suicidal friend!!!!

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zoya

@legallyzoya

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Posted: 16 years ago

I have a friend lets just call her nikki. well Nikki has gone through a lotttt in life!!!! she joined my school whenw e were in 9th and in 10th grade she became the headgirl n i was the cultural head,,,,,,that way we became pretty close since we had to work together.

and thats when i came to noe the hard life she was living...her best friend our senior spread nasty

rumours abt her n made her life BAD. she was depressed even tried killin hersel....but then she got over it.

now we are in 11th grade in the same college and in the same class!! shes getting super nasty....doesnt like it when im nt there with her in the lunch break but when im with my friend, when i speak to ym seniors n hang around much with them.....she feels tht im nt givin her enuf time. n for that i drastically stoppe dhanging around wid the others. n she found new friends n dumps me.,...i dint say anything.

i made hell lot of sacrifices for her in practically everything/1 i never complained when she was in a bad mood and yelled at me...just waited for her to cool down n then she sends me a sorry sms.

she fought with her other friends n stuff. i tried clearin it off but she just seems to 'depressed'' to be practical.

ive been doign everything for her....and she is being inhumanely ungrateful. fights with others and then

abuses me!!!!!! i don say anythn cause im scared shel hurt herself.

im tirwd of being scared all the time....tired of sacrificin when she doesnt even care.....

i noe shes an introvert so i introduced her yo ym friends n stuff....but no she still acts weird.

its really pissing me off now......she doesnt even seem happy when i win somethign or someone

nice happens to me....

shes havin issues wid her best friend...her friends tryin to solve it but nikis being all ''im hurt she doesnt care''......n crap!

now she got into alchohol!!!! drinks whenever her mom goes away......im really scared.

her dad died when she was young ebcause of alchohol :(

please help. what shud i do?

shud tell my psychology lecturuer to indirectly help her?? shel kil me if she finds out though...

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Posted: 16 years ago

Do you have support tutors or something? Speak to them about what is going on.

If not maybe approach a counsellor at the college and explain what is going on

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aishwarya

@aish_punk

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Posted: 16 years ago

hey..thats something sad you're dealing through..

i went through some part of what u mentioned..but ntn was as drastic as this..

you should probably have a talk with her..since ur her gud friend..n dont ever raise our voice..just talk in a calm manner..she'll prolly understand..but she might take time..

or u can ask ur lecturer to speak to her..bt just ask him not to mention ur name since she'll be pissed off wid u later on!..

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Chandni Shehzadi

@mariam4eva

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Posted: 16 years ago

Wow, you did a lot and have a good heart and soul. it's very sad to hear what she did to you. I understand what both of you are going through, I myself had people spreading fake rumors about me and stuff but I don't act crappy around people.

Back to your question. I'm thinking about try ignoring her to see if she would realize her mistake OR generally ask her is everything ok OR generally tell her how she made you feel. I think she'll realize her mistake. Her alcohol problem is serious, she's too young to be drinking in the first place. Try going for counseling to get the step by step guidance. Going for counseling is basically seeking guidance in one's life. I think she's basically afraid of having the history repeated again but she should understand that it won't happen to her again. I think the only best thing you can do is either ignore her or show her that you're different.

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Amira

@MegaAngelzs

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Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: mariam4eva
Wow, you did a lot and have a good heart and soul. it's very sad to hear what she did to you. I understand what both of you are going through, I myself had people spreading fake rumors about me and stuff but I don't act crappy around people.

Back to your question. I'm thinking about try ignoring her to see if she would realize her mistake OR generally ask her is everything ok OR generally tell her how she made you feel. I think she'll realize her mistake. Her alcohol problem is serious, she's too young to be drinking in the first place. Try going for counseling to get the step by step guidance. Going for counseling is basically seeking guidance in one's life. I think she's basically afraid of having the history repeated again but she should understand that it won't happen to her again. I think the only best thing you can do is either ignore her or show her that you're different.

NO! Do NOT ignore her!!

I agree wiv everything else u sed Mariam but ignoring Nimi.. Will make things EVEN WORSE!!

I understand wat she's going through is REAL bad... nd that's y she's getting more nd more deppressed day by day!! And becoming like Devdas by drinking.. which By The Way.. is devastating becoz she's too young.. Am not saying that she shud drink wen she's older..

NEVA DRINK.. it's seriously a bad habit...

Nd like ur frends father died... she will die too!!

I think ur frend hasn't gotten ova the fact that her dad died.. Nd thats why she's mentally depressed!! Nd then that senior girl bullied her.. which put even more deppression and trauma on 2 her brain as she was already coping with the Father thing!!

And suicide!!??

Life can't be that bad!! Can it!!?? 😲 😲 😲

U are a brave frend!! U shudn't let go of ur frend!! Stay by her side ALWAYS..

Becoz she needs u... She needs a true frend...

A frend with a heart of gold... a soul of true beauty that u hav!!

Don't put any kind of pressure on her.. MAKE her understand in a calm way..

Show her a brighter side in life!!

Cheer her up!!

Try 2 sit down nd talk her through her life.. Maybe make her cry.. if she hasn't been crying at all.. becoz she's in some kind of shock!! 😕

Comfort her!!

Nd try 2 stop her drinking!!!

I think this is the only best way!!