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Hi Ladies and girls,
Dont know why I felt like sharing this........
The only reason that comes to mind is that perhaps this section, .....unlike most of serial based sections in IF .......this section has some of the most mature,intelligent, sensible and sensitive posters😳..........most of whom seem to follow the story and characters ......and not the lead pairs or love scenes.........and I appreciate that.😳
I must confess I have not read a lot of posts over here...........but some of the ones I have read on the Priya-SSP episode seem to be on the debate of rape vs molestation.........and some even on why serials depict horrors that one should not watch.......
Given this many posters have rightly brought out the fact that both events have damaging consequences.....and its best to be aware and alert.
Dont know how to say it in a better way.........so very simply.........here is my experience.
I am from Mumbai, and if any one of you is or has been there, you would know that Mumbai's local trains are quite jam packed ..........particularly so during rush hours......and have separate male and female compartments. During non rush hours they are at best comfortable but still crowed........but perhaps never empty. ......Most women travel by the ladies compartment, unless you are new to the city or have kids or are with male companions.
I was 10 years old and travelling from Thane (which is a Central suburb) to Dadar which is mid-town station. .........accompanied by my Uncle, a cousin sister aged 11 and two cousin brothers aged 14 and 7. ......Since it was mid-day and supposedly non rush hour, so my Uncle decided that we all board the mens compartment as he didnt want to my sister and me to be unaccompanied.
We boarded the train and unlike our expectations.......along the way passengers kept streaming in. As we approached Dadar station we edged closer to the door to alight. As the crowed edged towards the door, my 7 year old brother got jostled so my Uncle had to focus more on him and my hand was held by my 13 year old cousin.
But in the few seconds before the train actually stopped at the station all hell broke loose. There was much jostling for what then seemed an eternity .....though now may be a few seconds .....I felt adult male hands grabbing and crushing me against.......what seemed at that time as something hard.........At that time I cried as I felt my arm was being twisted.....It was only later that when I spoke to my parents that the ugly event dawned on my parents and my uncle.
Now I am much older.........but to tell the truth I have never stepped on to a mens train compartment...or even a crowed overbridge......I avoid crowds as far as possible......
I am now conscious when it comes to my own nephews and nieces.......and see to it that they are aware of the unsavory elements and are protected......Now when I see eve teasing or unsavory comments I always try to give it back.
When I think of it now I dont know why that person did it .......was it because I was a girl.......or because I was a child.......I think that more than anything it was because I was a powerless human.......one who could not have fought back.........
Coming back to the point in question........rape, molestation, abuse or assault....may come in varying degrees of horror and shock........but they leave behind an undeniable negative effect on the victim.....a feeling that perhaps has no easy closure.
The only closure one can have......if at all ......is that someone can physically hurt you.........but not your spirit........
Although quite a few of us , including me need much more strength to actually put that in actions.
Thanks for reading
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