Komarsh - what's under the surface? - Page 3

Originally posted by: Nach_Baliye

A very insightful post. It does make me think less of Komal with the way she has been going. There is more reason for her to change - Krishna is in the Thakur house and hence more influenced by their bad ways, while Komal is in the Saxena house and is in a more open and calm environment. I think her primary frustration stems from Adarsh. The Saxena's put up with a lot from Komal. Adarsh made the decision to marry her, and Komal did not have a choice. Adarsh has made no attempt whatsoever to do anything with Komal. Instead of getting frustrated like her, he should sit her down and have a conversation, expressing his POV. He doesn't do that, neither does his family.

If he tries to reason with her calmly, she will listen. She has been open to his reasoning in the past. His family gets frustrated and has these expressions, they blame her for her family's behavior sometimes, but they don't reason with her. Komal says what she thinks, regardless of how it may come across. The Saxenas over-think and say little, hence they end up being passive-aggressive. The seeth internally, and don't bring much out. The are reactive rather than proactive.

Adarsh needs to show some interest in Komal. She has tried to change herself physically to make him like her, he has never said a single word of appreciation. He has not even told her what he likes and doesn't like about her. He just keeps his thoughts to himself. The only thing Komal knows is that Adarsh doesn't like her cursing, but when she is angry she is not able to get over the cursing habit.

Komal is very immature while Adarsh is very mature. The only way the twain can meet is if they communicate. Komal will change, we have seen glimpses of that. For the 20+ years of her life, her sense of right and wrong have been attuned with the Thakur's. It will take time to change that. But it requires effort on the family and especially Adarsh's part.

Honestly, with the way Komal got married, any other woman would not have been as open to Adarsh as Komal has been. Komal has learned from her parents that the only worth of a woman is if her husband sleeps with her, and uses that to judge her marriage. She is running out of patience at this point. Adarsh needs to talk to her and communicate. The only thing he and his sister do is say "shaant ho jao". It is so preachy. Don't say "shaant ho jao", have a conversation.