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bheegi

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Posted: 15 years ago

Hi everyone

Here is something for all of you to ponder about. There has been a lot of discussion on the forum about AR bond vs SR bond. Each group feels that their couple shares a stronger, unbreakable bond than the other.

I am just going to state facts here...you all can make your decisions about whose bond is stronger:

Despite hundreds of hurdles like Shashank, fights, accidents, memory loss, trust issues.....AR have always ended together in the past. No one made extra efforts to unite them after their several separations as each time they realized what the other person meant to them and inevitably, they patched up on their own.

Armaan recovered from a severe brain injury, just because of his bond with Riddhima. Seeing her yearn and suffer because of him gave him the inspiration to 'come back from the dead' so to speak.

Sid and Ridz came together by chance and yes, one can say there was some external unknown force that made them collide with each other again and again. This external force even resulted in a marriage between the two. To this point, I agree, there was an unknown bond that bound them to each other.

Next, Armaan comes back and then what happens to the SR bond? The moment Armaan sets foot in Sanjeevani, the SR bond starts getting shakier. Armaan never intended to break the bond of marriage between SR, but the bond started seeing cracks in it, eventually ending up in divorce signatures between SR.

At this point, the bond is really resting on shaky grounds....

Shashank is trying his best to keep the SR bond intact.
The interns are supporting the SR bond
Sid's mom has already emotionally bribed Ridz to keep this bond
Armaan has also agreed to stay away from SR so their bond would not break
Now, a girl Tamanna is being introduced to keep SR bond intact....

In other words, a lot of people are putting tremendous efforts to keep the SR bond intact.

What I know of life and relationships, if so much external effort has to be put in keeping a bond intact, the bond itself is flawed. A relationship is between two people and only those two can create an undying bond between each other. This is true for any relationship in the world- even parent and child. If someone has to force a child to respect their parents, you know there is a problem in that parent-child relationship.

Right now AR are doing NOTHING to reignite the bond they have shared for so long. In fact, all circumstances and incidents are forcing them to stay apart.

Time will tell how strong this AR bond is....because if they are meant to be, no amount of extraneous factors working to keep them apart will succeed.

If SR are meant to be, why need so many cupids and external factors to bring them together??

Hope you all can reflect upon this and make some sensible suggestions or criticisms to my post.

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DulceTentacion.

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Posted: 15 years ago

this just proves how weak SR's bond is....sorry but its the truth!

they have so many people sopporting them but still the cracks that has been formed between their relationship cannot be repaired.

ARs love for each other shows how strong their relationship. despite going through so many ups and downs in their relationship they did not have to rely upon others to sort things out for them. their love for each other helped them triumph every obstacle! and am sure they will get past this aswel!

awesome post as usual di!

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Hannah

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Posted: 15 years ago

Wow Sangeeta Di, WOW!!!

If the foundations for a relationships are weak, then how can the relationship stand? SR's 'relationship' happened becuase of their arguments, which lead to those cheap not to mention disgusting photos, which lead to heated debate, running around in panchgani, rape/not rape?, not rape - Oh No, Riddhima's Izzat, in the end Riddhima's Shaadi. They have needed so many external factors to help their relationship survive, if its not Shanky Pants, It's the intern gang and now a little girl.... come on.... if the SR relationship bond, is as strong as Sid and others claim, then why do they need all this extra support?? Armaan and Riddhima's relationship just required AR and that is it. No-one or nothing else.... Just AR and their love for one another...

.... It hurts to see, that that despite all that they have been through, they are still not together.... Sigh this is DMG we are talking about, I could never quite understand the direction of the track

Once again, Beautiful Read

Loads of Love
Hannahxx

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bheegi

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Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: _minaz_
this just proves how weak SR's bond is....sorry but its the truth!

they have so many people sopporting them but still the cracks that has been formed between their relationship cannot be repaired.

ARs love for each other shows how strong their relationship. despite going through so many ups and downs in their relationship they did not have to rely upon others to sort things out for them. their love for each other helped them triumph every obstacle! and am sure they will get past this aswel!

awesome post as usual di!

i agree Minaz....they shall overcome this hurdle too because all said and done, AR share an unspeakable bond that even memory loss could not break....marriage is just a societal bond.

