DOTW:Space in relationships

here goes my answers
1......... asking ur son n daughter abt how his or her day went is never an interference.............its just like sharing yr special mom,entsof the day wid yr family........
2.sunil n madhvis busy nature during shaans childhood made him turn into a brat.....they never had time for him n then they still claim that they love their son so much........
3. khanak wasnt wrong in touching shaans personal things....she is his wife n they can share everything wid one a nother.........as shaan said khanak is his adhaangini😳
5.as per khanaks thinking its wrong but i feel shaan is doing the right thing as khusboo is already fgeeting reaking jealous n the plans wrking
4. yes shaans anger is justified but v shall only know that wen v get to the know complete reason of him react like that........
6. space is a must in every relationships cause extreme interference by either of the partner causes cracks in the relationship......


anita loved the questions n dying to read my fellow members answers😉

Originally posted by: prithvi_veer

As no one has opened a DOTW so i thought of doing it this time as i really got a good idea after watching yesterday's episode.

Last week when khanak asked shaan abt sunil and madhavi's fav.things like their fav.movie,fav.color,etc.,shaan cldn't answer.Yesterday too when khanak asked madhavi abt shaan's college days she said she doesn't know because she doesn't want to interfere in shaan's life.

1)Is asking ur son/daughter "aaj college mein kya hua/aaj ka din kaisa gaya?" an interference in his/her life?ya in higher society its like tht..thy thnk tht its a way of looking advance n modern...bt not of middle class famlilies

2)What might be the reason fornts heir pare shaan not being so close to his parents and vice versa?Is it their rich and busy lifestyle or their indifference towards each other?children jus learn d way their parents behave.n shaan's mom dad were bsy wid their buisness n social parties(thnx to akki for being thr for shaan)

3)Was khanak wrong in touching shaan's personal things without his permission?no coz d way sh hs been brought up...sh hs been taught tht family is a unit...n all r close to each other in every way....nothng to hide in d same family(bt shaan don knw dis fact...n he thnk's d way mad thnk's....INDEPENDENCE U KNW)

4)Was shaan's anger justified?NO...bt shaan need to be addressed well abt dis

5)Khanak feels that shaan is giving wrong advice to akshay(about making khushbu feel insecure).Do u agree with her? YAAA.....shaan vl infact end up messing it all bw boo n akki(n at d end khanak vl bring thm close too by her way of living life)

6)Lastly how much space shd people give each other in any relationship whether it's husband-wife or parents-children relationship?space is must...bt not like wt shaan told KE IS GHAR ME MERE SAMAAN KO HATH KOI NAI LAGA SAKTA...TUM BHI NAI...DIS IS AMERICAN LIFE STYLE...NOT AN INDIAN PICTURE...in india its all abt being together

Hope to get some great answers from all of u.

ddis is my pov...might differ frm u.....bt i deeply believe in family system n basic indian life style....whr every one is close n yet independent.....n yaa HAAPPPPPYYYY TOOO....nt like shaan,mad,sunil,akki,boo....SO INDEPENDENT THT START FEELING LONELY AT SOME POINT OF time

Nice topic for discussion.

Thanks for making the DOTW... will keep it for this week.

RBO DT!

Originally posted by: prithvi_veer

Last week when khanak asked shaan abt sunil and madhavi's fav.things like their fav.movie,fav.color,etc.,shaan cldn't answer.Yesterday too when khanak asked madhavi abt shaan's college days she said she doesn't know because she doesn't want to interfere in shaan's life.

1)Is asking ur son/daughter "aaj college mein kya hua/aaj ka din kaisa gaya?" an interference in his/her life?

No its not bad..but all depends on the relationship one has with ons child/children....and then there is a vry thin line too between asking, interogating and nagging nah...so a balance needs to be maintained...One can ask...not be answered and that person should wait till the person is ready to talk about his/her day etc..thats giving space and being there no matter what.

2)What might be the reason for shaan not being so close to his parents and vice versa?Is it their rich and busy lifestyle or their indifference towards each other?

Its their busy lifestyle....it has nothing to do with being rich..or one status....even in middle class and poor families we see that sometimes parents donot seem to have the time for their own kids with their busy schedules, thus this is the reason that Shaan is not that close to his parents..though he does love them and we did see his love for his mom and dad.

3)Was khanak wrong in touching shaan's personal things without his permission?

No and yes....being a wife...one does touch a lot of ones husband personal stuff...but then there are some stuff that are very very personal adn the hubby may already informed his wife about those, for example personal diaries, impotant office documents etc...but here Khanak was not completely in the wrong as she didnot know..how touchy her hubby was about his "tanpoora"...I mean Guitar....😆😆😆 because till she showe dhim the pics, hjis unifroms, shoes, medals and throphy he seemed to eb alright with all those.

4)Was shaan's anger justified?

Again no and yes....no because Khanak didnot know that the guitar would casue such a reaction and yes...because they did have a talk on his college life being out of bounds.

5)Khanak feels that shaan is giving wrong advice to akshay(about making khushbu feel insecure).Do u agree with her?

With her traditional background and thinking she thinks its wrong....but...then...many in the city with an open mind, and untraditional background may think the same as....making ones spouse jealous is wrong...so its depends from people to pleople and their way of moral thinking whats wrong and whats right..as one mans wrong can be an other mans right..

6)Lastly how much space shd people give each other in any relationship whether it's husband-wife or parents-children relationship?

Space is important in any healthy relationship dear...every relations to grow needs space....be it parents and kids, husbands and wives, siblings, friends etc....but the space shouldn't become a vaccum or a barrier or a baricade between them...creating an isolation....Communication is a must...and being there for your loved one is must...showing them that too much of space is not good too...that you are there no matter what.

Hope to get some great answers from all of u.