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I have been reading forum members blasting Girish a lot nowdays . So i thought of initiating a discussion on this interesting character and seeing why he is hated so much . . 1] Girish is a very suave businessman :
The biggest description of Girish is he is an unemotional , suave businessman . He knows how to talk sweetly and get what HE wants . Example for this ? His talk with Archana where he told her to get out of his daughter's life .
. Now before calling Girish a 'suave' businessman .......let us examine the country ......India , upon which this serial is based . It is a country where even today 75% of the marraiges done are arranged marraiges . Marraiges are literally thrashed across tables like BUSINESS DEALS . How much is your boy earning , can my daughter live comfortably , So much gold will be given , this and that . We find these marraiges, surviving and even turning out quite happy in the long run . Children are taught to rely on the experiences of elders and NOT question their experience . Put on any channel ..........we see serials with arranged marraiges replete . R all Indian fathers and mothers 'businessmen' then for keeping emotions out of the picture and haggling so that their daughter gets a good deal ? For the boy's party definetely looks out for themselves by Indian standards . The Archana Manav marraige was an arranged marraige inspite of the love element . But even the Shravni manav marraige was an arranged marraige of sorts ONLY . There was no love element there . It was a deal between Girish and Manav . Was Girish in it for his emotions ? Was Manav in it for his emotions ? Was Shravni in it [ back then] for her emotions ? The answer is NO . Girish was in it to find a solution for HIS wilful daughter , Manav was in it for saving Shravnis honor , atoning for Sachins mistake , making his mum happy by keeping Sachins baby in the family and Shravni was in it so she cud have her baby . All the personal reasons were anything but 'LOVE" and this solution satisfied them perfectly . So why shud Girish suddenly have feelings of "love' in his heart and 'understand 'Archu manav's love NOW ? He stepped into it only when he was convinced that Archna was divorcing Manav . He dID not offer a deal to Manav when the aRchu Manv marraige was intact . Then suddenly Archna came back .......even manav was zapped and told in court he WANTS the divorce . His priorities had changed .Yes , and to this point they REMAIN CHANGED . The Baby was placed above Archana and it was agreed upon by the trio .........Manav , Shravni and Girish , that Archna wud be regarded as a mere formality , NOT as a real return in their LIVES . It was explained to Archna that THINGS HAVE CHANGED . We see Manav , Girish and Shravni sticking to this arrangement even today . They are not budging from their stand as a baby is involved and was allowed to grow due to this arrangement only . Can all the 3 back out NOW ?
Will Manav be ok if Girish takes Shravni and baby and goes to the US ?
Will he be 'happy 'with Archna or think of what he deprived his mum of......Sachins nishaani ?
Will Archana be happy that Sachins baby is not part of family but she is ?
Think deeply about these 3 questions . The answer to all 3 is again , in my opinion , NO . Much as u guys desire it ........Manav Archu can now , never be happy if Shravni goes away with the baby . No one will be happy , not even the Deshmukhs . The baby has become an integral part of their lives and they want it .Somehow , somewhere , Archana took a backseat .
Then what is solution to these 3 questions ? That Archu Manav shud get baby and Shravni shud be banished to the US . Very convenient but also very CRUEL . No baby shud be seperated from its mother , whatever she is . We see Manju getting that benefit when she leaves her sasural and flounces off to her maayka with PUNNI . The Karanjkars constantly advocate and support Punni living with Manju as she is the mother . So u guys see , taking baby away from Shravni is not done . Archu Manav wud not like to begin a married life with a curse of mother on their head .
Girish did NOT speak like a business man to Archana is my opinion ..........as he had no idea he wud bump into Archana when he was leaving the house . Business talks r pre planned ., thought out . We see the scene where they both bump into each other inadvertently , exchange pleasantries , and as an afterthought , Girish hesitatingly decides to speak on the issue and tell Archu to butt out . If u guys go a step further and try to think objectively ........Archu IS INDEED BUTTING IN A LOT NOWDAYS . We see a human side of this 'businessman' when his eyes soften and he tells Archu Look Im sorry this happened to u , but Im helpless .I gotta look out for my daughter and her baby and you are NOT helping by continuing to live here and stun everyone with your 'NICENESS" . { iT only keeps memories of first marraige alive ] Perfectly reasonable , in my opinion .