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bheegi

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Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: Hannah.
Wow Sangeeta Di, WOW!!!

If the foundations for a relationships are weak, then how can the relationship stand? SR's 'relationship' happened becuase of their arguments, which lead to those cheap not to mention disgusting photos, which lead to heated debate, running around in panchgani, rape/not rape?, not rape - Oh No, Riddhima's Izzat, in the end Riddhima's Shaadi. They have needed so many external factors to help their relationship survive, if its not Shanky Pants, It's the intern gang and now a little girl.... come on.... if the SR relationship bond, is as strong as Sid and others claim, then why do they need all this extra support?? Armaan and Riddhima's relationship just required AR and that is it. No-one or nothing else.... Just AR and their love for one another...

.... It hurts to see, that that despite all that they have been through, they are still not together.... Sigh this is DMG we are talking about, I could never quite understand the direction of the track

Once again, Beautiful Read

Loads of Love
Hannahxx

exactly Hannah....it just shows that as long as aemaan is there, Ridz will be bound to him-- if not now, eventually, yes

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uzma

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Posted: 15 years ago

another great post bheegi di!!👏

u really pointed out sum awesum facts to ponder upon---fer me SR bond is flawed-its not destiny which brings them together buh infact the ppl arnd them who try to bring them togther!

they are 2 ppl who wud never be together if the societal pressure dint get hold of them-buh unfortunately it did--

AR share such an amazing bond that no matter what happens tomorr--this divine bond can never be shaken or weakened...this is the most special thing abt their relationship---and apart from the many other things --this is one the main factor which makes me a hard-core fan of this heavenly couple!

AR forever!!

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bheegi

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Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: uzmakhan
another great post bheegi di!!👏
u really pointed out sum awesum facts to ponder upon---fer me SR bond is flawed-its not destiny which brings them together buh infact the ppl arnd them who try to bring them togther!

they are 2 ppl who wud never be together if the societal pressure dint get hold of them-buh unfortunately it did--

AR share such an amazing bond that no matter what happens tomorr--this divine bond can never be shaken or weakened...this is the most special thing abt their relationship---and apart from the many other things --this is one the main factor which makes me a hard-core fan of this heavenly couple!

AR forever!!

that's why the song 'ishq leta hai kaise imtehaan' is a signature song for AR and DMG

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Fatima

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Posted: 15 years ago

Very good post. 👏 I of course have a different opinion. And it is not because I happen to be a SR fan.

I don't question the bond AR share even for a second. But it took them almost 3 years to create that bond. They also had to go through minor breakups. 😕 if we say well then they always came running back to each other we should wait and see if SR run back to each other when this mess is over. Too early to make such judgments. Shashank has only mentioned the 7 months but Rid hasn't said yes.

SR had only known each other for about 3 months. And their bond is very strong. So far they haven't shared a decent friendly conversation, they haven't had any romantic moments, or anything of that sort yet Rid can openly state a line such as " I know you Sid. I know what you feel and what you think even without you mentioning it".

I have no problem if AR bond was stronger than SR. I would think that's how it's suppose to be considering Ar has been in love for the longest time and SR is just starting off. But I do not think for a second SR bond is flawed.

Of course according to AR fans they feel SR exists because of pressure from family, friends and society. Almost all SR fans will deny it.

Rid doesn't care what Sid's mother or his family thinks. I find it ridiculous that everyone keeps bringing up the interns. The interns are serving both S and A equally. They are not hatching a plot for SR reunion. Su who is Sid's sister is watching things from the sidelines.

Life is in a way where external influences play a huge huge huge role. But external influences can not create a bond. Lets say choti tamanna will come and lock SR in a room. Whatever happens between SR and their bond has nothing to do being locked in that room. I can not say their bond is flawed because they happened to be locked in a room by someone else other than themselves. Bond is a connection from the heart and it has nothing to do with who does what or says what.

I would say SR bond is more special because they had less time to spend together, and they came together when everything in life was was a mess. They hated each other yet they managed to care for one another. That's a bond in my opinion. Anyone can create a bond when life is perfect in lala land.

