Gulaal not accepting Kesar as husband is correct

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darshom

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Posted: 14 years ago

Looking back in the past, when Kesar was a kid and Gulaal came into this house as Vasant's wife, Pan baa expressed that Gulaal is taking care of Kesar like a mother.

Then, after the deeyarvattu the daadi (Vasant and Kesar's grandma) had told Paan baa not to view Gulaal and Kesar as husband and wife but like a mother and son.

So if you look at it carefully, Gulaal took the decision of deeyarvattu with Kesar for 2 reasons.

1. To protect him from Raman because she thought Kesar's life is in danger (overhearing Ramans threat) while she was still coming out of the shock of Vasant's death.

2. To stay in this house without being involved with Dushyant and look after Kesar to fulfill Vasant's Promise.

Ek teer se do nishaan!

So Guys, it is correct in her saying that she does not see him as her husband and considers it a paap because she took care of him like a mother and Kesar has misunderstood this attachment to be love.

I wonder if she still writes her diary and if Kesar reads it, he will know more about her and understand her.

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Incense

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Posted: 14 years ago

again one more mother son relation post ...phew...! anyways its gulaal decision chahe beta banaye ya hubby hume kya 🤪

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datqurlx3

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Posted: 14 years ago

lol well when everyone said gulaal is like kesar's mom no one knew that one day that boy was going to get married to gulaal 😉

and after the DV if they still said that, they said it through the POV that gulaal is his caretaker and protector. to put a name on that relationship, they may have called gulaal his mom

people often need to put a name on certain relationships, and at that point many thought of gulaal as kesar's yashoda.

that didnt necessarily make her his actual mother. [his mother is already there: paan ba]

it reminds me of how many indians marry their cousins. growing up, they may call them bhaiya, but what happens when they end up marrying?

funnily, in the show no one was exclusively able to point out why gulaal cant accept kesar. many came up with their own questions:

is it cuz kesar is younger? is it cuz he's vasant's brother?

i guess us viewers will find out with time 😊

Edited by datqurlx3 - 14 years ago

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bintus02

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Posted: 14 years ago

If she was thinking that way, then it was paap for her to have married him then. Maybe it was okay for dadi to say it that way when Kesar was 12 but now he is a grown man and the same dadi recently refered to Kesar and Gulaal as pati patni in front of Gulaal and she never raise any objection. Gulaal may not at present accept Kesar as her husband, there is no denying that for better or for worst they are man and wife.
Taking care of a younger person is not an automatic qualification as a mother or to be label as one.

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Manoshono

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: datqurlx3
lol well when everyone said gulaal is like kesar's mom no one knew that one day that boy was going to get married to gulaal 😉

and after the DV if they still said that, they said it through the POV that gulaal is his caretaker and protector. to put a name on that relationship, they may have called gulaal his mom

people often need to put a name on certain relationships, and at that point many thought of gulaal as kesar's yashoda.

that didnt necessarily make her his actual mother. [his mother is already there: paan ba]

it reminds me of how many indians marry their cousins. growing up, they may call them bhaiya, but what happens when they end up marrying?

funnily, in the show no one was exclusively able to point out why gulaal cant accept kesar. many came up with their own questions:

is it cuz kesar is younger? is it cuz he's vasant's brother?

i guess us viewers will find out with time 😊

haha completely agree with you melanie...i know alot of people who has called their cousin by sister or accepted that relatinship erent made for that because at the end it wasnt like that... they got married and its all cool... and seriously these post whether or not gulaal is kesar's mom needs to stop... either people are not accepting this truth or they dont want to see our sweet couple... and i must say one more thing... in a husband wife realtionship.. alot of time a wife takes care of a husband like a baby or a child or treat them like a mother, but that doesnt mean they are their chikdren or anything.. its just the way of behaving...always remember... only true blood relationships are true and nothing else.. doesnt mattr how much people refer you as a mother of someone or sister or whatever...

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Manoshono

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: bintus02
If she was thinking that way, then it was paap for her to have married him then. Maybe it was okay for dadi to say it that way when Kesar was 12 but now he is a grown man and the same dadi recently refered to Kesar and Gulaal as pati patni in front of Gulaal and she never raise any objection. Gulaal may not at present accept Kesar as her husband, there is no denying that for better or for worst they are man and wife.
Taking care of a younger person is not an automatic qualification as a mother or to be label as one.

hahah!! good one.. same dadi who asked gulaal to take care of him like a mother.. note just ''to take care of himn like a mother''. and later on in life that same dadi is calling out their relationship as husband and wife... now you guys should get it.. its absolutely normal to mary your devar as i said... count only true blood relationship and with the rest we can have all kinds of relationship 😉 lol!!!

