One was to save the situation and avoid the heir to the family issue. And second, he sensed the probable rift in the family after Jamna Kaki staged a walk-out.

We could see his care for his aunt when he heard her saying it was her last wish. When she mentioned that only a child can fill the void left by Vasant, I felt we could see Kesar's sadness at the mention of his deceased brother, sadness seeing how much it affected Gulaal, his inability to be part of the happiness which his aunt claimed that Gulaal may get with the arrival of a child because he was not welcome into her life as her husband. At that moment, all that he could do was to close his eyes for a moment to take in the pain he felt in not being able to save the situation that was being discussed. Everything depended on Gulaal herself and though Kesar wants to give her utmost happiness that everyone feels she deserves, he is not able to do so because of Gulaal herself. She was standing in the way of her own happiness that would come into her life as Kesar.

I still don't understand why they keep mentioning that the void in Gulaal's life due to Vasant's demise will be made up for by the arrival of a kid. In fact, she already shows signs of getting over that solitude due to the happiness Kesar is bringing in her life. Sarufui is at liberty to assume that Vasant is reborn into the family with the arrival of a child who would be the direct descendant of Motaba's family through Kesar. But at least now, if the elders want to make way for Kesar and Gulaal to find happiness in each other, they should stop mentioning about Vasant in such sensitive issues. That statement from Sarufui could have been to the family and not in Kesar and Gulaal's presence especially not Kesar. At one point, it is being unfair to Kesar. The scenario will be totally different if it were not Gulaal who is Kesar's wife. So even if he hears an elder saying that she or he sees Vasant in his child, it might not matter to him. Since Gulaal is his wife who was Vasant's, the sensitivity here in this case is different. i wish they stop including Vasant in such issues. It would do both of them loads of good. Kesar has been shown to be mature enough to understand her feelings for Vasant, but this is a bit sad for him. He may be absolutely fine with the whole issue but I would say if I were him, it would hurt me for sure. Gulaal should accept Kesar only if she develops feelings for him naturally and I DO NOT want her to consider this option just because it would again be something to do with Vasant and the family's obsession with Vasant. I really really wish Gulaal does not consider this based on the emotion that with the next genereation through Kesar and herself, family will consider that Vasant will be born into the family again. I am just plain against that thought.

KESAR_GULAAL SCENE

The scenario in the kitchen was really beautiful. He has tracked her down to the kitchen and is just in time to save her even such a small trouble as much as a cut finger. I loved it when he gave her an earful saying"Dhyaan kahan hai tera?". He has that right to be angry over her when she does not care for herself. Like you said, he answered it for her too , because like Reema said, he knows her too well. Like how you put it JZee, I would want her dwell over the fact that Kesar has reached the heights of selflessness in his love for her that he is willing to declare it to Sarufui while she prevents him. Obviously madam has buried such a big secret from the family and knowing her well, how can he expect her not to keep this Deeyarvatu breaking incident a secret?

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lisasandra

@lisasandra

Dazzler

Posted: 14 years ago

Nice topic.well said.

Same here also only for Neil i am watching gulaal even i never saw his other show.His acting made me glue to watch gulaal.I like him and wish him good luck in future too.

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without-fathom

@without-fathom

Rocker

Posted: 14 years ago

Ganga - you say it all, and t repeat what I said on my own thread - how long is Kesar expected to be the giver in every relationship?

He's lived all his life post Vasant stepping into those shoes. Accommodating with his family's need to study in the city but return to village for family business. Accommodating to Gulaal's need of being set free. Accommodating to Dushyant's need of being civilly treated. Accommodating now days, to SD's happiness talks. Accommodating even, to the gilt cards of Talli - which despite his own fault, are not all his! Accommodating the fact that no matter who was how much in error in the events of his life, he has to be the one making up - to MB, to Sudha Bhabhi... to Talli... ! Basically, Kesar has never really looked at his life as his own - he's always looked at it, like its an obligation he owes to this range of people called his family - so much, that he probably doesn't even realize how he never stands up for himself. Oh, wait a second. He did stand up for himself once. For his love for Gulaal. What happened? He was the wrong party, Gulaal was right. So he underwent the ordeal of revelations, realized the wrong in his ways, and begun making up for yet another tedious affair!

In some ways, he's never had a chance to be his own person. Still, there remain some distinct Kesar traits in him - like his own boy ways to bring about man solutions for his house. I hope his family begins to appreciate that side of him, the fact that he can be Kesar in essence and still be the responsible heir Vasant once was.

Oh well!

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Ganga

@Avatarana09

Dazzler

Posted: 14 years ago

JZee, you sum it so beautifully well. I have nothing more to say.

I wish, once, for once, this young man gets all the love and respect HE deserves. Everyone seems to care for Gulaal and Talli to a large extent, but never care for Kesar and his feelings as a person. Everyone blames him for his ways. Even Dushyant blames him for his boyish tantrums.

Gulaal is a victim of circumstances, her widowhood was her fate due to Dushyant. She never lost her individuality in the process. She has always had her say to do things that she feels right. I sympathise with her condition. But Kesar is someone who has been burdened with too many expectations from an erratic family. Yet he has been struggling hard to be Kesar in spite of attemting to turn ideal.

I loved when he said the other day "Jaise Hoon". I hope he gets to remain Kesar and someone appreciates him for the person that he is, a person with a golden heart.

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Ganga

@Avatarana09

Dazzler

Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: trifolia

I meant the same. He did make a mistake with regards to Talli. But he is making up for the hurt he caused her. Though Talli is not really interested in her marriage with Kunal, Kesar is trying to be the best friend for her in trying to make it a grand event for her. So in spite of being flawed, he is a good friend when it comes to friendship. That makes the character more real, in not being ideal yet attempting to be one by making amends.

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