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bheegi

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Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: Perfangel5655
Very good post. 👏 I of course have a different opinion. And it is not because I happen to be a SR fan.

I don't question the bond AR share even for a second. But it took them almost 3 years to create that bond. They also had to go through minor breakups. 😕 if we say well then they always came running back to each other we should wait and see if SR run back to each other when this mess is over. Too early to make such judgments. Shashank has only mentioned the 7 months but Rid hasn't said yes.

SR had only known each other for about 3 months. And their bond is very strong. So far they haven't shared a decent friendly conversation, they haven't had any romantic moments, or anything of that sort yet Rid can openly state a line such as " I know you Sid. I know what you feel and what you think even without you mentioning it".

I have no problem if AR bond was stronger than SR. I would think that's how it's suppose to be considering Ar has been in love for the longest time and SR is just starting off. But I do not think for a second SR bond is flawed.

Of course according to AR fans they feel SR exists because of pressure from family, friends and society. Almost all SR fans will deny it.

Rid doesn't care what Sid's mother or his family thinks. I find it ridiculous that everyone keeps bringing up the interns. The interns are serving both S and A equally. They are not hatching a plot for SR reunion. Su who is Sid's sister is watching things from the sidelines.

Life is in a way where external influences play a huge huge huge role. But external influences can not create a bond. Lets say choti tamanna will come and lock SR in a room. Whatever happens between SR and their bond has nothing to do being locked in that room. I can not say their bond is flawed because they happened to be locked in a room by someone else other than themselves. Bond is a connection from the heart and it has nothing to do with who does what or says what.

I would say SR bond is more special because they had less time to spend together, and they came together when everything in life was was a mess. They hated each other yet they managed to care for one another. That's a bond in my opinion. Anyone can create a bond when life is perfect in lala land.

Thanks perfangel (i am sorry don't know ur name)
I agree with you in some parts,esp: Bond is a connection from the heart and it has nothing to do with who does what or says what.

That's exactly what i am trying to say. One forms a bond with another person from within and external forces might aid in initiating the bond, but ultimately, it has to come from within. I can see that internal connection from Sid's side but have yet to see it from Ridz's side. Yes, she has tried hard to keep the marriage intact but if the marriage was so bonded and so strong, no one could shake it's foundation. The fact there are cracks, just goes to show that something is amiss in this bond. I still feel that their marriage was a result of external pressures and if they had come to know each other under different circumstances, at best they would be good friends.

Nevertheless, I appreciate your POV

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shihij07

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Posted: 15 years ago

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Originally posted by: bheegi
Hi everyone

Here is something for all of you to ponder about. There has been a lot of discussion on the forum about AR bond vs SR bond. Each group feels that their couple shares a stronger, unbreakable bond than the other.

I am just going to state facts here...you all can make your decisions about whose bond is stronger:

Despite hundreds of hurdles like Shashank, fights, accidents, memory loss, trust issues.....AR have always ended together in the past. No one made extra efforts to unite them after their several separations as each time they realized what the other person meant to them and inevitably, they patched up on their own.

Armaan recovered from a severe brain injury, just because of his bond with Riddhima. Seeing her yearn and suffer because of him gave him the inspiration to 'come back from the dead' so to speak.

Sid and Ridz came together by chance and yes, one can say there was some external unknown force that made them collide with each other again and again. This external force even resulted in a marriage between the two. To this point, I agree, there was an unknown bond that bound them to each other.

Next, Armaan comes back and then what happens to the SR bond? The moment Armaan sets foot in Sanjeevani, the SR bond starts getting shakier. Armaan never intended to break the bond of marriage between SR, but the bond started seeing cracks in it, eventually ending up in divorce signatures between SR.

At this point, the bond is really resting on shaky grounds....

Shashank is trying his best to keep the SR bond intact.
The interns are supporting the SR bond
Sid's mom has already emotionally bribed Ridz to keep this bond
Armaan has also agreed to stay away from SR so their bond would not break
Now, a girl Tamanna is being introduced to keep SR bond intact....

