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hmm interesting topic vistaa

i wud ans u here fully later in afternoon

Hey CB😃

forum addiction vistaa and i pmd u about something i need help with.. my hubby gone dabba made and now my net time waitin for maid to come 😆 plus i thought let me see if u r there

Woooww vista di...

hmm vistaa ur topic is indeed bhari bharkam and i prefer light topics so just telling out of top of my head..

i think as i read some place that widow remarriage in ancient times was considered a bit no no and olden days widows had to wear white and shave off their head and as of now also in some parts it happens..

but according to google uncle 😆

Widow Remarriage in modern India was a very sensitive issue and much was done by reformers to enforce this system. Among the foremost advocates of widow remarriage in modern India was Ishwar Chandra Vidyasagar (1820-91). He had devoted his life to improving the status of Hindu widows and encouraging remarriage. Social reformers and activists rallied extensively against the inhumane situation of widows and the legalizing of widow remarriage in modern India. The outcome of these efforts was the Hindu Widow Remarriage Act of 1856.

so if the law is passed widows can remarry if they wish.. but in reality i had only seen widowers remarry not the widows who spend all their life alone or caring for thier children.

todays life is so fast paced that no one bothers to think of single parent and all move on with their life as they wish..

its sad condition but at times its like engrained in the brains ki nahi dusri shaadi nahi karni hai.

i personally know a lady who was my childhood friend, who had married sometime after my marriage and after two girls when she was pregnant again with third child her hubby died due to some circumstances i dont recall now, at that time she was just 28.

fate did gave her a big blow and another blow was she suffered miscarriage after her hubby's death.

there were talks abt getting her married again but she refused for future of her two girls. today she is successful business woman and her girls r married now. and she kept herself busy. she doesnt feel the need of a man in her life.

meaning is sometimes woman herself doesnt want to go with idea of remarriage and samaj kya kahega type of situation arises

all this becoz it has been put in our heads that a widow is a widow
there plight though has improved over the years and they no longer wear white clothes or no jewellery like before

they attend all family functions and dress up good and decent. with some jewellery. just like bahuji

bahuji was fictional character but she was a newly married widow( if that is the right word 🤔)
but she did live her life in comfort u can say..

for rest everyone feels that a widow shud get happiness but she doesnt think she needs to remarry

i guess i just wrote out from top of my head

Vistaa.. U really got ne thinking.. Will put in my thoughts tomm.. Am a li'll caught up today...

woww vista di
nice topic
will comment soon

Hello Vistaa🤗

Thank u dear for your great & serious topic.always i was curious about this issue in India & totally in eastern country s. after all, i m a eastern woman & lived in Iran as a traditional society. Love your topic bt plz give me a time till I focused my thoughts.

Back to u with my comment soon.😉

p.s: bhari bharkam means what ?😳