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I have been following two MKAPs of late ' the old epis on Star Utsav and the current ones on Star Plus. It is a most interesting exercise to see where all these characters started from and how they are situated now. But I was intrigued in particular by the character of Adarsh Saxena. And I have to add, thank Ankit Gera for playing him with such subtle refinity 👏👏👏👏.
Adarsh is an understated character but I have deep admiration for him. Ever since the serial began, he has quietly made so many sacrifices for his family, particularly his sister that I'm impressed with him. Adarsh gave up his dream of a foreign job, he gave up prospects of marrying a girl like Roli with whom he could have had a really decent marriage, he has been tied up with a girl most unsuited to his own taste ' and he has done all this almost casually, without any great drama, without even letting anyone know how much this has cost him. He has done all this with tremendous grace.
Komal? I feel bad for her too. Bundled off to the Saxenas as collateral, she was never treated with any genuine concern for her well being, either by her own family or her sasural. But at least the Saxenas have been very kind to her ' polite, giving her love, importance, pampering. They let her speak when she has something on her mind, they appease her, they try to keep her happy. In turn she has responded by becoming softer, by adjusting more and more, by feeling like she's a part of their family.
But there are still significant issues with Komarsh. For one, they have not consummated their marriage. To begin with, I thought it was because Adarsh had never lost sight of WHY he married Komal. She was in his house as a hostage, to make sure that Pratigya was treated ok in her sasural. That was never too much of a lever actually because once the Thakurs knew that the Saxenas were in no circumstances about to beat, burn, abuse or torment Komal, they went ahead and gave Pratigya all kinds of hell and abuse. But still, it worked to some extent. When Kriya separated briefly, so did Komarsh. It was as if Adarsh was silently signalling to the Thakurs that the two marriages were indeed linked up.
But that was then. What about now? Pratigya has fallen in love with Krishna, they have a real marriage that they are both fully committed to. Adarsh knows his sister's situation is irrevocable; his postponing his commitment to Komal has no bearing now on Pratigya's welfare.
Why is Adarsh holding off? Earlier on, was it because he was being honourable? I have married this girl as a pure tactical move, I have no right to infringe on her personal and emotional space till I know the outcome? Was he holding out so he could have an ace in reserve?
Is it because he is genuinely not attracted to Komal? He's a fastidious man and even if he's supposedly easy going and smiling, he has strong likes and dislikes. Of all the Saxenas, he is shown to read the most. He's intelligent, sensitive and has a sophisticated mind. He finds Komal's aggression offensive, he finds her lack of tact or finesse distasteful, he thinks her values are highly misplaced. Although he laughs at her, teases her and jollies her along, he is seriously affronted by the accusations she levels against his gentle family. He is making the most of the situation, he's harmonising it but is it that he CANNOT bring himself to sleep with her?
I pity Komal for being caught in a situation that she cannot control. But that said, I have to say I'm disappointed in her character. She is neither as intelligent as Krishna nor does she have his goodness. Komal is quite genuinely convinced by 'might is right'. She cannot see why it's wrong. I don't find her reciprocating the love Nainaji has shown her, in spite of wanting Adarsh to be her husband in every way, she does not show him love, tenderness, understanding. She is attracted to Adarsh, but does she love him? She gets irritated with waiting on him hand and foot when he's ill, she is upset that she cannot have more jewellery, she scorns her sasural for being poor, she has begun to rail at her fortune at being lumped with a fuddy-duddy middle class family, when she could have married rich. In spite of living with the Saxenas for so many months, she does not see the rightness of their ideals, and for their inherent decency, she perceives them as weak, as powerless, wordy fools. She does not respect them.
So where are Komarsh headed? Will Komal reassess her values if her marriage is seriously threatened? If she goes on complaining and intensifying her demands, will SS or Adarsh decide that a divorce or annulment is in order?
What about Adarsh? Does he deserve a shot at true happiness, with a woman he can really be happy with? He may settle down with Komal but is that good enough for either of them? Are the CVs planning to keep them together, repair their relationship or will they consider breaking them up? On the one hand, marriages in India are for keeps. It is considered wrong to break up without sufficient reason ' it goes against the grain. On the other hand, incompatibility, though not as serious as abuse, is still enough to make people very unhappy. Divorce is on the rise, even in small towns. Will the CVs use Komarsh as a case study?
