Evolving Dutta, evolving needs? - Page 3

Originally posted by: geetruk06

Parul

My PM yday was on this topic and as promised I have sent you today .

cheers

Geet

Originally posted by: gp00

Saaki, I totally agree on this. Perfection is an illusion, and the more you seek it, the more you realize it CAN NEVER exist. How can it? It's all about perceptions......

Do I have to say anything else??????????You said it all babes....................

.............Yes,she can't say anything, because of the fear and guilt and shame. But yet, she goes on with it.

Nakku is also being selfish here to some xtent...........Y becoz.....Its the AS' words "Hum apne bete khodenge aur tum apna pati".......which is disturbing her the most....She is worried about just Dutta here & only Dutta.She doesnot wanna loose him....She do care for AS.But,If the time comes then she will definitely stand aginst AS for Dutta.But,here she doesnot wanna loose her "LOVE" at any cost & cant even able to keep it for herself as well coz of Guilty........This situation is giving her the so called "Tyaag mayi" naari..........But,all her tyaag is just for the fear of Loosing her "Saab" whom she loves more than herself.................Her sacrificing nature will always remain with her "Aayi,Baba & Sethji"....With Dutta,I think its the "Fear of Loosing him"...............Just my opinion................

She has lost a TREMENDOUS part of herself. What she always knew was good about her, what kept her head on straight, despite the outside world...her innocence, her sincerity, her honesty.......

I too Agree with you but halfly.........Yes,rt now she has lost it........But,not totally.......IT is just a situation where she is pushed to being "Tyaagmayi" otherwise her Character is still intact..........I am damn sure about this.......................I kinda like this..Along with sweet ,Innocent Nakku,Dutta needs someone who is bold enough to protect him from "Dhokas" in his life......NAkku is definitely there...............

...........I think this is the part that makes me cringe. That Naku will then become "herself", able to be sincere, honest once again. Why? Because she set things right? No, because somehow things worked out in her favor. Look, Naku is a good person, flawed like all of us....trust me, Saaki, I have no delusions about myself whatsoever in this regard. No love is perfect, and I never expected love or people to be such. However, the fact that she hasn't come this close to spilling the beans every day has been a huge disappointment to me...she has delegated the responsibility over the truth to anyone or anything she can. I understand the fear, but in my eyes, telling Dutta the truth is the most noble thing she can do BECAUSE she LOVES HIM. To me, Dutta is an honest person. There is no sense of pretension, no fear...he just IS. I myself would keep a secret, but not for long with a person like him. I would feel I owed it to him.

Rt..She should have told Dutta.........But,then her fear of "Loosing Him" is stopping her.......She herself is in dilemma...........Love is making her helpless.......I am not surprised....It happens sometimes.Some fears have so much effect on us ki we loose to it very badly.........Yet,I am damn sure.When the time occurs she wont stop herself from telling the "TRUTH" to Dutta.................

You did not! so don't even think in that way. It's always good to say what you have to say...................

Yup..................Thanks a lot darling for saying that....................

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I'm going to explore this one train of thought or two (BELOW). I've put the type in black font, so I don't blind you, in much the same way as Naku's apparel choices.😆

Opposites attract: it seems to be a law of nature.😆 I see it in my own life. I thought of this phenomenon in the following way and I'm going to apply it to Dutta/Naku.

Dutta has an element of self-hate. He understands who, what he is, accepts it, but yearns for innocence, honesty...all the things he feels HE IS NOT or HE HAS LOST. Voila, here comes Naku, embodying honesty, innocence and yes, he is drawn to that. Totally natural, I guess we seek those things we aspire to be or have in our lives. So, in a way, the opposites attracted. That's why he fell in love--because of what she was as a person. Now, it seems Naku does have some honesty issues...understandable, I agree. But I find it sad that she feels guilt, but seeks to push responsibility over truth to anything that moves. If it rains tomorrow, I will tell him the truth.

