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Originally posted by: _charu_

Kamudi, traditional marwari families and ppl. of the age of baisa and nani must be conservative but what about today;s generation? Udaipur, as i know, should not be THAT backward...specially families like Singhanias..see, they use every modern gadget & luxery, sent their son abroad to study..i dun think these well to do families who are exposed to modern culture can remain so much conservative....specially with "hum bahar ki mithai nahi khate" and achar papad r homemade and movies nahi jaana and girls should not work or study, girl and boy must not talk before marriage...

ur right..i dun how how u related punjabi culture with modernism but yes, i've never seen singhania type families in my life...i'm in chandigarh n my parents currently reside in Noida but i was born and brought up in Gwalior..it's a town in MP...kehne ko it used to be a small town but i never saw this conservativeness over there in any family..yes, i saw my mom and aunties and all neighbours wearing saarees, less of salwar suites...my dadi's saas was like baisa but she herself is so sweet, caring and adjusting, she never put any restriction on my mom or chachis..or her grandchildren...she kept her views, her traditions to herself...if she took pallu, she never asked my mom to do it..so it depends on person to person....akshara's dadi is of same gen. of nani and baisa but she's exactly the opposite...

Originally posted by: smrth

Kaumudi,

You are right. Perhaps, I myself become too linear in refuting the reality altogether from the script. All is not so straight forward black and white and our society is not entirely de-traditionalized. And something close to this may well be a way life for some.

What I really meant was the exaggeration, excess and illogic present in the script and its limited scope to represent the entire society. For however numerous example in real India, this is certainly not reflecting it entirely, which was the question of thread starter ('India'). In Mumbai even in many Marwari families (many friends'), these rigid traditions (ghunghats etc.) are discarded way back. At least in my milieu (Gujarati Jain) no one would take trouble to be so meddlesome (babies etc.) or would dare treat women with out respect due.

Originally posted by: _charu_

Kamudi, traditional marwari families and ppl. of the age of baisa and nani must be conservative but what about today;s generation? Udaipur, as i know, should not be THAT backward...specially families like Singhanias..see, they use every modern gadget & luxery, sent their son abroad to study..i dun think these well to do families who are exposed to modern culture can remain so much conservative....specially with "hum bahar ki mithai nahi khate" and achar papad r homemade and movies nahi jaana and girls should not work or study, girl and boy must not talk before marriage...

ur right..i dun how how u related punjabi culture with modernism but yes, i've never seen singhania type families in my life...i'm in chandigarh n my parents currently reside in Noida but i was born and brought up in Gwalior..it's a town in MP...kehne ko it used to be a small town but i never saw this conservativeness over there in any family..yes, i saw my mom and aunties and all neighbours wearing saarees, less of salwar suites...my dadi's saas was like baisa but she herself is so sweet, caring and adjusting, she never put any restriction on my mom or chachis..or her grandchildren...she kept her views, her traditions to herself...if she took pallu, she never asked my mom to do it..so it depends on person to person....akshara's dadi is of same gen. of nani and baisa but she's exactly the opposite...

Originally posted by: gutky

exactly charu dii.. that is wat i meant 2 say earlier...😃 @ kaumudi as u mentioned earlier in ur post it depends upon family to family...i belong to a nuclear family in Mumbai n my family is residing here since more than 25 yrs..even i'm banya n my father is also very conservative by nature, but then he also understands today's generation n has accepted some modernity in his lifestyle too.. in fact my whole society is filled with marwadi banyas n Brahmin's... there are more than 50 flats in my building..n i've noticed most of the ladies prefer wearing suits rather than sarees, they are highly qualified, independent n enjoying their respective jobs, they go 4 outings, n are always engaged in some sorts of activities.... n surprisingly their in-laws have no issues n are really fine with it.... may be the section of society where i live is more modern than urs, but i do believe that the trend and mentality which ppl used 2 have earlier has changed completely atleast in cities..😃

Originally posted by: Polki_Zofi

But there need to be balance in change too I feel . I love many of the Indian ways, specially the values. Unfortunately they only seem to be expecting it from the girls in the TV, or as my sister in law says, its all meant for a female audience and thus the females are shown to be supreme.

The men also need to be responsible for their actions. It is same with my husband, as he is hold responsible for his actions. This gave values I feel, some form of awareness is good, nothing extreme is ever advisable.