I'm beginning to feel that Komal, as she is now, is not enough for Adarsh. That he deserves better. It will be interesting to see what the creatives have in mind.
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Adarsh is an understated character but I have deep admiration for him. Ever since the serial began, he has quietly made so many sacrifices for his family, particularly his sister that I'm impressed with him. Adarsh gave up his dream of a foreign job, he gave up prospects of marrying a girl like Roli with whom he could have had a really decent marriage, he has been tied up with a girl most unsuited to his own taste ' and he has done all this almost casually, without any great drama, without even letting anyone know how much this has cost him. He has done all this with tremendous grace.
Komal? I feel bad for her too. Bundled off to the Saxenas as collateral, she was never treated with any genuine concern for her well being, either by her own family or her sasural. But at least the Saxenas have been very kind to her ' polite, giving her love, importance, pampering. They let her speak when she has something on her mind, they appease her, they try to keep her happy. In turn she has responded by becoming softer, by adjusting more and more, by feeling like she's a part of their family.
But there are still significant issues with Komarsh. For one, they have not consummated their marriage. To begin with, I thought it was because Adarsh had never lost sight of WHY he married Komal. She was in his house as a hostage, to make sure that Pratigya was treated ok in her sasural. That was never too much of a lever actually because once the Thakurs knew that the Saxenas were in no circumstances about to beat, burn, abuse or torment Komal, they went ahead and gave Pratigya all kinds of hell and abuse. But still, it worked to some extent. When Kriya separated briefly, so did Komarsh. It was as if Adarsh was silently signalling to the Thakurs that the two marriages were indeed linked up.
But that was then. What about now? Pratigya has fallen in love with Krishna, they have a real marriage that they are both fully committed to. Adarsh knows his sister's situation is irrevocable; his postponing his commitment to Komal has no bearing now on Pratigya's welfare.
Why is Adarsh holding off? Earlier on, was it because he was being honourable? I have married this girl as a pure tactical move, I have no right to infringe on her personal and emotional space till I know the outcome? Was he holding out so he could have an ace in reserve?
Is it because he is genuinely not attracted to Komal? He's a fastidious man and even if he's supposedly easy going and smiling, he has strong likes and dislikes. Of all the Saxenas, he is shown to read the most. He's intelligent, sensitive and has a sophisticated mind. He finds Komal's aggression offensive, he finds her lack of tact or finesse distasteful, he thinks her values are highly misplaced. Although he laughs at her, teases her and jollies her along, he is seriously affronted by the accusations she levels against his gentle family. He is making the most of the situation, he's harmonising it but is it that he CANNOT bring himself to sleep with her?
I pity Komal for being caught in a situation that she cannot control. But that said, I have to say I'm disappointed in her character. She is neither as intelligent as Krishna nor does she have his goodness. Komal is quite genuinely convinced by 'might is right'. She cannot see why it's wrong. I don't find her reciprocating the love Nainaji has shown her, in spite of wanting Adarsh to be her husband in every way, she does not show him love, tenderness, understanding. She is attracted to Adarsh, but does she love him? She gets irritated with waiting on him hand and foot when he's ill, she is upset that she cannot have more jewellery, she scorns her sasural for being poor, she has begun to rail at her fortune at being lumped with a fuddy-duddy middle class family, when she could have married rich. In spite of living with the Saxenas for so many months, she does not see the rightness of their ideals, and for their inherent decency, she perceives them as weak, as powerless, wordy fools. She does not respect them.
So where are Komarsh headed? Will Komal reassess her values if her marriage is seriously threatened? If she goes on complaining and intensifying her demands, will SS or Adarsh decide that a divorce or annulment is in order?
What about Adarsh? Does he deserve a shot at true happiness, with a woman he can really be happy with? He may settle down with Komal but is that good enough for either of them? Are the CVs planning to keep them together, repair their relationship or will they consider breaking them up? On the one hand, marriages in India are for keeps. It is considered wrong to break up without sufficient reason ' it goes against the grain. On the other hand, incompatibility, though not as serious as abuse, is still enough to make people very unhappy. Divorce is on the rise, even in small towns. Will the CVs use Komarsh as a case study?
I'm beginning to feel that Komal, as she is now, is not enough for Adarsh. That he deserves better. It will be interesting to see what the creatives have in mind.
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