Everyone's take on marriage - DOTW

Heard of the swingers club? Well, we have, but only in hushed tones! But perhaps our society has come of age today with films like Mixed Doubles, which explore the sensitive issue of swapping partners among couples! We asked some television actors what they felt about this urban phenomena....some shrugged, some hesitated and others just chose not to comment. Here are some of them who were game enough to tell us what they felt!

Maninee De

Maninee De: It very much exists in India. India is totally open to this concept. I am not talking in terms of Mumbai, but it also in cities like Chandigarh! And also in places where we think it can never happen! Personally, I don't subscribe to it, because I simply don't believe in the concept. I feel marriage is sacred and it should not be affected by such things. Marriage can be sustained by hardwork. This is not at all a practical solution. The couple has to learn things together and help their relationship. They can do some hobbies together and also have outings to break the monotony, if it exists. Scientifically after 18 months the attraction between a man and woman terminates.... what lasts is trust and friendship. It is all about perception. And this is just not my way!

Nausheen Ali Sardar: Yes, it exists! And I think people who do something of this kind are mentally insane to do it. It's equivalent to opting for a prostitute. I will never ever subscribe to this concept. Even if boredom steps into a marriage, something should be done to revive the excitement. Couples can opt for outings, can go clubbing together and yes, if need be can also see a marriage counsellor. One has to find a companion in his or her spouse so that it can be fruitful for the future.

Manish Goyal: Well, it is a very larger than life concept, so even if it exists in real life, people are hiding it. It is behind the doors. And it will take a lot of time for people to open up. It can be counted as one of the solutions but, I will not adapt it. There are many other things to do deny boredom entry into a relationship! Your spouse has to be your companion

Nigaar Z Khan: Yes, this concept of swinging couples does exist! I feel that sex is a very special time spent between a couple and it is more of an emotional bonding. I have never seen sex as entertainment. I will never subscribe to a concept like that. If marriage gets monotonous, the best solution for it is communication. The couple should solutions by talking to each and communicating the problems.

Sharad Kelkar: I am definitely aware of this concept, but it doesn't exist in our country. Will I subscribe to it? What rubbish! (Laughs) In my point of view this is no solution for saving a marriage. There are many couples, groups in society who do adapt to this concept, but for me it's a total no no. One has to be innovative with his wife every time. You cannot go on with the same routine over and over again. They can go out partying, watch movies and even can bring out innovation in having sex

....now the discussion is solely because of manini's statement" Scientifically after 18 months the attraction between a man and woman terminates,"..........is this true?????is what manini says true????...my hypothesis is that ......perhaps that answers all our Q about the feelings AA has for mona😆....so if it is scientifically proven that fatre 18 months, the attraction terminates, then well, sanda have been married for 19 months now😆😆😆....and can my hypothesis be true😉...so does this solve the mystery????calling on all those who participated in the other discussion a ka tina, fan no 1, indiainspires,neelam di, CB , hansa di, sheena, ammu, @di, tabu lashy etc etc to comment ......and can a man fall in love after he is married to another woman...a la ELAS(ek ladki anjaani si where nikhil will fall in love with anu even though he is married to tulika....)

Originally posted by: Buffie

Heard of the swingers club? Well, we have, but only in hushed tones! But perhaps our society has come of age today with films like Mixed Doubles, which explore the sensitive issue of swapping partners among couples! We asked some television actors what they felt about this urban phenomena....some shrugged, some hesitated and others just chose not to comment. Here are some of them who were game enough to tell us what they felt!

Maninee De

Maninee De: It very much exists in India. India is totally open to this concept. I am not talking in terms of Mumbai, but it also in cities like Chandigarh! And also in places where we think it can never happen! Personally, I don't subscribe to it, because I simply don't believe in the concept. I feel marriage is sacred and it should not be affected by such things. Marriage can be sustained by hardwork. This is not at all a practical solution. The couple has to learn things together and help their relationship. They can do some hobbies together and also have outings to break the monotony, if it exists. Scientifically after 18 months the attraction between a man and woman terminates,(loooooooooool......perhaps that answers all our Q about the feelings AA has for mona😆....so if it is scientifically proven that fatre 18 months, the attraction terminates, then well, sanda have been married for 19 months now😆😆😆...lolz....just kidding) what lasts is trust and friendship. It is all about perception. And this is just not my way!

calling on all those who are married to answer............is what manini says true????....and canmy hypothesis be true😉...so does this solve the mystery????calling on all those who participated in the other discussion a ka tina, fan no 1, indiainspires,neelam di, CB , hansa di, sheena, ammu, @di, tabu lashy etc etc to comment

Whatever she said is true and I can never even imagine that this thing exists in India.

