Does Akshara reflect a real Indian woman?

Hi All,

The marvadi family residing in jaipur, rich in traditions n money...my cuz is married into one... I understand the way they behave n stuff but my sis doesn't even move a leg.. they have servants to do things..she never gets tales down upon..but at the same time she can't say much either..its the elders who take preety much all the decisions.. but all in all she gets the respect n she gives the respect...this show is just too much..they blame akshara..forceher to do things that she doesn't wanna do..have millions of pujas.. akshara n naitik have to take everyone's permission even if they wanna go out on a drive or have dinner outside..akshara putting everyone ahead of her husband..that's too much..its not normal

i agree..there might be many many families like Singhanias..but i never came across any girl like Akshara...there r many women in our country who r so unfortunate , who r emotionally n mentally tortured by their in laws n who tolerate domestic violence for various reasons..but how many like akshara?? we're analyzing her through our perspective..in the show, she's quite happy n well adjusted..does she ever complain? no ! yes, she does it a lot of times against naitik..but according to us, her in laws r worse..toh why this partiality ?

I think broadly the singhania family is quite closer to reality. And women like akshara, they do exist..but cannot be 100% true. Finally its a serial so they will add some masala.

It is true though in a joint family one needs to adjust and not onl akshara, i am sure gayatri, rb and all the members have to obey to the elders. That is how a joint family can be maintained if there is some decorum, if all the memerbs of the family go in difft direction there cannot be a joint familly.

If we take this nandini issue after marriage think the bhua is not wrong in all cases. It is true that elders are more experienced and knw life and things better than what akshara and naitik can.
Love is all good, but it is not easy staying with a crippled and the life style of nandini and mohit is like heaven/earth, poles apart, they cant afford a single servant. So it is not easy.
And from the loks of this, nandini is highly immature, compared to akshara, akhsara has matured so much since her marriage and yeh nandhiniii has no sense.

Back to the topic, akshara reflects may not be 100% the women of now, but say 10-20 years ago, and more so a lady going in joint family, a lot of the things in the serial are true, its a nother matter that because its a serial small issues get blown up.

The recent things that come to my mind are the hallaboo in family to make chinese, I know a lot of houses take offnese to that, naitik getting uspet on being called munna -lot of us can identify with these issues.

Serials always portray women as either subservient or Jhansi ki Rani. There is no in-between or normal women like one of us who see and say it as is. Fight for your rights, speak up when you see something wrong is what normal women do. However serial ke dhuniya mein the lead actors, all they do is tyaag, tyaag and more tyaag. They are so selfless you almost want to hit your head against the next wall you see. The vamps, just plot and plot even to the extent of killing their own sibling. How often does that happen in real life in India?

I loved Akshara's character until they portrayed her as normal girl who always felt inadequate and needed assurance over little things. They destroyed her character after she came to the Singhania's, was still tolerable until she moved back after the separation. Now she is a goddess, she takes blame for everyone, never speaks up and is all about sucking up to in-laws.

Would have been fine if she got the same respect and love from them but all she gets is more insults and accusations. She still doesn't say a word. Where is the self respect? Every person young & old have some aatma samman but not this girl. She lets everyone step all over her. I would have enjoyed watching that too if she sucked up to her husband but there is she is just a deadbeat wife. Usko koyi sukh nahi mila, naahi uska saath and that is the biggest failure in this character. Agar devi ban sakthi hai tho sati Savitri kyun hai?

i dont know..but im also in an from a family like akshi's n here the elders make the decisions..

Originally posted by: piyualka

Although, I have lived out of India through out my life...but go to India very year as my in-laws are there. I know some families who are very rich...there DILs ...may be are not include in the family decisions but they all enjoy life...eat out, go out whenever they like. have kitty parties and the list is long.........have servants to do work at home..........I don't think any girl whi is graduate and from a family like Akshara will agree to kind of life which our dear akshi is living.........

one thing that i agree on is that our akshara doesn't hav any self-respect.. she does speak up wen it cums to her family members.. but.. wen things concern her.. all her self respect goes down the hell.. during rajshree spying on naitik case.. akshara was angry on her coz it was against naitik's self respect.. while wen buaji insulted akshara's parents.. she stood up for them.. she was even angry on nandini for a moment wen she insulted her mother.. it was only during these moments that i thot yes.. this is the akshara i relate to.. otherwise.. i relate to the background.. the problems.. but never the characters.. ha.. i find gayitri very close to reality.. but that too is only sumtyms..