Dignity, love, responsibility: An analysis

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Posted: 15 years ago
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Hi guys!! Although its been only four days that I've not written a single post.. (travelling continuously).. it seems ages. Anyhow, I've been reading all the posts, and varied points of view.I thought I'd analyse them here.

Archana: My heart goes out to this girl... but am actually feeling very proud of her for trying her best to work on the marriage, but at the same time having held on to her dignity and self respect... Shravani shud have sunk in shame in front of her. At the same time, she understood her husband's dilemma so well.. that it was his resposibility (although I don't think so) to care for Shravani and so quietly moved out respecting his decision and so as to not trouble the family anymore.. clearly shows how much she still cared for them. I just hope that while moving out she gives back a good answer to Savita... lets see... very unlikely though.

Manav: From the last 4 days, I have been reading so much against this guy- weak willed, quitter, not deserving Archana.. etc. etc. Trust me, even I was upset on seeing yesterday's episode.. so decided to analyse it as to what Manav could have done at that time when Archana was boldly confessing her love for him..

1.) "Archana loves me, even I love her... so I should save my Pavitra Rishta.."

Thank God Manav didn't say this, else he wud have ended up losing a loyal fan (myself). Much as I want both of them to reunite.. I definitely DO NOT want them to unite for the wrong reasons. Manav right now considers Archana to be the one who supported the police complaint and inflicted horrific tortures on his family, even considers her responsible for his brother's death to some extent. Quite clearly, the respect and opinion he had for Archana is not the same, the respect which had made him fall in love with this girl. As such, if he still goes back to make his marriage work cos he loves her... then that wud mean that the love has now become a weakness.. so much that he is actually supporting the person who he thinks terribly wronged him and his family.. is it fair for that love to be denigrated to this level??? And is this marriage even a marriage with no respect whatsoever??? Will the rest of the family accept??? Will this marriage even be stable, cos those memories will haunt their lives in some way or the other. Personally I think love shud give you strength in life.. not become a weakness...(like Archana whose love for Manav gave her strength to break the shackles of her home and also refuse marriage to Satish, like Manav whose love for Archana gave him strength to sign the divorce papers so that she cud marry Satish and live happily, like Archana who despite in love with Manav didn't go back to him cos she thought he had maligned her,she didn't let her love be a weakness to support the wrong person).... otherwise it is better to go separate ways.. like a girl who falls in love with some gangster and says I will marry him inspite of the work he does cos I am hopelessly in love with him. Or Vinod (+ Karanjkar family) who doesn't say anything to Manjusha cos he loves her or maybe cos of Punni. Same case.. their love is their weakness and doesn't let them fight against what is wrong.

The other point cud be that Manav feels genuinely bad for Archu, and thinks, "OK I have reasons to be angry with her but she has left her home for me...what will society do to her..where will she go if this marriage breaks.. so I have to save my marriage." Although his concern wud be apreciated.. but again, the point is the same.. his reasons for saving his marriage are not correct- PITY. What wud such a marriage accomplish- they wud never physically consummate nor accept each other with their hearts. And the worst sufferer in this wud be poor Archana who wud have to bear the tag of being 'forgiven' for no mistake of her own. Not to mention listen to Savita's taunts and no one wud be able to defend her cos she wud still be a culprit in their eyes. At least if she moves out, she can be independent and start a new life, at least it is better than such a fake marriage.

So I guess rather than weak-willed, I will consider Manav as a person who showed strength of character by not working on his marriage for the wrong reasons, rather than succumb to emotional weakness of his heart. I think it takes strength to do so. Marriage protected for wrong reasons crumbles down in the long run.. for want of respect, trust or whatever.

And so rather than show Manav as a person who decides to work on his marriage for the wrong reason.. I wud prefer seeing him as one, who comes across his mistake, accepts it graciously, and works on his marriage for the right reason- to give his wife what she had been denied all along- respect, rights, justice... and love. He shud fight against the world for his marriage and his love... it wud be then that his love wud be his strength and guiding light.

2.) "If Archana really loves me.. cud it be that she didn't betray me... that she didn't make the complaint.. that my love wasn't a mistake??"