In other words, a lot of people are putting tremendous efforts to keep the SR bond intact.

What I know of life and relationships, if so much external effort has to be put in keeping a bond intact, the bond itself is flawed. A relationship is between two people and only those two can create an undying bond between each other. This is true for any relationship in the world- even parent and child. If someone has to force a child to respect their parents, you know there is a problem in that parent-child relationship.

Right now AR are doing NOTHING to reignite the bond they have shared for so long. In fact, all circumstances and incidents are forcing them to stay apart.

Time will tell how strong this AR bond is....because if they are meant to be, no amount of extraneous factors working to keep them apart will succeed.

If SR are meant to be, why need so many cupids and external factors to bring them together??

Hope you all can reflect upon this and make some sensible suggestions or criticisms to my post.

di! i loved your post and the hilighted parts are my favourite ones.👏👏👍🏼 this is what i felt when heard that armaan was to return. if riddhima has really moved on, shares a deeper bond with sid than armaan, then not even armaan could break the god made relationship, as it was said.
a bond between two people only survives at the will power and feelings of the persons involved in it.
agreed to the fact that EXTERNAL FACTORS have a deep impact but should not be deeper then the relationship you share.
these things guide you to take certain decisions, to make you understand what you want in your life and if a relationship survives those odds then we are proud to say that they are made for each other.
the best example are AR ITSELF. they were sometimes trustworthy friends, sometimes bitter enemies, passionate lovers but what lied beneath all these was their unconditional love. that's why their relationship survived even after their break up and when it was not even conspicuous. nobody knew about their relationship except rahul and nikkita who had come a long time since their relationship grew. what made them survive the realtionship? it was their inner conscience, their committment.
riddhima accused armaan of cheating her when he went to patiala with muskaan. it seemed as if she didn't have any felings leftt for him! was it true? if it were she would have not gone to kasauli , walking through dark and dangerous nights just to bring her life, her armaan back!
nobdy prompted her to do so. it was her inner voice! if they would have cared less about each other, armaan would have not decided to leave sanjeevani due to riddhima nor would have riddhima come in search for him without thinking twice. time and again, they have showed the strength of their relationship. had it been so fragile, they could have found a second love of their life and lived happily, but they never.
the rough patches in their relationship made their bond stronger, instead of loosening it.
when ARMAAN walked out of her life, she madly searched for him but failed miserably. ashe got married to sid, tried working out her marriage but where was her heart? where was the old riddhima/ she had been long lost with armaan, safe in his heart.
today the cracks developed in her marriage is not due to armaan but due to sid and riddhima, themselves.
if she doesn't feel anything for him, then probably sid would not have any doubts and riddhima would have any fears or confusions.
all she needed to do was tell the truth to armaan about her marriage. why didn't she? because she still loved him and probably armaan could have gone back again. her soliloquies are enough to prove the love which still burns with passion in her heart.

if sid rids relationship would have been strong, then inspite of everything they would have tried to resolve it!
sid was trying to do what he couldn't and riddhima didn't do what she could have done.
because she is indebted to him, believes in sanctity of marriage and then sid's mom contributed a lot in her decision.' i don't want to see my son in pain because of you' those words haunt her day and night and probably that vermillion she put on her head was a conscious decision, an order that her mind gave to her unleashed heart.
such things are pious for any woman but cannot help saving her marriage. its the feelings and efforts of both of them which could indeed save there marriage.
now, siddhant is leaving no stone unturned to get riddhima but riddhima has become so cold that even sid's proximity doesn't effect her.
on the other hand, armaan has stopped making any efforts, but still leaves a strong impact by the touch of his affectionate gazes.
silence is golden and riddhima's silence speak volumes about her love for armaan, whether she is in front of armaan or sid.
she wanted to saty in the marriage because of sid, his feelings. she liked him because she had found a good person, a helping hand in him. she had accepted him as a truth in her life, but not as a part of her identity. he is part of her life but armaan is part of her identity. there is a huge difference between two things this sentence actually sums up her relationship with sid and armaan.
love you di!❤️🤗

Edited by shihij07 - 15 years ago

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