Interference and Privacy - Page 2

There are a few people in my life that have the right to interfere in my "personal" life. People that I love and people that I know love me just as much in return. Even "personal" life involves a few people and you have to learn to not only accept their interference, but also to expect it. That's why some people are there in the first place - to help you make decisions, to support you, and to guide you - and all of that requires a certain level of interference. You may not like the advice that some of these people give you, but at least you will know, or should know, that they care for you and love you and hence worry for you.

I give out a lot of unsolicited advice to people I care for, when I feel that they are not headed in the right direction and could use some amount of support or care. At the end of the day, however, it is up to them whether or not they take the advice and it is their decision.

Privacy and personal space are really important to me. I really don't like being told what to do, what to think, how to act. I'm my own person and want the space to be myself. I want to live my life on my own terms and learn from my mistakes. It is not just annoying or rude, but quite disruptive, and sometimes hurtful when people try to interfere in lives and change things all around. Every person deserves the respect to be their own individual and let their own personality shine.

However, there is a fine line between interference and intervention, between invasion of privacy and reaching out a hand. The poet John Donne wrote "No Man is an Island". We learn in school, man is a social animal. Human beings are not solitary creatures living in confinement. We live as part of a society. The beauty of being part of society is that we look out for each other, we make sure everyone is doing alright, we check in on each other. So there is no such thing as absolute and perfect privacy. If so we would have to find our own island and be there. There always has to be a fine balance between personal privacy and socialization. In fact society has a duty to reach out and intervene.

Now others have tried softer approaches to see what the reason for this topic is, but based on this topic and your signature, I'm assuming you really did not appreciate some of the thoughts shared with you on the other thread regarding men. It is late night and I'm losing train of thought here so I won't go further. But if that is the case - let me know. I'd like to explain myself further.

I don't like it when people interfere with my life, unless I ask them too. Why should people interfere in your life? They don't have a right to anyway.

Everyone has a right to have a personal space, or to have a private part of their life. I wouldn't like it if someone told me what to do, or if someone tells me the right thing or the wrong thing. Or if someone tells me to dress my dressing sense.

Everyone is different. Everyone deserves to live their life their own way. No-one deserves to be controlled.

Sameeha x

Unsolicited advice is never welcomed

Interfering in someones life can be a double edged sword depending on the subject matter. its like the famous quote to be or not to be..for example if u have a best friend and she is in love with a married man i would tell her to stop doing it as eventually she might hurt more ppl than finding true love. On the other hand if i had just let it all happen and turned a blind eye, my friend would be the first one to get hurt and she might even ask me why was i not making her aware of what could have happened.

But interference in general as in ppl who are not close to you in life and not more than an acquaintance is an absolute no from me. i dont like to be told what to do, say or what i wear ....etc, whoever may that be

So interfering in my private life a definite NO

i like my privacy and am never willing to compramise wid it...

Yes I want privacy and Im sensitive about it too, which is why I have my own bedroom.

Yes I do interfere in the private life of my teenage son.....because I love him and I don't want him to learn the hard way!!!!!

Originally posted by: blue-ice

Yes I do interfere in the private life of my teenage son.....because I love him and I don't want him to learn the hard way!!!!!