joint families = trouble? - Page 4

Originally posted by: visrom

Nobody wants to desert their parents. Just that it sometimes becomes impossible to live under the same roof. The middle ground is what I suggested - live in the same city or locality or even in the same building, but in different houses.

In my nuclear family parents are always there........if we are living in the same city...alag rehna is not an option...

Originally posted by: blue-ice

I know ...if our teenagers are scared to live in a joint family or are scared of MILs...a lot of credit goes to the Kekta serials where the MIL is some kind of a devil...living to break up her son's marriage...now in reality which mother would do that.......I hate the saas bahu serials😡

I think joint families and nuclear families can both work out. But when i imagine my married life, i mostly imagine me and my husband only.


Joint Families---It all depends on the individuals.

Nuclear---More freedom & live on your own terms.


I would like to live only with my husband. But if the guy i choose wants to live with his parents & if i get along with his parents and whoever else lives there, i wouldn't mind.


If we live on our own, we would keep a close contact with our families even though we aren't living with them.

@ those who like nuclear families: What'll happen when the uranium and plutonium in the family react? Unless you want to be living in Mars, you'd like to live in joint ones. 😆

I've always dreamed of going to live in a joint family. Where I'll joke with my new mom against my husband, where I could call my father-in-law any petty worry, where my brother in law would be my chota brother, where my children would grow up like I did with Dada and Dadi.

I hope I do. I couldn't imagine myself in a nuclear family. But it's true that things do change, I wonder how the coming generation would live the idea of living 'together'. Since that is slowly, but surely losing it's value.


I don't say nuclear families have only disadvantages and extended ones only advantages. There are pros and cons like in all issues of course. For me, either one is really ok, but for both, you've got to learn to adapt and live.

Originally posted by: sneha0601

I've always dreamed of going to live in a joint family. and I've always dreamed to live in joint family. 😒 Where I'll joke with my new mom against my husband, where I could call my father-in-law any petty worry, where my brother in law would be my chota brother, where my children would grow up like I did with Dada and Dadi.

I hope I do. I couldn't imagine myself in a nuclear family. But it's true that things do change, I wonder how the coming generation would live the idea of living 'together'. Since that is slowly, but surely losing it's value.


I don't say nuclear families have only disadvantages and extended ones only advantages. There are pros and cons like in all issues of course. For me, either one is really ok, but for both, you've got to learn to adapt and live.

i wouldnt mind living wid my inlaws(when i get married)...infact i would expect any son to wanna live wid his parents and try to create a bridge betn the wife and the parents....

Originally posted by: love_vs_hate

very well said 🤗... What ever the matters r in joint families I don't care abt them but can say only one thing I "LOVE" joint families... Where our dada, dadi, chachu and phopho ... all relations r with us at a time ... what can be ideal than this one... 😍

Right on! Oh the chachus and chachis can become trouble as years go by, depending on the different POVs, but when they say marriages must be well thought of before jumping into, there's a solid reason! 😆 You've got to assess everything, at least that's what I've always believed. Just too bad half of our youth today, I include myself in the lot, take rash decisions in seconds, and two months later, you hear of divorce! 🤢 Forget two moths, I've seen a record-breaking two weeks too over here.

I live in a joint family and love it! As a kid I loved how when Mummy used to go out to work, Dadi used to take care of me..and still does! :) I love the way everytime there is a birthday in the family, everyone gets together and celebrates. I just love the special bond with each member of the family.

My mom grew up in a joint family!

Her family lived with 3 of her chacha's and their wives and kids. The way she describes it, it sounds fun! If my family will be like her family (nice lol) then i wouldnt really mind =]


Like i said earlier, it depends on the different personalities living in the house.

I have a question, if i live with my husbands parents only, will that be considered a joint family?