Originally posted by: Murlal
In everyone's lives comes at least one dark night of the soul, when there is darkness everywhere and all one can see is one's own self and nothing else. Because looking at oneself is the only way one can come out of the darkenss and to see the light beyond and learn to live one's life and to deal with what life gives us.
This is Geet's night of darkness and the time has come for her to see herself and her life. So much has happened in such a short space of time that there are a number of things she must do. She's had to change from an innocent girl to a wife for a day and then to a victim of fraud and then of betrayal from her own family, to an independent woman in the city, then to a woman falling in love and then becoming a wife- that is a tremendous journey for anyone, let alone someone so young. No wonder she's in such anguish.
First, Geet needs to grieve, really grieve for herself: She needs to cry and grieve for the
--- the loss of the innocent, trusting girl that she was- that girl is no more. She never let herself grieve for that girl, she must
--- the way she was betrayed and spearated from her parents,. She's missed them dreadfully but never admitted it, and even now after the reconcialiation, her relationship with them is not the same as it was despite all that daarji says. She knows what he did to her, how can she forget it despite her love for him.
--- for the child that she lost. The child gave her the strength, courage and reason to walk out of her parents' home and to face life on her own. It gave her the strenght to face all that NT and Sasha had to throw at her, even Maan unwittingly was harsh to her in the initial days. She was so brave, but she needs to grieve for the hurt that she suffered then.
Geet must mourn and cry for all those losses.
Then she needs to start looking at her relationship with Maan. This is the first time she's on her own, all these days she's ben swamped by his love for her and hers for him. This is her stepping back moment, to see the love she has for him. There has always been an undertone of obligation in this relationship depsite Maan giving her the assurance that there is none- in fact it is this underlying sense of obligation that reared its ugly head when maan uttered those harsh words. he said them in anger, but she understood them in this sense, hence her response to what he said.
Though he has asured her in actions and words that there is no obligation, but this is something that she has not felt for herself, so now she needs to look at the whole relationship from the beginning and realise for herself that there is no obligation, that their love is beyond all that.
She needs to understand what Maan means to her. Maan has told her or is telling her in his letter what he feels for her and what she means to him, now she must decide what he means to her. She loves him, but she needs to understand what this love means to her. She needs to allow this love to come out and learn to trust it.
I hope he too sits down (with her dupatta wrapped around- that'll get him thinking! ha,ha) and has a good think about why she behaved the way she did and to see how he can envelope her in his love, but also allow her to spread her wings. What I would love for him to do would be to insist, once the dust has settled, that she gets an education and a career. for that is the best way to erase the undertones of obligation that have coloured this relationship,
Maan, let your Geet fly, she'll do you proud.
And before you do anything else, Geet and Maan, allow yourself to enjoy the hilarity of the moment when Lucky tumbled out of the room all bashed up by Maan. And then have a proper conversation. they need to cry and laugh at all that they've gone through together and apart.
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