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bintus02

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: Manoshono
haha completely agree with you melanie...i know alot of people who has called their cousin by sister or accepted that relatinship erent made for that because at the end it wasnt like that... they got married and its all cool... and seriously these post whether or not gulaal is kesar's mom needs to stop... either people are not accepting this truth or they dont want to see our sweet couple... and i must say one more thing... in a husband wife realtionship.. alot of time a wife takes care of a husband like a baby or a child or treat them like a mother, but that doesnt mean they are their chikdren or anything.. its just the way of behaving...always remember... only true blood relationships are true and nothing else.. doesnt mattr how much people refer you as a mother of someone or sister or whatever...

Absolutely agree with you. We really need to move past this constant parading of Gulaal as Kesar's mum. The serial is clear enough for people to understand that this has never been the case and yet they insist on posting this kind of comment over and over again. Now time to move away from this kind of questions. Let's get over it.

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datqurlx3

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: Manoshono

haha completely agree with you melanie...i know alot of people who has called their cousin by sister or accepted that relatinship erent made for that because at the end it wasnt like that... they got married and its all cool... and seriously these post whether or not gulaal is kesar's mom needs to stop... either people are not accepting this truth or they dont want to see our sweet couple... and i must say one more thing... in a husband wife realtionship.. alot of time a wife takes care of a husband like a baby or a child or treat them like a mother, but that doesnt mean they are their chikdren or anything.. its just the way of behaving...always remember... only true blood relationships are true and nothing else.. doesnt mattr how much people refer you as a mother of someone or sister or whatever...

thanks anum !!! 😊

yaar, i agree with what you said

& relationships cant be judged only by it's name.

my dad sometimes calls me his daadi cuz i always take care of him, and scold him if he doesn't take care of his stuff.

some people in my family lovingly call me daadi-ma. did i really become a daadi then? 😆

& @ bold: lol yea so true! idk if the topic maker meant it in a bad way or not. so i apologize to the topic maker if my word offends them, i just want to say what i feel about the show. & at this point, there's no turning back, and ppl needs to acknowledge that GK is the main jodi of this show. the CVs saw that majority of people like this jodi, and so they will obviously continue with GK. and plus the show was always supposed to be about them, so ppl might as well not make a fuss about their jodi. the simple solution would be the off button lol.

Edited by datqurlx3 - 14 years ago

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datqurlx3

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: bintus02

Absolutely agree with you. We really need to move past this constant parading of Gulaal as Kesar's mum. The serial is clear enough for people to understand that this has never been the case and yet they insist on posting this kind of comment over and over again. Now time to move away from this kind of questions. Let's get over it.

completely agree with you bintus02!! 😊

yes everyone is entitled to their own opinions, they have every right to think of what they want about the show.

but lets not miss the obvious clues and the main reason for the show.

not having gulaal and kesar undermines the whole show.

it'd be like having dil wale dulhania le jayange not end with shahrukh and kajol lol 😆

or dil to pagal hai not end with shahrukh and madhuri.

[yeah okay im a shahrukh fan, so those were the examples i could think of lol] 😳

Edited by datqurlx3 - 14 years ago

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Taha0023

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Posted: 14 years ago

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Originally posted by: datqurlx3
lol well when everyone said gulaal is like kesar's mom no one knew that one day that boy was going to get married to gulaal 😉

and after the DV if they still said that, they said it through the POV that gulaal is his caretaker and protector. to put a name on that relationship, they may have called gulaal his mom

people often need to put a name on certain relationships, and at that point many thought of gulaal as kesar's yashoda.

that didnt necessarily make her his actual mother. [his mother is already there: paan ba]

it reminds me of how many indians marry their cousins. growing up, they may call them bhaiya, but what happens when they end up marrying?

funnily, in the show no one was exclusively able to point out why gulaal cant accept kesar. many came up with their own questions:

is it cuz kesar is younger? is it cuz he's vasant's brother?

i guess us viewers will find out with time 😊

Well, in our universities (in our subcontinent) one year junior male student need to call didi(bari behen) to senior women.. This is how we kill the chances of love relation between a senior woman and a junior...even it is just one year age differance or may be they are of same age but the man is studying a year late😉 😊 A relation does not need to be tagged and we all should start to call by name to seniors as western people does...By the way, for Kaser, Gulaal was always just "gulaal" and nobody objected on that😉 in any episode.

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