Yeah............I know...............It is all because of "her AAyi's fears".............She is making her daughter's life miserable even though Nakku wants to say the truth.She has to stop coz of Babi.......How rediculous is this??????????????😡😡😡😡😡................

I want Nakku to soon get married to Dutta so that she can have some control over PN niwaasis & can do what she thinks & Feels rt.........Coz,Nakku is rt as she gives important to TRUTH...........She is "Sita Maayi" but when time occurs she can even become "Durga"..................😃😆

People change over time, their needs change: A long time ago, a mentor of mine brought up a topic as we were all discussing a book. Parts of that conversation still stick with me today, though I have no answers. How it is a fact that people evolve in their own way in life, yet everyone and everything says love does not, for love is eternal, love always "adjusts", always "endures". And the mentor posed this question--reconcile it. Then a further question: what is a soulmate in such a scenario? I couldn't come up with an answer, nor could others. That's what is one of the underpinnings of my post. We say Dutta and Naku are SOULMATES, because they love each other so much, they are opposites and complete each other. Yes, most of this is true, but that does not make soulmates. Soulmates are those that are somehow moving in the same direction over time, individually and together. And from what I've seen of Naku, and this is just MY perception, she is a gap filler for Dutta--love, security, acceptance. But there is more, there has to be...and time would show that. I mean Dutta does not even remotely understand her, she clearly does not fully understand him, and the FR is going to make them suddenly do that?

I totally agree on this.........People do change with time.........But,"Character" always remains the same..............................................You can change your Behaviour & not the character............

What many of you have said, about this being a static time, that time will show Naku grow towards Dutta...it's very possible. But for me, I don't feel wholly convinced. Naku is far too simplistic mentally. There is no energy, aliveness there. And no amount of time can give you that if you don't have it in yourself.

I dont agree on your line that "Nakku doesnot have it in her"............She does Parul.......She knows to act according to the time........She knows to control her Family & Dutta too.......She has her ownself which she listens to more than her AAyi or BAba whenever necessary.......She doesnot give everything upto spemone else to decide her life............When the time comes she can roar as powerfully as Dutta.............I dont say "Time can change" in NAkku's case.I would say one such "Pushing Situation" is enough for her to come out of her "Cage" & get hyer work done.......Dont forget she is indeed a "Sherni"....................She will always be..........But,her guilt which is eating her or say stopping her of "HER Secret" should finish of as soon as possible....Only that will bring her "Energy,Aliveness" back.........................

Again, just my opinion. I am probably reading way tooo much into this evolving thing. But for me, when Naku ignored opportunity upon opportunity to tell the truth, to show that respect to DUTTA, I realized just how different she is from Dutta. She has her reasons, and as a person, I can understand that fear of loss...I just can't say it's ok because she "loves" him.

I respect your Perspective totally Parul..........But,in my opinion she is different becoz she has been pushed to that............Before,she had chances but never sure of Dutta's Love towards her........Now,She is ready but her "Aayi's Fears" stopping her & she being the honest daughter acting according to her "Aayi" so that she is not affected from any type of Trauma.........Adding to that "Fear of Loosing Dutta" by spilling out the TRUTH of his past.............So,she is just Pushed to be like this whatever we see her now by her surroundings or "Situations".......She definitely have not lost "Herself" but cant just act like what she wants.................

I hope you got my point Parul....................................After,Such a big post.this is for you...........

Originally posted by: kateleode

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I respect your Perspective totally Parul..........But,in my opinion she is different becoz she has been pushed to that............Before,she had chances but never sure of Dutta's Love towards her........Now,She is ready but her "Aayi's Fears" stopping her & she being the honest daughter acting according to her "Aayi" so that she is not affected from any type of Trauma.........Adding to that "Fear of Loosing Dutta" by spilling out the TRUTH of his past.............So,she is just Pushed to be like this whatever we see her now by her surroundings or "Situations".......She definitely have not lost "Herself" but cant just act like what she wants.................

I hope you got my point Parul....................................After,Such a big post.this is for you...........