Good going Manav, cos this is what we got to see that day. He felt awkward and guilty when Archana told him she has always loved him, doesn't care if he is angry or not, accepted her mistake openly, and finally when he heard her conversation with Shravani.. no points for guessing that he was feeling bad and had switched on to thinking mode. The trembling roots of trust have started gaining ground and although the dilemma was obvious... (I've always said his wounds won't heal in one day, nor will he trust Archu in one day)... good news is near. This is also an example of love giving him strength to believe that maybe Archna wan't wrong... but this is going to take time, cos as of now he is just trying to gather the crumbs of life for his family and avoid any more chaos by agreeing to marry Shravani.

3.) "Finish your court stay of 3 months, and go!!"

Good and bad, good cos misunderstandings wud have cleared up, and bad cos Archu wud have to go through intense humiliation and heartbreak. Plus at the end of 3 months all her expectations might have been broken.

4.) "I am marrying Shravani"

Good that the truth came from his mouth, rather than from someone else's... but poor Archu really got the biggest shock of her life. It had to come up anyway... but I guess everyone is more shocked cos it came so abruptly. Although I'm really sad for Archana, I'm happy she's out of that house where no one understands her as of now and can concentrate on her studies and job. No need thinking about the past anymore.. let Manav come to know the truth and accept his mistake on one knee.

As for Manav, again here, rather than weak-willed, he stood up like a man to face the music of the decision he had made (it is another matter however that I don't support this decision and its a wrong one), but anyway.. once you have made a decision... that too on your own..(nobody forced him)... stick to it like a man... unless of course you have bigger reasons to stand against your own decision... in Manav's case.. the onus of doing justive to Archna, her happy future, the fact that she has suffered a lot due to his lack of trust and that she IS HIS responsibility even earlier than Sachin's baby or Shravani... hopefully we will see this in the coming episodes when the misunderstandings clear up...
Cos I believe the ultimate hero is not the one who doesn't make mistakes... the hero is one who stands firm on what he thinks is right, and doesn't mind accepting his mistake when he comes to know he was wrong, and corrects them to the best of his abilities.

Disclaimer: You are free to agree/disagree with the above views.. in a nutshell, I feel, even though his decision is wrong, Manav is not weak-willed or a quitter. He is just being strong-willed about what he thinks is right but what we all know is wrong. And under present circumstances I'm happy he didn't try to work on his marriage. Right now I just want him to know the whole truth first, bit by bit, the police complaint, Savita's tortures, Archu's true love, everything. And then work on his marriage and refuse Shravani both for the right reasons.

Apart from the above 4, I don't think there is anything else he cud have/ wud have done given his present circumstances... so no other options.. of course you are free to suggest more.

Shravani: I really don't know what to analyse about her.. she has been such a let down. She was introduced as a very independent and confident girl... now she is a miserable kitten and nothing else. She doesn't take responsibility of what she did wrong, but seeks support, at first she said she wud live alone with her child, she doesn't need anyone's help, the very next moment she accepts Manav's proposal, she knows Manav andArchana love each other and she is destroying their lives, but doesn't stand firm on her decision to move out. Each time when Manav or Archu stop her, she makes a show of self pity, "Main kahin na kahin chali jaungi..." why doesn't she say, don't worry my Dad is there and even I'm well educated and can take care.... the baby is mine anyway.

Savita: don't want to say anything about her

Damodar: What the hell has happened to him?? He brought Archu in grandly with all the Aarti etc. but didn't do anything when Savita pushed Archu around all day. Manav on the other hand stopped his Aai the very first time she did it in front of him. I hope Baba doesn't stop Archu from leaving . Hated the scene when they were all sitting quietly while Savita pushed Archu around and clutched her hands tightly.

Sulochana: Feeling very very sorry for her. Thats it.

How I want the track to develop:
1.) Archu shud concentrate on study and job
2.) Manav having seen Archu's goodness regarding Shravani, slowly finds truths about her.
3.) Finally finds out about his Aai.. blasts her.. breaks relations with her.
4.) Says NO to marriage saying he cannot do injustice with Archana as she has suffered a lot becos of him already.
5.) Asks Archu if she wud like to come back, cos he really wants her to come back... Archu makes her own decision YES/NO.

Thats it.. your comments wud be welcome, and you are free to disagree.

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Posted: 15 years ago
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How I want the track to develop:
1.) Archu shud concentrate on study and job
2.) Manav having seen Archu's goodness regarding Shravani, slowly finds truths about her.
3.) Finally finds out about his Aai.. blasts her.. breaks relations with her.
4.) Says NO to marriage saying he cannot do injustice with Archana as she has suffered a lot becos of him already.
5.) Asks Archu if she wud like to come back, cos he really wants her to come back... Archu makes her own decision YES/NO.