The business man tag is as he spoke sweetly and advocated WHAT HE WANTED . But guys I wish to point out to u that Archu does same thing ALL the time . She speaks very sweetly to Shravni and constantly tells her .......no paper can seperate me and Manav ,I AM HIS WIFE and I will always REMAIN spiritually his wife . Shravni then stares open mouthed at her . It is a way of bending to touch feet but actually pulling away the rug from that person's feet . So why so hard on Girish ? We see the Karanjkars talking politely to Manav [ with joined hands btw] on Varsha's engagement day and saying " Forgive us , but U guys gotta leave ' as they wanted to welcome AJIT so that they cud please Satish's wealthy mom . So r Archus parents businessmen too ? And is Archu a lovesick businesswoman too ? Saying verbally I support this second marraige but actually all the time focussing on her agenda of making a place for HERSELF in the family , uncaring if the second wife may be comfortable with it or not ?😊
2] Girish 'BAITED: Manav .............Did he ? As I recall the scene , He was seated , worried , in his flat and Manav went there of his own accord and brought the topic up , advising him to let Shravi go ahead with the pregnancy .We see Girish furious , telling Manav please to STOP advising him thus ..........as he knows that if his foolish daughter did that , what society wud do to her and him too . In a fit of anger and frustration he asks Manav ......Will u marry her , ha ? He throws this question in a fit of emotional outburst . It is hardly a businessman's pre planned bait . That Ok , Ill lead him in a conversation , and then get him to marry my daughter . Besides u guys are not being fair here ..........coz we see Manav jumping at this not so unwillingly .Manav welcomed this suggestion and at that instant cut Archu out from his life forever . Is Manav so stupid to be Baited thus ? I think not . He is not a child and his priorities r very clear ..............his family over Archna . Neither did Girish BAIT manav , nor was Manav stupid enough to be BAITED .......He took the decision after weighing the circumstances .
3] Girish regards Shravani as a burden and this is a wrong social message :
Look at all the parents in this serial .........they want their children married off ASAP . Off their hands . Sulochna wants this ..........so much , that even before Archus divorce was finalized , she was already planning to get Archu married to another guy ........Satish . She DID NOT WANT ARCHU"S RESPONSIBILITY EVEN FOR A YEAR AFTER HER DIVORCE BUT WANTED HER TO GET OUT OF THE HOUSE AS SOON AS POSSIBLE . Varsha was forced into marraige although she repeatedly told Im not ready for it yet .Result ? Satish is sleeping on sofa . Savita was constantly phoning people to get Vandu OFF her hands after the rape attempt instead of sympathizing with her or giving her any kind of support as if she was a BURDEN .
Whats more , inspite of knowing about Vandus daily marital rape , SAVITA allows her to remain there as ultimately it is in their best interest that the marraige survives for society's sake .
In these cases the daughters were VIRGINS . At least Shravni is an unwed mom.........a greater worry ! What is more understandable .........these parents wanting their daughters married off or Girish wanting his daughter married off ?😊 Whose worry shud be greater if Indian society is indeed this closeminded as shown in serials ? If at all u guys want to talk about the social message , say that ALL INDIAN PARENTS PORTRAYED IN THIS SERIAL GIVE A BAD SOCIAL MESSAGE .........WHY blame GIRISH Shravnis relationship ? I really do not see the logic here .
BTW I can point out a number of far more serious social messages this serial gives and which no one seems to mind so much .........
a ] Enduring horrific abuse is okay , focus on winning HEARTS of sasuraal [ Archna]
b ] Enduring marital rape is just a part of life.... once u step in matrimony u gotta make it work [ Vandu]
c] Go on paying atrocious dowry demands without a murmur [ Sulochna pays Savita and Deshmukhs pay Rasika]
d] Girls shud sit , stand , visit maayka , or even pee only with permission from sasural and have NO individuality of their own [ Archana , Vandu and Varsha]
e] Instead of being upfront about financial status , one must beg borrow and steal but spend a lot on celebrating functions [ Karanjkars and now Manav selling his bike]
I cud go on but I must stop here . Compared to these horrific social messages , a father accepting a solution for his unwed pregnant daughter sounds much more human to me coz even money CANNOT buy social status and husbands very quickly in close minded societies in India . At least this is my opinion .Yes , They cud have shown Shravni going to US with girish but creatives needd her here for further story tracks . If at all .........Girish has supported Shravni more than any Dads in this serial have done ...........Manohar is literally a useless dad who DOES NOTHING and Damodar is so wrapped up in getting his bahu back that he is INDIFFERENT to Vandu's fate .I suppose that makes them good dads huh ? And since Girish is so involved in looking out for his daughter , he is a bad Dad . What a paradox .
His richness cannot be held against him .It is no rule that being Rich is being Bad as stupidly shown in these serials .Why shudnt he be rich ? He seems very well mannered inspite of being rich......see how Rasika and Ajit behave . And why shud he be self effacing just coz he is a girlls dad ? that too doesnt make sense to me .
If Archana has lost track of reality , is in denial , she needs parents like Girish who shud have been more involved in her and dragged her home instead of letting her live this undignified life , going around inviting people for Shravnis God Bharai . But Manohar and Sulochna R hardly involved . Manohar stares wimpily and blankly at every mess going on , and Sulochna is too wrapped up in Varshas new marraige and hardly bothers about Archu .Now I wud call THAT a wrong social message as involvement of parents DOES NOT END after a girls marraige . They have to be aware , and shud NEVER cease knocking sense in a girl's head if she is being wrong .
The next track will be Manavs unhappy marraige with Shravni and Shravni being as unlike as Archna in every aspect .........in her thoughts about Manavs development , wealth , status , everything . I welcome it as I want Manav and savita both to dwell on their mistake of breaking this marraige . The BIGGEST WRONG SOCIAL MESSAGE THIS SERIAL GAVE WAS BREAKING A SACRED PROMISE TO KEEP A MAN"S WORD GIVEN MUCH LATER as rightfully said by HOPE , our forum member . And Keeping that in mind , I welcome Shravni turning the vampish spoilt wife in the next track .
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