Well I have been living in America for so long that I can't bet on it.

Originally posted by: sawagat

Whatever she said is true and I can never even imagine that this thing exists in India.

Well I have been living in America for so long that I can't bet on it.

Oh yes, it does exist, but mostly in so called "high society" in big cities like delhi and mumbai.

Well, as far as I know, it doesnot exist anywhere in South India.

And I don't think the attraction between a man and woman ends in 18 months......

I am in love with my husband for the past eleven years and even now just seeing him is enough to raise my heart beats 😛

Yes it exists even in small towns in india. Its as big in south as its in the north.

Originally posted by: Buffie

Maninee De

Maninee De: It very much exists in India. India is totally open to this concept. I am not talking in terms of Mumbai, but it also in cities like Chandigarh! And also in places where we think it can never happen! Personally, I don't subscribe to it, because I simply don't believe in the concept. I feel marriage is sacred and it should not be affected by such things. Marriage can be sustained by hardwork. This is not at all a practical solution. The couple has to learn things together and help their relationship. They can do some hobbies together and also have outings to break the monotony, if it exists. Scientifically after 18 months the attraction between a man and woman terminates,(loooooooooool......perhaps that answers all our Q about the feelings AA has for mona😆....so if it is scientifically proven that fatre 18 months, the attraction terminates, then well, sanda have been married for 19 months now😆😆😆...lolz....just kidding) what lasts is trust and friendship. It is all about perception. And this is just not my way!

calling on all those who are married to answer............is what manini says true????....and canmy hypothesis be true😉...so does this solve the mystery????calling on all those who participated in the other discussion a ka tina, fan no 1, indiainspires,neelam di, CB , hansa di, sheena, ammu, @di, tabu lashy etc etc to comment

😛dear ab to science is also backing our theory😉 well all tht i feel is AA may b committed 2 SS but he also is mesmerized by his co-star and their relation is not just tht of colleagues but smthng def. more😉 and if maniinnee's report of attraction ending after 18 mnths is correct 😆 then tht explains totally why i feel AA may b loving......or lets say at least admiring Mona deeep deeeep deeeeep deeep deeeeply.😳

ek na ek din sachchai to bahaar aani hi hai😛 so lets see aage kya hota hai😳

erm....maybe after 18 months excitment of marriage runs down....but your love gets stronger.. 😳


i dont beleive all his..and it actually depends on he society you grow up...
in very high up societies when attracion goes down a little people decide to part ways....specially all these celebrity couples...they have his idea i think that marriage should be perrfect.. 😉
i know abou this a little cause my dad and my mom are very diff in most aspects and from diff levels of society..something like armaan and jassi.. 😛

Originally posted by: a4j4ever

erm....maybe after 18 months excitment of marriage runs down....but your love gets stronger.. 😳


i dont beleive all his..and it actually depends on he society you grow up...
in very high up societies when attracion goes down a little people decide to part ways....specially all these celebrity couples...they have his idea i think that marriage should be perrfect.. 😉
i know abou this a little cause my dad and my mom are very diff in most aspects and from diff levels of society..something like armaan and jassi.. 😛

You are absolutely right sharmi (pls forgive me if that's not your name. I may be a little confused).

I think everybody's perception of love and marriage is diff, based on their own personal experiences. For some the attraction maybe less than 18 months esp if it is based on just physical attributes, for some more than 18 months while for others it may last a lifetime.

I think the true test of love comes when a couple starts living together. I thought i knew my hubby very well as i had known him for 4 years before we took the plunge. But only after we were wed did i realize that what i knew about him was just the tip of the iceberg. It is only after you have lived with a person that you come to know that person inside out. You then discover that your love is a mere mortal with feet of clay, you come to know all his weaknesses; that he snores in bed and burps after a heavy meal; that he would have never made it to the indian cricket team as all the rubbish that he throws so confidently lands one foot short of the bin; or that he can never match his socks or pack his suitcase. And after knowing all his shortcomings, after your rose-tinted glasses have been taken off - if you can still say that I love him and want to grow old with him - that i think is real love.

And that kind of love definitely lasts more than 18 months as it is not based on a mere physical attraction, but something far deeper.

I cannot give any illustrious judgement about this. It's obvious sometimes it happens sometimes not but nothing like South India or North India. It is not depending upon the society its depending upon human characteristics, understanding between persons. I feel there is no stipulated time like 18 months or 18 years. It may be 18 days, 180 days, 18 years and more & more.

And for MandA its my feeling they are in love with each other. Rest their decision. I would always like to see them together. As per my observation AA looks not lively with SS as well as when he is with Mona may on screen and off-screen.