Thats it.. your comments wud be welcome, and you are free to disagree.

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Posted: 15 years ago
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Finally, one reply.. thanx!!
I guess my post was too long this time to find any takers.
Anyways.. hopefully by the end of this track you won't hate Manav so much.
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I completely agree.. Dont worry, we read your long posts with lot of enthusiasm,.
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I agree, but i really doubt it now .. Becoz in SBB, it was shown that Archu is back at manavs house, so it will be little different.. Manav will see Archus goodness and will change his decision...
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: nikitagmc

Finally, one reply.. thanx!!

I guess my post was too long this time to find any takers.
Anyways.. hopefully by the end of this track you won't hate Manav so much.

It Was a detailed post...lol
but yeah, all frustration aside, I'm hoping for the same thing. PR creatives are probably, at this very moment, heads huddled together, writing the most ultimate grovel track anyone has every seen..
I can not wait to see it. Seriousllyy...lol
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Wow Nikita, once again, really nice post!

I don't really have much to say, I agree with you on how the track should develop. Two of the main points for me though, are that a) the character of Manav evolves and shows some growth the way that Archana did, and b) ArMan get back together because they really WANT to and are willing to fight for it (Archana already has done so, Manav is going to take some time as he still has a whole lot of truth to find out about). I don't want to see them running back to each other because Shravani is out of the way, or because its convenient, or because the other wants it... they should be together because they both want to.

Really interesting post though, good job!

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Posted: 15 years ago
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Nicki , great analysis . I took time to reply as I wanted to give it undivided attention after a few daily jobs .
I agree with some points , don't agree with some .
I am seriously questioning Manav's love for Archana these days . he is only concerned about his promise , his words and his duty .
He is killing this girl and he knows it .Is his own character , his promise etc etc more important than Archana's life . What ever happened to love . Are you not suppose to keep her happy ...very basic but that is the truth .
Manav does not cares about Archana's life . Even today after looking for her all night he says something about not going to police and not wanting getting tortured rather than ,' if something had happened to you I would have died ' .
One thing I am absolutely sure of ' if doing good things for Shravani will make Manav care for Archana then thanks but no thanks ...
I will go with your 3rd option.
It's court's orders , have to be followed . If in this time due to some miracle Manav starts being nice to Archana then maybe I will change my thinking ....as ofnow , sorry
Manav has disappointed me very badly .
he doesn't even care about his dad . Gosh , you know I think his dad will go back to drinking , only to tach his son a lesson , but Manav is obsessed with Shravani . Forget Archana , even if his dad is rotting away manav will not care .Definitely he is more supportive of his mum.
Sorry dear , I know you love this guy , I used to as well but not anymore . I am still giving him time because of that foolish Archana . I was like sitting with fingers crossed that when he screams at her at the station and tells her to go back , she better tell him .....it's non of your business go and take care of your new wife to be and your mum . But no, the girl does exactly what he wants .
She is giving Manav the power to destroy her .Unintentionally ( or maybe because he just doesn't care ) that is exactly what he is doing .Her fans can do nothing but sit back and watch her getting destroyed in the name of Love .
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One thing that I completely agree with you Nicki is thank God he told her soon about Shravani and he told her himself , she did not hear it from someone else . He took her in the room , locked the door and then told her . I respect him for giving his wife at least this little bit dignity .
He may be thinking back as to the sweet things she said for him still makes no difference to him in the re . I think even if he finds out that she has did not file the complain , did not file for divorce , even then he will look the other way and still go with Shravani.
His going and looking for her was totally destroyed by his saying ' so now you want us tortured again .
For God sake man, have a heart . Just few hourse ago you crushed your wife's heart in many pieces .You told her about your second marriage , can you not be just this teenie weenie little bit nice to her . You are very nice to every one else .Why so damn horrid to her .
Keeps telling her ' all this is happening because of your mistake and sachin's mistake . Even when she is down in the dumps he is telling her that . Today I found him to be exceptionally cold towards Archana and his father .
He should have at least kept his hand on her shoulder , the way he did for Shravani or varsha , but I guess in his eyes Archana is not even worthy of this much sympathy.
you know what you say about the ultimate hero ,well manav is anything but that right now .
Edited by Tanyaz - 15 years ago

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