Love is not a favor or obligation!! - Page 2

Originally posted by: sweet coco

so true!!! he does love her truly, but i think she still doesn't think she's good enough for him..i think the confession night changed her mind, but not that much!

Originally posted by: eveline

Lately..just since the last couple of times..every time Geet says to Maan....you are soo good and you have done soo much for me...soo many favors...you accepted me with my past...and even the baby....it just irks me...and rankles me too.

I just feel like telling Geet...Geet honey he loves you...and if he is accepting you the way you are...he is not doing you any favors...isn't that what love is all about..accepting the person and loving him/her the way they are...agreed that he has shown quite a big heart and a broad mind in accepting her past...but dont u guyz think its high time..he stops her from saying this all the time....sometimes it sounds as if she is more obligated to him..or more grateful for his help and favors then in love with him.....it sometimes sounds like she doesn't love him for what he is...but is in debt of him and will remain so forever.....

OK..i know all the Maan lovers will kill me for this...but this way their relationship will not be balanced...Geet will always be burdened with gratefulness for all he has done...and Maan will always have an upper hand....in any relationship of this sort...both the partners have to be on an equal footing...i feel Geet will always be in awe and a little bit of fear of Maan...will she come out of his shadow to be her true self....

Yes, he has done plenty for her...and will keep on doing so in the future too...but its not an ehsaan geet...its love!! accept the love and return it tenfold...thats the only thing he should be and is asking for..

Pls dont get me wrong...i want her to love him for what he is and not for what he has done for her...and Maan i am sure wants to be treated the same way...he has through his actions and words expressed this plenty of times...and this attitude might be one of the main reasons why Geet will not be able to tell him the truth about Dev..

Geet...when you are in love....doing things for your beloved is a pleasure and not a pain !!.

Wow beautiful post.....predominantly all of your point are valid.........But you also have to understand certain points from geets perspective because she is just aghast by his behaviour....because she has always known him as the aggressive and stubborn man who would proclaim what he wanted through his selfishness and for his own motive....she never got to see the real maan...all she got to see was his bad side...I mean come on every mortal has a good and bad side....Like they say there are two sides to every story same goes with us mortals we also have two sides, if you remain good with someone they will only display their benevolence but if you do something ghastly , then such acts will force someone to react in a manner that will expose their bad side (Now I don't want you misinterpret my words, but bad sides for me is ambiguous, What I mean by bad is expressing anger, not on talking terms, not forgiving them, ignoring them etc).hope you understand my point......... Anyway getting back to your post I certainly agree love is not a favour nor is it an obligation.... But for someone like geet or anyone it would become burdensome on them...because love requires sacrifices and compromises from both sides.....but if we look at it from geets perspective, maan has made a majority of the compromises by accepting her for her past, giving her a job, giving her shelter, maans grandma showering her with a lot of love and treating her as her own kin, etc the list goes on.....basically geet is gratified by his benevolence, she is not obliged at all....it's like one minute her world was gloomy and as soon as maan entered her life he lit it up and suddenly the gloominess dispersed and happiness galore for her...... I mean if i was in geets shoes I guess I would also act in the same manner because it's just something I have possessed in my trait.....if someone did so much for me I would surely be grateful for life but I guess I would live with it and consider myself very fortunate......and geet keeps on reiterating the same statement regarding maans benovelnce, because she wants him to truly believe that she is very grateful for everything he has done and complimenting his humbleness...as a way of expressing her love...it just decreases the burden you are carrying...... and i also agree with your last statement when you are in love doing things for your beloved is a pleasure and not pain......geet is also expressing her pleasure to maan by conveying how grateful she is to have her in his life and always being there for her through thick and thin.....that's it....nothing about being indebted for life........ Hope I have my point clear.......just my p.o.v...xxxxx