As a new bride....

I have also encounted Gopi's situation in my own life. A family member who married a girl from india just to prove a point. He loved someone else, but because he knew parents would never agree, he married a girl from india and start fights and so forth just to prove to the parents that "YES, I listened to you and married of your choice........it didn't work.......Now let me choose my wife". They divorced and he is back with his first love. He not only ruined a girls life but its a disgrace in the name of love as well. The girl did not say a word to anyone about what was going on in her martial life, until it got out hand to abuse. The family also thought it was the girls fault so she was helpless. She confided in other family members, but came to no use. I am actually happy that she was save from a life of misery.

Gopi had a lot of dreams as new bride and each one has been broken one after another. From having a horrible MIL to a abusing husband to a taunting sister-in-law, she has seen a lot in the past few days. She till this day has not uttered a word to anyone about the rudeness her husband shows and the verbal abuse her MIL gives. My question is as a new bride, when is it a right time to share your problem with others or do you stay mum??? When, I was a new bride, I was scared out of my wits to say anything. Always thinking if I should say it or not. I was afraid to even change small things around the house to re-organize. Even though I knew my husband for 10yrs, it was different living with him. It takes up to a certain point, comprimise to help you through. Kokila said something very important yesterday, "maan ki shakti". Women indeed have this great impowerment, which allows them to mold into any household. So Gopi let go a lot of stuff in the name of comprimise or fear, but should she speak up now??? or continue her new bride thinking and hope that things will change. If Rashi was choosen instead of Gopi, all hell would have broken loose by now. I think for me if I was in her situation, I think I would have left as soon as Ahem slaped me..............I don't care how big or small of a issue.......NO man has the right to slap a women!!!! Granted that women is still respected and is not going out of hand. (Not all women are Gopi either)........LIke Kokila can really use a nice tight slap from her husband to get her to her place. I don't believe in abuse, but a spank is needed sometimes...lol 😆................. No one can build a house of happiness on someone else land of sorrow.

i sure hope so.............something seriously needs to be done to save Gopi from her self-centered MIL and her "deekara"