Identity Crisis & Life Imitates Art UPDATED - Page 5

Originally posted by: aarthi.ramani

Awesome topic aahana..

Very true "Life imitates art far more than art imitates life." What more example then our SaJan... its so real and kudos to cv's for showing such a realistic , thought provoking track... aahana most of us can relate to it...

Gunjan like most girls who has always been under shadow of her family and loved ones... given the opportunity she is in search for own identity, by circumstances of Maya ... Today both Gunjan standing at that crossroads where she is trying find her worth not to prove to the world but herself. And hence now she is more of Gunjan than Samrat chashmish..

Samrat is right in his own way as he did try to clam and act maturely as to talk to her and clear all things and get back his chashmish... he was right when he said that the best solution to the problems is communication between them because he realized that miscommunication and unexpressed feelings are disintegrating their relationship..

In today's world however a guys are open-minded deep inside their heart they always want that reassurance.. As of samart he wants all attention and reassurance for his insecurities which creeps from his past... he is not against her self-realization, he against the circumstances, the circumstance which makes him vulnerable to its insecurities....

With the circumstance not allowing him to meet her, again it's not his ego which is reflected in outburst, its self respect that's been questioned that irks him...

Now it's how they move from this Crossroads where they have to face their own insecurities all alone..

MJHT has always given positive message and again for me this track has to show the youth , that you can achieve a balance and manage both your professional and personal lives together ... at the end it's all about compatibility, compromises as sustaining the relationship... I want them to show this without the breakup showing that with a little freedom, a little bonding- a little compromise, a lot of communication, a lot of trust and understanding as a key to achieving balance in their of relationship ' committed or married....

I agree with you aarthi that they need to make effort to make the relationship survive...
But at the moment Gunjan is not sensitive to Samrat's issues..she did not support him or talk to him on both the occasions..Sajan's USP was their communication which is somehow getting lost...
Samrat yesterday was making an effort ..don't see that effort from gunjan..
I also don't want her to leave the film..but by just try communicating with Samrat.because else on an unequal footing this relationship cannot survive

Originally posted by: swati_mjht

That is the reason I do not see a future unless gunjan makes special effort which she is definitely not making...She is currently totally into her own thing
IF she wants their relationship to survive she has to help Samrat..
I have practically seen many relationship disintegrating because it is not possible for many women to be sensitive enough to help their partners

I just wanted to reply to this one point of yours, Swati ... @bold

I have an opposite view ... I have seen many women putting their careers on the back seat and even sacrificing them completely because their families come first ... and to me, that is not right either. A woman puts in as much effort and as much hard work in making a career for herself, and she is always the one expected to take a step back when it comes to choosing between work and family. As for women not being sensitive, it is often men who are not sensitive, or even just not appreciative enough of their partners ... for many men, their wives should concentrate on the home, and her career should be secondary because usually she is not the primary bread winner. And successful relationships are those where both partners give each other equal space and equal respect in terms of their career choices and personal commitments.

Gunjan is starting off a new career ... she owes it to herself and the people she is working with to give it her best shot and concentrate completely on her work while she is at work ... that is part of being a professional and a working person. Usually women are the ones to compromise, because most women cannot see their home life suffering for any length of time. Most women will try to work things out, unless their partners are completely insensitive, or unless they are very ambitious ... which in itself is not a bad thing to be.

This is the ardent feminist in me speaking!!! 😉

Originally posted by: DiyaS

I just wanted to reply to this one point of yours, Swati ... @bold

I have an opposite view ... I have seen many women putting their careers on the back seat and even sacrificing them completely because their families come first ... and to me, that is not right either. A woman puts in as much effort and as much hard work in making a career for herself, and she is always the one expected to take a step back when it comes to choosing between work and family. As for women not being sensitive, it is often men who are not sensitive, or even just not appreciative enough of their partners ... for many men, their wives should concentrate on the home, and her career should be secondary because usually she is not the primary bread winner. And successful relationships are those where both partners give each other equal space and equal respect in terms of their career choices and personal commitments.

Gunjan is starting off a new career ... she owes it to herself and the people she is working with to give it her best shot and concentrate completely on her work while she is at work ... that is part of being a professional and a working person. Usually women are the ones to compromise, because most women cannot see their home life suffering for any length of time. Most women will try to work things out, unless their partners are completely insensitive, or unless they are very ambitious ... which in itself is not a bad thing to be.

This is the ardent feminist in me speaking!!! 😉

@aarthi
I also feel gunjan should not sacrifice her career ..also she cannot devote as much time to Samrat..
I am only saying she should have explained things to Samrat properly about the apologizing part..
communication is really important..
After Samrat asked her to come with her, she should have gone and explained to him that career is important to her.
I am just saying that she need to take care of Samrat's feelings as well..

I am not a feminist..but I know I will never sacrifice my career unless I feel so..but I think being sensitive to people around you helps to smooth en life
guys are kids so sweet talking with them and explaining things normally works

Originally posted by: swati_mjht

@aarthi
I also feel gunjan should not sacrifice her career ..also she cannot devote as much time to Samrat..
I am only saying she should have explained things to Samrat properly about the apologizing part..
communication is really important..
After Samrat asked her to come with her, she should have gone and explained to him that career is important to her.
I am just saying that she need to take care of Samrat's feelings as well..

I am not a feminist..but I know I will never sacrifice my career unless I feel so..but I think being sensitive to people around you helps to smooth en life
guys are kids so sweet talking with them and explaining things normally works