The truth about Siddhima and AR (topic for all) - Page 9

Originally posted by: lnmdjrocksss

Words nicely put in👏

@bold

That's a beautiful line.....i completely agree with u

One of my cousins,she was madly in love wid a guy,but due to certain reasons they couldn't be together....now she is happily married to someone else.

There is no doubt she loves her husband very much but I have always wondered whether she has completely forgotten her ex and are there times when she still thinks abt him.....obviously i can never ask her these questions,so needed someone from the forum to answer them

Thanks a lot for replying.....but still that din't answer my question,i'm not denying the fact that u can fall in love the second time,offcourse u can and sometimes the 2nd love will be much stronger than the first one.My question is whether it's possible to forget ur first love completely,can u get over the feelings u had for that person once?

Every relation leaves its mark and maybe its not possible to forget your first love. But its upto you if u wanna move on in life or waste it away. It depends on the love and support you recieve from your partner too. You'll always have a choice: either don't let go of your past and screw your present OR accept your present and move on. If you get a good life partner then the journey gets smooth and you can look at your past as a beautiful memory or if it has hurt you then your spouse' love and support can erase those painful memories.

i just want 2 say dis im not trying 2 be harsh i know armaan was ridzi life but did armaan ever think before he left did he ever know how much ridzi loved him if he told her dat he is leaving ridzi would have never gotten married 2 sid and i'm saying dis 2day i would have been a AR fan still if ridzi never got married 2 sid i honestly think it was armaan who didnt understand ridzi but sid is the one who gave her a new life and the only reason she is in front of armaan is becuz of her pati sid i luv sidma

Originally posted by: lnmdjrocksss

</div>Exactly!!!!u have said it all👍🏼
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@TM

Though i disagree with ur POV,i have to say that it's a very well written post.

I have one question.....If someone(TM,AR,SR or neutral fans) could answers this please

Isit possible to completely forget a person whom u loved once....or does something like "loved once" actually exist.

I have never been in love.....so i really don't know what it feels like to be in love with a personand then lose that very person!!!!

I want to know from someone who has loved,lost and then got a second chance in love...Even if u have moved on,does ur feelings for that person die just like that?Is it possible to stop loving that person

This is a not something related to the show,it's a genuine questionand i really want someone to answer this....need an honest answer

Sorry TM i know i'm going off the topic with my silly question

If you're asking (and I maybe answering the TM with this also) whether it's possible to move on, then of course. When they say time heals all wounds, THEY are right.

BUT - no, you don't just stop feeling what you felt in a flash. And yes, it's possible to stop "being in love with someone". Again, it all depends on how deep and how long you "loved" them for. You don't forget the person, no (unless you get amnesia or alzhimers ...) but you do stop feeling what you felt. You get over it. You really do.

And that also depends on how the relationship ended. If it ended on an ok note, then you may even, after sometime, remember it fondly. If it ended on a sour note, you'll think of it as a nuisance that is now over.

But eitherway, you won't live in misery, and keep thinking of him/her.

That said - when they say you don't forget your first love, THEY are right there also. But that doesn't mean you mope around the rest of your life. The first love is the first time you ever realized love. It's not just about the person you loved, but about being able to love, or learning to love. So yeah, you don't forget the process, the feelings, the time, etc.

But you love again, you move on.

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Onto the TM - again, awesome post. I'll write more when I have time, unfortunately still have to run, but one thing I'll say here:

Your question was why we can't accept that she can love again - well, of course she can love again. But "I" (and I don't speak for any other AR fan) can't accept it because she never got over Armaan, and when he came back she actually went through that "confused" phase. Now, if they had portrayed that she was over him (actually, that would have been the best and the EASIEST to show what with them having a 6 month leap and him showing up 6 month later - so in effect they were apart for 1 year and that could have easily been used) then it would be easier to accept.

So - I can accept that ANYONE can fall in love again, and again, and again. BUT, a few things don't fit right with this particular situation and to name just 3 here:

1) the fact that she wasn't over A to begin with, and now he's right there in her face everday
2) the whole wedding sequence - one day she's still madly in love with A and KILLING herself for him and literally the other day she's a meek wife ready to start life with Sid. That's just ... mind bogglingly unreal for me. Again, if they hadn't shown her so mad about A, her post marriage behavior woulda been acceptable
3) she went from hating the guy for the pictures (which he did take), calling him a rapist for all and sundry to hear (which he didn't do), to MARRYING HIM????? I mean, really, if I hated someone, and found out my basis for that hatred was partially incorrect, I'd probably go from hate to dislike to maybe even tolerance ... but marriage???? And seriously, really, she couldn't say no to papa? She fought papa and had him go on national TV to debate with Armaan, over their love story much less, but she couldn't say no to papa?????

There are many other reasons why I'm having a hard time swallowing the story line - not AR, not SR, nor S, A, or R and their characters or personal issues ... but the story line -

Ok - so I already wrote more than I had time for, so I gotta run. But I'd love to have a discussion with you on my view - you're one of the very few I've seen on here who can articulate so well AND not be condescending to those who hold an opposing view.

I did have a generic short comment - I noticed quite a few folks fighting over differing views. It's interesting how many jumped to defend your views but you didn't, and many preach about other's attacking but are doing so themselves ... if EVERYONE who says they dislike the animosity in the forum just started practicing what they're preaching, we'd have a much peaceful forum.

I understand sometimes it's hard to hold yourself back, specially if you're attacked ... but honestly, EVERYONE can control themselves